- 6 years ago
I have always wanted to have a long-distant relationship ever since I can remember. Maybe I am just a girl – maybe I fell in love with the pinkness and the intricate romance of it. I have always sat on the sidelines watching people fall in love. Being South African, I knew that the kind of man I wanted does not live here. I have dated black, white, indian, and even biracial South Africans but the seem to feel I am the problem. I assure you I am not. I maybe black, I may have been born in South Africa…but, uh, that’s like the only thing I have in common.
I grew up in the good old land of milk and honey and I am proudly indoctrinated by the Good Old USA. I am an American at heart. God further proved His point in education. Considering I spent several years in the South African education system, the only history, government, and literature I understand *save for the Englih* is American. I am totally cool with that.
Secondly, I am also one of those girls who have always preferred men outside of my race. A list of reasons but most of them was because from experience I got sick of being disrespected, being called a bitch and a whore, and made to feel like nothing from black man. It gets tired real quick. That is the book no one ever wrote. You always here about black men and white women or the sterotyped version of why black women love white men (yes, so maybe it is true they treat us like queens…but for me it’s about the sincerity. I mean, come on – where else can you find true chivalry, true genteelism, and true romance but with a cute white guy. And if you are really lucky, like myself, you can get a collaboration of a rainbow surprise.
My beautiful beloved is exactly that. Bit Spanish, Bit White, and his soul is as Black as Mos Def (heehee). So perfect for me because I am what they called an Oreo. But I don’t beleive in Oreos. I believe that we are are souls. And they are plenty bi-racial souls out there aka. Robin Thicke, Jon B. Cree Summer, Tia & Tamera (it takes one to know one, lol), etc.
Long story short, I am nine months in a long committed relationship and I am ever so grateful. I have found a man who is gorgeous and sexy and seriously makes my heart fall on the floor and my tongue licks it up just by seeing his athletic body. He is a spiritual man and a Catholic to match my sacred soul. He is fun, exciting, passionate and sensitive. He is everything and more I could ever dare to dream for a man for me. AndI praise God every night for his presence.