(Closed) The boy who cried "proposal".

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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585 posts
Busy bee

Yeahhhhh… I think that’s a little mean lol. By his comment about surprising you I don’t think he meant that he literally planned that all out… sounds more like he was just joking about how you were expecting something and he was teasing you.

Don’t read too much into everyday stuff. 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@purpleginger:  That’s definitely mean, but what he said to you was just as bad. I’d be pretty dang upset about that too. It’s like dangling a carrot in front of a horse.  
My question though is why would you even get your own hopes up knowing that he doesn’t have a job and he’s inferred that he wouldn’t propose unless he has a job/has been working for a while? It seems to me that that’s almost like torturing yourself!
My advice would be to just sit back and wait. His answer that you’d probably be engaged by now if he was working shows that he thinks it will happen at some point (and with you) should be enough for you to hold on to. 
Coming from his side – it’s stressful enough trying to find a job and you’re adding to the stress by pressuring him to get a job so that he can propose. I think from his perspective that’s sort of putting the cart before the horse. He probably feels shitty enough already being unemployed, but probably even shittier feeling like he can’t give you what you want.   

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I like the way you think! 

My ex used to turn over and bed and look at me all sweet and say “Will you…. get me a sandwich?”  I kicked him in the junk.  Figured he wouldn’t need it.

Post # 9
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3689 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

If it were me, there would be no more oral until I got a proposal.  I’d save that for the private engagement celebration.  But I’m mean like that.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@purpleginger:  When my (now) FI proposed it shocked the hell out of me. I could not have been more surprised. And it felt AWESOME. I knew he’d bought the ring, I knew he had it with us on vacation to see my parents, and I sort of assumed he’d do it during a small trip we took with my parents and my brother. And even though I knew it was coming, he switched it up and did it when I least expected it. And I LOVE that he did. Knowing it was coming had almost taken some of the excitement out of it, and having him surprise me the way he did was just so thrilling. My point is that you should just enjoy his love for you, trust that he wants to marry you at some point, and let him totally overwhelm you with a surprise proposal. It really was worth waiting for, I promise.

Post # 11
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585 posts
Busy bee

Ohhhh a fake proposal would be SO MEAN!!! I would kill him lol.

Post # 12
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6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

@purpleginger:  I think you should do it. I would, that’s hilarious. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander and all.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@EffieTrinket:  Seconded. I was going to say the same thing. 

 

@EffieTrinket:  Yo, what’s up with the name change? 

Post # 14
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530 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves

@purpleginger:  Oh no if he did it on purpose then he deserves punishment..

I’ve heard a joke like this but the wife gets her husband all worked up and ready for sex and then pulls the “I have a headache” card, in revenge the husband lets her go crazy the next day at the mall picking everything she wants letting her think he’lll buy it for her and then tells her he’s tired and leaves without paying.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Well…hm. I am trying to find a way to say this that you won’t take as rude because I totally do NOT mean it that way. But have you ever thought that maybe if you don’t build up insignificant things into massive ” OMG this is IT!” moments then you wouldn’t be so disapointed? I can assure you no man, unless his girlfriend tells him, knows or cares it is his x year and x month anniversary. A year anniversary, birthday and Valentine’s Day? Yes. I am sure waiting is torture, but try and not make it harder on yourself by thinking if he bends to tie his shoes he is getting down on one knee, ykwim? 🙂 It WILL happen, hang in there chickadee!

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