Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2014 - Paradise Gardens
What about you MAY BRIDES? I think the BRIDEZILLA in me has come out multiple times in the past few weeks for the following reasons:
- I am dealing with people who are reniging on my discounts/coupons because our wedding is on a peak day during prom season. Ummm who’s fault is that …not mine!!! If you’re not gunna honor coupons because of blocked out dates you should have those date ranges indicated SOMEWHERE! Please and Thank you!
- Vendors not responding to my delightful emails in a timely manner when I am trying to finalize decisions. Excuse me, but I am tryign to make your job easier so you don’t have to scramble around the week before my wedding! Perhaps my 24-48 hour turnaround time for emails is a tad bit too much to ask… but I DON’T CARE I need answeres/responses So I take the time to bug people with my phone calls-which interrupts gym time.Everybody knows a MAY brides need to get their gym time in.
- All of the vendors wanting to schedule final appointments the week of my wedding! Welp that doesn’t work for ME… I want to be relaxing, pampering myself, prepping, and spending time with my out of town guests! I want to finalize all the bells and whistles in early MAY or late April…I’m not the type to waver when it comes to decsion making..so let’s make it happen ppl.
- Vendors trying to tac on an extra $25-$50 here for this or that! NO NO no That will not work although I have payed most of our tab…I have a budget and I’d like to stick to it. I don’t want to owe one more extra penny to anyone….GOSH people take the nicke and diming to a whole new level.
I think I could go on if I sat and pondered..but I won’t! Promise the coast is clear my rant is over. Now share your Bridezilla
moments May brides!!!
I’m not the only one playing it cool
crazy am I?
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
@BreezyBride24: I am feeling more stressed for sure! My worst moment was when I tried to set up a meeting with our reception coordinator and she told me everything that I need to take care of myself because she doesn’t do that…but the previous coordinator (who we started with and loved!! I am so sad she left) did handle. So now I had to coordinate lighting and linens on my own which I was not expecting. Additionally…
We sent out invites…FMIL calls to tell FI she got hers but she still has about 10-20 more people to add to the guest list. Erm..no? We’re done. Unless we get like 40 declines, no more people are being invited. I’m a bit afraid she’ll just tell them to come anyway.
Our hotel block is sold out, our entire hotel is sold out! Not my fault and I’m glad so many people booked early but don’t blame me for not building a bigger hotel! LOL. There are plenty of other options, two of which are still walking distance.
On the POSITIVE side…
All them men finally got fitted for their tuxedos!!
My first shower is this Sunday!! – Downside, it’s still FREEZING here..which so does not go with my shower dress. LOL
Post # 4
I’m with you.
I just found out there’s a problem with my bar – shouldn’t be a big deal but the caterer told me thursday, said he’d let me know after the weekend, I’ve heard nothing. I emailed him at 4:00 yesterday (21 hours ago) still nothing, and I’m annoyed – tyring not to be, but I am.
I wrote my to-do list on our hall closet mirror (which can be seen from the couch when watching TV) so FH is aware of the 1000 details that have to be done.
Tuxes aren’t confirmed – he’s not worried, I know how long it will probably take to get his guys measured – they’re not the most reliable.
Almost lost my shit when my uncle called saying he tried to book a room in our block (at the hotel FH works at) and was told there was no block – even though Fh assured me it was being done after me mentioning it regularly for the last 6 months.
The list of things annoying me right now is rather long…I’m just trying to not take it out on anyone execpt the bee 🙂
Post # 5
I can. not. stand the late replies!! I don’t get it! 24-48 hours is more than a reasonable amount of time. I had to hassle my bakery three times until I finallly heard back from them! That was 2 emails and a phone call. Ugh!
Post # 6
Not a May bride but totally with you. Something about unresponsive vendors really brings out my inner bridezilla. And I am normally such an easygoing person. But I have had to ask my FI to deal with a couple situations for me because I felt like I was going to lose it on someone.
I really think most vendors must thrive on the last-minute chaos- whereas I need my day planned down to the minute so I know I’ve got all my bases covered!
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2014 - alder manor
@BreezyBride24: My FH called me Bridezilla for the first time last week, so hmmmmmmm yes, she has arrived!
Post # 8
I finally got a little bridezilla on our photographers yesterday. They do great work, but go on & on about how they’re into candid shots and don’t work from lists of “must-have” photos…and I do love their style but have a handful of posed family shots (like seriously, five) I want to have which I don’t think is too much to ask. After crafting a delicately worded email for about 20 minutes, finally I thought you know what, I am paying you $4,000, and you are going to take photos of whatever in the hell I say you are. I’m done being sweet, I am paying these vendors a lot of money and I’m going to have to speak up for myself.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2014 - Paradise Gardens
@blushpinkbride: Ohh I like your attitude! You are so right… you’re getting paid for a job so incorporate the customers request by any means neccessary! I’m glad you put them on notice.
