(Closed) The bridesmaids I want… and the obligations…

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who should I have as my bridesmaids? (If money wasn't an issue)
    Just have your first choices : (14 votes)
    88 %
    Include your old friend and cousin : (2 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee

    I don’t think a promise you made at age 12 is something you can be held to. Choose who you want. I can’t imagine these girls asking about it- it would be extremely rude. 

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I’m not really sure why it would be so bad to have five bridesmaids anyway.

    Generally the bride isn’t expected to pay for the bridesmaids’ dresses (but it’s usually considered nice to try to choose something affordable), so I imagine you’d probably just be paying for their bouquets.

    Our bridesmaids’ bouquets were $35 each, so adding two girls onto your bridal party is only another $70, give or take.

    Post # 5
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    132 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I mad e asimiler pact with my best friend from highschool. In the end I decided it was so not worth trying to keep a pact I made so many years ago. I didn’t want a huge bridal party and I wanted my sisters who are my best friends now. She hasn’t even mentioned it. 

    Post # 7
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    Newbee

    I have always thought to myself that bridesmaids should be those who are important to you at this time in your life and that you should not feel obligated to have someone in your bridal party. It doesn’t sound like your old friend and cousin will react badly if you don’t ask them 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    @Me_and_MrJones:  Interesting… I had no idea that the customs are so different!

    Post # 9
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    4429 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @Me_and_MrJones:  choose wisely ; ) i asked a few i should not have and now i have the task of figuring out if i still want them in my party ; ( that part sucks.

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @Me_and_MrJones:  you could have 2 flower girls one from your side and one from his side

    Post # 11
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Childhood bridesmaid pacts should be banned 🙂 I don’t think you’re bound by them. And since you’re no longer close I don’t think those girls should be BMs. Personally I think 3 BMs is perfect,

    Only have your sister as FG. Once you get to the cousins, if you have one you’ve got to have them all to be fair. (Otherwise there is almost certain to be drama). But only having your sister is fine because she’s a closer relative.

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2005

    It’s your wedding so it’s your choice.  Do what you want, if anyone feels bad about it you can’t help that and truthfully I doubt they will.  If you still spoke to that friend it would be a different matter but you don’t.  On your wedding day you want those closest to you standing by your side.

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