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The Biggest No No - Trying on another dress, if you already purchased one!

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    wescarley    September 3, 2011   Seattle, Washington

    So here is my dilemma.

    Last year around this time - i was shopping with my fiance's (boyfriend at the time) cousin, and she had this crazy idea to go try on wedding gowns for fun. She picked one, i picked one - and we went back to the dressing rooms. I put the dress on, looked in the mirror, and wanted to CRY. I LOVED it! It fit me so well, and I thought it would be "THE ONE" if and when that day would come. They wouldn't let us take pictures, but I snuck one in the dressing room. I was smiling from ear to ear, and didn't want to take it off.

    The Biggest No No - Trying on another dress, if you already purchased one! :  wedding dress wedding gown 13320 365671269582 504389582 3426418 3186289 N

    A year later, we are happily engaged! As soon as he popped the question, I knew I wanted to try on this dress again. It was the first store I went to - but they said they wouldn't have this dress in stock until late January. I was sad, but happy to try on other dresses and see what I like and what I don't. I tried on a bunch of dresses at different stores, and didn't like anything. I kept thinking about this dress in the back of my mind.

    But then...I found a dress that WOW'd me! It was something different, elegant, and beautiful. Something I probably would never try on but my consultant thought I would look good in, so I tried it on, and LOVED it. This is my dress - purchased in November.

    The Biggest No No - Trying on another dress, if you already purchased one! :  wedding dress wedding gown Alluregown1

    The Biggest No No - Trying on another dress, if you already purchased one! :  wedding dress wedding gown Alluregown2

    I fell in love with this dress - and decided I probably just loved the other dress because it was the first wedding gown I have ever tried on. Everything was going good, until I recieved a call that the other dress was in and could come try it on. I wasn't going to - because I told myself I don't need any stress or "what if's" about 2 wedding gowns. But, I couldn't resist and went and tried it back on.

    This is THE OTHER DRESS:

    The Biggest No No - Trying on another dress, if you already purchased one! :  wedding dress wedding gown IMG00956 20110122 1456

    The Biggest No No - Trying on another dress, if you already purchased one! :  wedding dress wedding gown IMG00957 20110122 1456

    I fell in love with it ALL over again! It is everything I want in a dress. So now I am torn between 2 dresses, and don't know what to do. Has anyone had this problem before? Should I stick with my original purchase, or buy a 2nd dress - which was the one I fell in love with in the beginning?

     
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    SoontobeMrsA    June 2012   MA/NH line

    The dress you originally loved is a lot sexier than the other one.

     
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    kingytobe    June 26, 2011  

    I MAY have a solution for you which is what I'm doing with my dress.. Get the top cut into a sweetheart and the sides taken in at the thigh.. then you have almost the same dress that you originally loved. You look beautiful in both though!

     
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    Loreleis_Song    October 31, 2012   Virginia

    Oh wow, that original dress is amazing! I can see why you fell head over heels for it.

     
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    eloping    May 23, 2010  

    you look great in both dresses - my preference is the dress you have already purchased as im not a fan of the the skirt/pickups on dress #2

     

     
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    kperry3    January 1, 1991  

    Aw they both look so pretty! I love them :) And they are definitely different (though there are some similarities). I think the fabrics must be different since one is more flowy than the other one. Honestly, I like the second one as well! But I don't think I could go and buy another dress... definitely can't afford that. If you can, and that's the dress you want, go for it! But I think you'll be happy with either choice. Plus, you'll only wear it once right?

     
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    franks.katie    April 23, 2011   Spring, TX (DW in Destin, FL)

    I think the one you purchased looks better :-)

     
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    brideatbeach    June 4, 2011  

    They are both pretty, but the original is prettier.

    I did the same thing: bought another dress after finding the perfect one. It was a stupid call, and I ended up losing fifty bucks because I had to resell it on Oncewed to some lucky girl who got a better deal than I did. :)

     
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    Mrs Grape    December 10, 2010  

    I like the first one more. The second one looks sort of like the dress I wore to prom in '06. (Not even joking--pick-ups were huge that year.)

     
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    meliss    May 31, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    I like your original dress better. They both look great on you, but there's a fondant-like look to the skirt of the second dress I'm not crazy about.

     
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    mrsawesome09    June 5, 2011   Madison, WI

    I like the first one a lot better....I'm not a fan of pick-ups.  I would stick with the one you purchased, it's so romantic and pretty.  Good luck making your decision!

     
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    Future Mrs. Miller    December 2, 2016  

    I like the first one better, You can always have both and have one as a ceremony dress and one as a reception dress :)

     
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    Helstrong    April 9, 2011   Overland Park, KS

    I think they both look good!  But I love the one you bought in November.  Good luck!

     
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    budgetbride07    May 7, 2011  

    I absolutely love the one that you purchased.

