"The best day of my life" but mine wasn't

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Did something go wrong? Why wasn’t your wedding what you wanted?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I saw your recap and it looks amazing. The venue is gorgeous! what about the wedding didn’t you like?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@mylittleviolett:  Im really sorry to hear that but I disagree when you say that a vow renewal can’t make up for it.

Choose an amazing destination and do everything that you want to do just you and your partner and have a photographer to capture it and it will more than make up for it, it will replace some of your bad memories and the main thing is that it will be exactly what you are your partner want and without all the costs.

My weddings not until next year but its just going to be me, my partner and our son… were having a dream day in a magical location without all the costs and compromises. It will be exactly what we want so nothing to regret and our photos will hopefully be incredible. Were having hiring out a hall and doing a reception kind’ve thing when we get back but the wedding day will be about the three of us.

But try to remember taht the point of the wedding is the marriage, if you have a happy marriage then there is nothing to regret about the wedding.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Despite what this industry tells you – your wedding day is not supposed to be the best day of your life.   Something as subjective as “the best day of your life” is not an absolute and cannot be dictated by a set of rules.   So what do we end up getting?  Tons of brides being disappointed with their wedding because somebody told them they were to expect euphoria and perfection.   A bunch of horse poo if you ask me.

Now – none of that is your fault but what went wrong?  Did you have high expectations?  Did somebody let you down?  You ended up married to your man so you have to at least feel wonderful about that.  I’m sorry your day wasn’t what you had hoped.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Be more specific about what you wanted and what you did and what was disappointing?

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Casa de España

@mylittleviolett:  Sweetie! I think that society puts a lot of pressure in what our weddings should be like, but at the end we have to deal with what we actually have. Many weddings come with BIG loans that in the end put pressure on the marriage. To me, the most important thing is to actually have the opportunity to have a special someone in your life that understands you and makes you happy. The wedding is just a day. My FI and I are doing our wedding with what we have. We just want to have a special moment for us. I loved your pictures, your wedding was full of love. That is the ultimate reason to have a wedding, celebrating your love. I for one want a marriage bigger than my wedding. Embrace your marriage. Hope my humble advise helps. 🙂

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You should never focus on any one day being the happiest of your life because it’s just unrealistic.  Everyday you should be happier than the last…that’s the way life is supposed to be.  Don’t dwell on the insignificant when there is so much to be enjoyed in life.

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Why would you want your wedding day to be the happiest day of your life?  That means every other day isn’t as spectacular…when in reality, that’s not how life works.  Just focus on how great it is that you’re married.

I don’t like my wedding pictures, but I can’t go back in time to change that.  So…whatever.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

@peachacid:  +1

the happiest day of your life isn’t just one single day for most folks, and sometimes is just random and unplanned. A wedding is just one day and if it’s not perfect, it doesn’t matter because you’ll have lots of other perfect days ahead.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mylittleviolett:  you live, you learn. There are a looooot of things I wish I knew earlier in my life 🙂 if it makes you feel better, I had a dream wedding the first time and a cheating d-bag husband. This time my SO is perfect and the wedding will be on the courthouse steps 🙂 I assume you have the important part! 🙂

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