@Merlin29: TeHhehHE my hunny is actually very understanding about my rants… its quite funny becuase usually he isn’t. But when he sees I have great logic and reasoning behind my maddness he jumps on board and helps me figure out my next move with them. Ya know phone call or email…and what should actually be said! Oh I just luv him!
@kestane: Sigh…unresponsiveness kills me to my core. I would never do that to any of my customers regardless of how annoying they may be. And you best believe I’ll be posting my reviews any and everythwere I can after the wedding!And I am for sure going to let them know. And FIs are good for slamming down the hammer when you’re about to flip…I’ve used that trump card a few times myself .
@TaraMay_: Yes YES and Yes! I’m having a similar issue with our caterer about our cake! I just can’t with them…they said they would discuss my requests and give me an update after this past weekend. Have I received a response… NOPE! I will be sending a nasty little email shortly and theb be calling them tomorrow and scratchign gym time!!!GrRrrR
@MsGinkgo: I love the mirror idea I wish I could do somethign similar, so my hunny can know how serious the to do list is! Don’t you just love when you “mention” things way in advance and still nothing gets done… hopefully the hotel block situation gets sorted out ASAP as that’s nothing to play with. Bright side is this is the first and last time we’ll have to plan such an extravegant wedding and depend on so many ppl to help get it done. Let the countdown to freedom begin…literally.
@Ms_Purple: Yes keep looking at the positive sides of things. Overall I’m pretty ahppy with how the planning is going…but some ppl are testing my patience to say the least. Sounds like mama hen over there needs to take a seat and relax instead of throwing more gusts your way. You might want to explain to her how much each head costs. Dollars and cents seems to help most people see reality for what it is.
Ohh ladies thank you for sharing your moments with me –I’m keeping my fingers crossed that we have ZERO moments on the wedding day and we relax in all our glory and bliss of the wonderfull day we have planned And like blushpinkbride said we can and we will get our way ….I mean WE did pay for it afterall!
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2014 - Beach
I got all bridezilla this week too lol for those reasosns:
-Brothers wife sent me a picture of a dress she is considering on wearing. The dress is WHITE and long and very similar to mine. I’m having an outdoor beach wedding thats why i’m wearing basically a white long dress very simple. So i have asked her (politley) if maybe she would have something else rather than white.
She said she’ll look. I think its very rude. She always wants to be the center of attention well not at my wedding you’ll be lol
-I wanted to go somewhere with my girls as a last trip/bachelorette. For financial reasons one of my very close friend couldnt go. So I said not to worry will do it like a day trip or something like that cause i wouldnt want to do anything without her. Now i found out she is going out of town with her college friends!. So im really pissed but havn’t said anything
-my coorinator didnt asnwer my phone calls for 5 days straight till now and i’m going crazy.
Post # 11
We are having rehersal issues currently. You would think that with the three priests involved with our wedding ONE would be available for our rehersal. I’m totally freaking out because my uncle who is a priest said he may not be able to get down for our wedding the night before. When we first talked, he said that he would be down at 5:30 the night before. We scheduled our rehersal dinner in the LAST room at the space, and now it looks like we may not have a rehersal to go with our rehersal dinner.
My mom is also very instistant on a full mass, but won’t help me find/ask the people I need to be there for a full mass. We need alter servers and EMs. The people we would need to ask would either be family friends or kids of family friends. My mom sees these people weekly, but I only see them twice a year (Christmas and Easter when I’m home). I have asked my mom repeatedly since mass is a big deal to her, but not to me, to ask these people. School is out when we are getting married, so these people may be on vacation. My mom hasn’t asked anyone, and we are three months out. I’m about ready to scream!!!!!
Post # 12
All the things.
The timeline for the wedding reception
Figuring out the songs for the Mass
The fact that my mother, who holds the purse strings, has been out of town for a week and won’t be back until the 4th and we have so much stuff that needs to get done and things that need to be signed and she’s on vacation! And I don’t want to be rude and suck all of her vacation time.
Post # 13
@myweddingbee: ugh I can’t even with your brother’s wife. WHITE!?!? And “I’ll look”?? It is NOT that hard to find a dress that isn’t white. Some people!!
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2014 - Paradise Gardens
I got my answer about my cake… you knwo the one I’ve been searching for—for WEEKS! I threatened to CALL her…bahahah
Here it is (the top 3 layers):
Post # 14
BreezyBride24: That is gorgeous!