     
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    brady3537    September 4, 2011  

    I love your original dress wayyyyy better! It's so elegant.  

     
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    Gingersnap    August 2000   Ontario, Canada

    I like them both equally, they're both so pretty. But the question is: how do you want to look on your wedding day; romantic or sexy? Romantic is dress #1, sexy is dress #2.

     
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    goldelox84    April 30, 2011  

    To be honest I think the original dress is much more beautiful.

     
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    GI Josephine    July 14, 2012   Cleveland, Ohio

    I like the one you have already purchased!

     
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    lauren810c    August 21, 2010   NYC

    I love the original dress on you!

     
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    shushu1208    June 18, 2011  

    I love the first one on you!  It looks perfect!

     
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    AmuseMeMusically       Oklahoma

    I think the one you actually bought is way better. To me, pickups are already starting to look way dated, and nine months isn't going to help that.

     
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    bells    June 26, 2011  

    I agree that if you convert the dress u bought into a sweetheart and make it a bit more fitted over the hips it will look more like the original dress

     
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    MissTatas    August 6, 2011   Minneapolis, MN

    @Mrs Grape: yes they were. I work in prom and I am so glad to see that trend coming to an end or done more elegantly (like a lot of Maggie Sottero gowns)

    OP- I like the first dress you pictured better. It is a more current style and I think the organaza is so romantic!

     
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    melisslp    July 3, 2010   St. Louis, MO

    @wescarley - You look amazing in both gowns.  However, I would vote for the gown that you purchased.  I think it's more romantic and elegant!  If you love the sweetheart neckline of the original gown, ask a seamstress if it would be possible to modify it.  You'll look lovely!!!

     
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    RayRayFurious    May 2013   NJ

    Keep the dress you bought! It's gorgeous and fits great on you!

     
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    s_h_e_l_b_s    May 8, 2010  

    You look gorgeous in the first dress!!!!

     
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    PurpleUnicorn    April 19, 2011  

    i TOTALLY like the first dress better and all i think it needs is a sweetheart neckline.  but i will openly admit my bias - my dress is maggie sottero Jenna, much more similar to your first dress.  i also think the first (purchased) dress is more flattering on you.  BUT the original one that you love is very pretty too and looks good.  so if your heart is set on it, i say follow your heart and sell the one you have.  shouldnt be too hard since its so pretty! and in style like other PPs have said.

     
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    Monica113    May 18, 2011  

    IF i were you, I'll choose the original one. It is goegrous and fits you well!!

     
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    Mrs.Williams    August 27, 2011   CT

    I love the first dress better the flowy feel looks so much sexier and it fits you beautifully. I think you should go with your first instinct. The first dress is definitely it!

     
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    Tay82810    August 28, 2010  

    I love the first (original - satin) dress! Your shape looks phenomenal in it :-)

    Could I ask what designer/style number it is? I have a newly engaged friend who is looking for something just like it!

    THANKS!

     
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    helenc32    September 10, 2011   Florida

    I love them both but if I had to chose I would go with the one you already bought. It is beautiful! Good luck with your decision. Please post and let us know which one you choose. :-)

     
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    kitzy    June 2011  

    i like the dress you bought a lot better on you. i would alter the neckline into a sweetheart, but it's way more flattering on your body than the original dress.

     
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    Seahorse78    May 7, 2011  

    I like the first dress ( the one you bought already) a LOT more than the second dress!

    Ans personally, I like the 'straight' neckline more than the sweetheart neckline. I think it's more modern.

     

     
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    pengoala    September 4, 2011  

    Girl, your dilemma is a lot like the one I had before I bought my dress!  I was choosing between a fitted dress (Anjolique 1020) and the fuller dress with pickups and a beautiful train (Maggie Sottero's Kendra).  In the end, I chose the fitted, sexier dress because of how amazing I felt in it.  I'm with a lot of the girls here - perhaps you can consider changing the neckline to a sweetheart and you will have a dress extremely similar to the first one!  Good luck!

     
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    FutureMrs.Wood    July 30, 2011   Pittsburgh, PA

    The one you originally loved is so rich looking, and it also looks truly amazing on you!  The one you bought is nice, too, but wow, I love the dress you originally thought was the one, which is saying a lot because I'm not really a fan of pick-ups!

     
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    wescarley    September 3, 2011   Seattle, Washington

    I forgot to add something - I am altering the Purchased Gown to a Corset Back. It fit really great, but I do plan on losing weight, so with the corset I will be able to have that tighter, sexier look. It will be similar to the picture below.

    The Biggest No No - Trying on another dress, if you already purchased one! :  wedding dress wedding gown 2419B

    Allure wouldn't do the sweetheart neckline, not sure if I should trust anyone else to do it, since the designer didn't feel comfortable doing it.

     

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