The benefits of being an "older" bride…

posted 2 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

kristinsbaker:  I’m 31 and my MOH ran a bachelorette idea passed me: brunch at her beautiful condo, limo transport to a day of wine trailing and back home for a nice dinner in the city.  

10 years ago it would have a been a sloppy, drunken debacle of plastic penises, tacky “BRIDE” crowns and sashes and taking photos with random men buying me shots…and I wouldn’t rememeber it! 

…we will, however, spring for the bridal party t-shirts or tanks 🙂  

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Ah, I love this – so true!! I’ll be 33 when I get married in October (my FI is 35), so we are definitely older than most, or at leats most of our friends.

I have the same mentality as just going with the flow and not stressing if something doesn’t work out as planned. I read the book “A Practical Wedding” and one of the things (of many!) that I took away from it was that you want to remember how your wedding felt, not how it looked. I am keeping things simple and really only focusing on what we think is important – not what we think others will think. Do I care that people will think about not doing anything other than what the hotel is providing for center pieces? Heck no! It’s not their money that they have to spend on this event, it’s mine… and if the centerpieces are included with the cost that we’re already paying – awesome!

And yes, we are not getting bothered a whole lot with advice on what do to, or what we should do. However, my mom is wanting to be involved like we need help. And as politely as I can tell her that we’re good, and that we’re adults in handling this – shemeans well, as I am her first daughter to get married.

I am definitely enjoying the process and am sure my FI is sick of me nagging him to make sure we have this done by this date, and that done by that date… but it’s the process and something that we’re involved in together. An experience. And when it’s over, I can definitely look back and know that everything I did was exactly what I wanted!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

 

kristinsbaker:  Great post!  I was also 36 when I got married this past October, and my husband was 43.  It was also first marriages for us both… and it was lovely and perfect!  The planning was drama free and great fun.  We, too, did it our way.  Kudos to you!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

HERE HERE! (from a 30 YO marrying a 37 YO).

 

Agree with all of the above. 

 

people keep asking if we’re stressed, and honestly?  No.  Wedding planning has been the least stressful thing.  There’s ups and downs, but no drama!  HUZZAH!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

kristinsbaker:  Great advice! I’m going to be 33 when I get married. Please keep in mind though that some brides, regardless of age, are still going to be picky about the exact shade of the flowers or whatever else. I don’t think being more easygoing or open-minded can necessarily be ascribed to age.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

kristinsbaker:  35 here, FI will be 35 in Aug. We also have the wisdom from this being a 2nd marriage. We are having a brunch reception, which sounds so much more fun to me than having a huge blow out party. Also, once the reception is over we can head to the hotel, have some alone time, we can go out that night if we want to or stay in. We can pretty much go wherever we choose. We are avid cruisers so there was no question, but we have several weeks (with the exception of Christmas) to do what we want. 

Agreed with the PP who said that the druken party just is not as much fun anymore. <br />Other things that make it easier for us, is us paying for it ourselves, again no one can actually tell you what to do. I encourage my daughters all the time to wait till they are older and learn from my wisdom. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

kristinsbaker:  36 here too and I’ll be getting married for first time in a few months. We went for our cake tasting last weekend and the lady was like so impressed by what we were not uptight about which was just about EVERYTHING! No fresh florals, no super-duper fancy things, no special requests, nada. Easy, peasy, 4 layers, white buttercream, lace design and done. D-O-N-E. Same with flowers. Florist was like, “what’s your favorite flower?” and I said, “whatever is in season!” So dahlias it is!

I’m not stuck on anything EXCEPT I did get very excited over the linens we chose (grey and white geometric print with plum napkins – sweetheart table shall be a blush sequin linen. Awesome!)

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