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- Wedding: March 2014 - Narrawallee reserve/beach & Mollymook golf club
It’s been a while since I was pregnant – approximately 3 months now. I do remember quite clearly the instant that I hit my 3rd trimester everyone and anyone around me who had ever been pregnant feeling it was their place to describe to me in detail how horrific and painful their birthing experience was.
And there it is. The biggest myth. That giving birth WILL always be a horrible experience and that it is something women should fear.
Yes, you should be prepared that it will hurt to some degree, but it really is incredible how much strength you can muster with the right support around you. There are plenty of options available if you feel the pain is rising above your threshold. Know that they are there if you really need them, and if it’s too late (this happened to me when I requested pethadine) then it’s almost over. Labour was harder for me to endure personally than the actual delivery. They are 2 totally unrelated types of pain and when they’re both over you instantly feel a whole world better.
My experience involved no fear. I had 2 puffs of gas which did nothing for my back labour, and made me feel sick so I stopped. Don’t get me wrong – Labour did not tickle. It was not easy. It was exhausting but having the right support person there got me through with no further medication. Delivery was exhausting as well, although in my case significantly less painful. When did the pain stop? The INSTANT his head was out. One more push to get his shoulders out and I just had this relaxed sensation rush through my entire body. Would I do it again? In a heart beat. In fact, I actually look forward to it!
Good luck Mummas! May you all have positive births and babies more beautiful than you could ever have imagined!
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@Mollie-Rose: Thank you for posting this!! I think there is way too much fear surrounding birth and it takes away from the beauty of what it is. I plan to have a natural birth and feel very confident in my body and my own ability to conquer it. We’ll see what happens, but I am definitely not afraid at all. Looking forward to the experience, actually!
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@Mollie-Rose: Thanks for sharing! That was wonderful to read. I’m all about the positivity and trying to stay away from pessimism. Glad to hear it worked well for you!
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@Mollie-Rose: Thanks for this post. 🙂 Sometimes people look at me like I have three heads when I say I’m not nervous about labor. I actually look forward to it.
I’m glad you had a beautiful experience.
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@Mollie-Rose: Thanks for posting! As someone who has no kids but plans to TTC soon, I’m SO SICK of hearing everyone under the sun bitch about how terrible birth is. Of course it’s not a cakewalk, but I think it’s ridiculous for people to say that EVERY person has a miserable painful terrible birth. To me, that’s right along with people who talk about how miserable being pregnant is. Yes, for some people it’s miserable and they don’t enjoy it – but I know plenty of people who loved being pregnant and really had no issues.
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In the back of my mind I always kind of assumed this, becuase I always thought…how could all these other women I know go through it(and mutilple times for some) if this was so horrible. Thank you for reaffirming that, I oddly look forward to it as well =)
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That was beautiful!!!! I agree wholeheartedly.
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Thanks for posting this… Yesterday was my due date, and I am still pregnant! So reading this was a nice way to start my day 🙂
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@Mollie-Rose: Just want to say thank you so much for posting this. There truly is a lot of fear that tries to be instilled in pregnant women, and that is the last thing we need in the last weeks of pregnancy. Your reassurance that my body can do this and it will be ok has been great to finally hear. Thank you! *hugs*
Post # 11
What a great message, thank you for sharing!
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Thanks for sharing! I have gotten a lot of flak from people who think I am crazy for wanting a natural childbirth. Yes, it will hurt, it’s labor. But it’s a natural thing! My mom did it, her mom did it, generations of women before them did it…
I was watching One Born Every Minute and it really bothered me to see the majority of the women just sitting there, numb and waiting for a doctor to tell them when to push. I want to be an active participant in my child’s birth, and no matter what anyone tells me, I believe I CAN handle it!
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@Mollie-Rose: You are so incredilbly amazing and sweet for posting this. After I took my childbirth/pain management clasess I felt more at ease of what’s coming and my options, but it’s so great to hear it from someone who just went through it. Thank you for sharing your experience.
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@Mollie-Rose: Thank you for posting this! It always concerns me when women complain so much about labor and birth. It seems like everyone has to one up each other with how long/painful/complicated their experience was, when pregnancy and birth are experiences that we should be supporting each other through.
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I think that it’s pretty much always a bad idea to say that any experience will always be bad/good. Birth is really hard on some people and pretty easy on some people and it’s difficult to know which one you’ll be until it happens.
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@Mollie-Rose: I had a drug free birth and honestly, I’ve had migraines that hurt me worse.
The majority of mine was back labor, and I was a bit torn up, but it wasn’t ever bad enough that I felt the need to scream and cry.