Post # 1
Out of curiosity, do you feel that your orgasms are stronger / more intense / more pleasurable WITH your guy or just flying solo? I’m not talking about the feel-good, skin-on-skin pleasure, but the actual O itself.
For me, my orgasms are so wimpy with him compared to when I’m alone. We even have a pretty good sex life – I’d give it an 8/10 – but there’s something a bit mediocre with my orgasms with him. Once we’re together more often I want us to talk about it more – right now we’re only able to have sex on the weekends, and his pretty low sex drive means just once in that weekend.
Last summer when I had time off from work and we were able to do it more often, we were much more in sync, and when we were first sleeping together (over a year ago), I could hardly even orgasm on my own anymore. Now it’s switched.
Should I be concerned?
Post # 3
It really depends for me. I get off much more easily when I take care of myself because I know exactly what I and how I like it. This doesn’t mean FI doesn’t take care of business though. He does make me reach the big O, but it depends on what we’re doing and such. Dirty talk and watching him really set me off.
Post # 4
I can get off more quickly by myself but the longer build-up when DH is bringing me to O makes it that much better once he gets me there.
Post # 5
i had to vote other, because the method of stimulation is so different. alone, stimulation is 100% external, and with FI, 98% of the time it’s internal, and while the end game is an orgasm in both cases, the method of arrival really does affect the overall mood or feel of the orgasm. while the external stimulation often results in a more intense end, it’s also more superficial and peters out very quickly. internal is a more mellow end, but also lasts longer and seems to have an overall deeper effect (often reducing me to a puddle-like state, lol).
that said, the once in a blue moon i get one from dual stimulation (which only occurs with FI) is by far the best. 🙂
ok, re-reading that, i sound a bit like a freak. i don’t know how else to descibe it though.
Post # 7
If I’m 100% honest, my SO has given me 5 in 2 and a half years, I very seldom feel much during, not sure why, figure it’s cos SO has ME so foreplay isn’t always an option. I tend to pretend to like it more than I do so I don’t knock his confidence
Post # 8
@cardus: You don’t sound like a freak at all, you’re very good with words. What a great way to describe the differences. I told FI the other night that I felt like melted wax, lol.
Post # 9
i’m a clitoris stimulation girl, so just sex on its own does nothing for me. lol poor FI but we have sex anyways
Post # 10
@cardus: Lol that’s about where I am, too. When I get myself off, it comes hard and fast, but then I can immediately get up and walk around and go about my business. When DH gets me off (usually a combination of internal and external stimulation), it takes longer, but the orgasm goes on longer, I get aftershocks for a good 10 or 15 minutes afterwards, and I usually have trouble walking. More than once I’ve stumbled on my way to the bathroom because my knees are so weak.
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Post # 13
@cardus: DITTO!!!! You described the differences exactly… whether it is him or me they are not better- but very, very DIFFERENT
Post # 14
I thought i was the only one that had a “variety” of O’s! I can make myself quicker then he can, and i have a lot of what I call “mini” O’s with him…but when he gives me a big one, it can peel wallpaper off the walls. It also depends on my mood, etc etc.
Post # 15
@missashley884: Same here, clitoris only, but he tries lol Normally before or after he orgams, I get myself taken care of with some help from him.
Post # 16
I used to be a clitoris only gal in my 20’s. Then in my 30’s my G-spot appeared from nowhere. DH hits my g-spot when we to the deed, so it’s not unusual for me to O 3-30 times in one session. But they are different and not as strong from when I do it myself, but after about 10 of them, I’m a basket of mush. But when I do it myself, I usually do one or two and they are super strong.