Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
This question is part of our blog and boards series, The Buzz, where we poll the hive for great advice and ideas and run a selection of helpful answers on the blog. Read more about the series here, and a couple of our first The Buzz posts: Saving for your first home and Length of dating before getting engaged.
We want to know:
How did you know your SO was about to propose? If you’re the one who proposed, how did you know it was time?
Lend your helpful tips and advice to the community, and we’ll feature answers on the blog throughout this month!
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
He told me! He had had a terrible day at work, and as we were walking through the door, he said, “I’d really like to propose. Is that okay?” I was sort of confused and said “Do whatever you like, Dear.” …I changed into my jammies and was loading the dishwasher when I turned to put a plate in and there he was, on one knee, with my ring. He said, “Coming home to you is the best part of my day, and I want that every day.” And he proposed. Right after telling me he was going to! Pretty classic, right? We had been together for 5 years, and we picked out the ring together.
Post # 4
DH made plans, he never makes plans, he leaves that up to me. I didn’t know for sure, because I thought we were going to wait until we were done school. We did a bunch of fun stuff, I forgot about the slight suspicion I had and went home. He waited until I changed into comfy clothes, so by then I had no idea!
Post # 5
DH is a planner, so I knew when the time came to be serious, he would probably research rings for about 6 months. First sign came when I noticed a ton of diamond ads on his computer (thanks internet advertising!). Then my two best girlfriends started to get a little weird. Then one night he randomly asked me my opinions on white vs yellow gold, trying to disguise it as a question about my college ring, which is yellow gold.
Finally, about a month after I started suspecting someting, he asked me to take that Friday off work. We had a Christmas party to attend that Thurs. night, so I didn’t suspect too much, I figured he just wanted to have a really good time, lol. Then Wednesday evening he tells me to leave work a little early on Thursday because he wants to grab coffee before the Christmas party. Now ladies, we are homebodies. We don’t “just go grab coffee,” especially not at the place we first met. I knew that instant. I was so giddy all day that Thursday, and I picked a really nice dress to wear. DH recreated our first date and proposed on a secluded little bench near the coffee shop where we met. 🙂
Post # 6
@Mrs. Mouse: I didn’t know. the entire thing was a surprise.
I know I will get flamed for this, but if you go shopping with your SO for the ring, it ruins the element of surprise-and I always get told that the surprise is when he actually proposes bc you don’t know when he is going to do it. But, the thing is, you are not suppose to suspect at all. Or, there is the explanation that their SO’s don’t have good taste in jewlery, even after you spoke about what kind of ring you want, they still end up getting what you didn’t want-so I can understand why some women HAVE to go shopping.
For me, it was totally out of left field. I had no idea that he was shopping/designing a ring for me.
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Mrs. Mouse: He told me (in October) that he had a Christmas gift in his closet so I couldn’t go snooping around. He does not buy Christmas gifts until December 20th at the earliest… 😉
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
We had been discussing marriage for a few months and I had made sure to mention the things that I liked in a ring just in case (white gold, smaller diamonds, no halos, etc). My birthday was coming up and he had been getting very secretive with his texts and had been calling his sister a lot, so I started to get suspicious. Then he told me that he was getting me a big present for my birthday, but it wouldn’t be in on time, so he arranged a date night for 5 days after my birthday (unusual for him, but I didn’t think much of it since it was a special day already). I’m not entirely sure why I was so sure that he would be proposing, but I was so sure that I even told a couple of friends about my suspicion. Well, come the night of our date, I started to think that I had been wrong. Things started to get really awkward for a few minutes though as he tried to figure out how to guide the conversation in a good direction for him to propose and then it happened! My suspicions were correct!
Post # 9
I had no idea he was going to propose!
We went on a cruise the week before (unbeknownst to me, the ring was being made while we were gone) and I had hoped he would do it at a particular beach I’d been going on about for months, but when he didn’t I stopped stressing and enjoyed our vacation.
He proposed about 4 hours after we got back, on the couch in our living room right before I was going to take a nap!
Needless to say I had no clue.
Turns out he’d been planning it for MONTHS!
Post # 10
@Daizy914: Ideally, and like in all the movies, you don’t suspect anything, but everyone’s proposals are different, and some people just can’t hide secrets, haha.
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@littlemisst08: i also told DH and made it a big deal that i want to suspect nothing. and he did very well. lol
Post # 13
He took me to a jewerly store and ask me to try a ring because he wanted to buy one for him sister .
Post # 14
@Mrs. Mouse: His mother, his mother, HIS MOTHER
lol, I was sleeping in a hotel room with my DH’s mother the night before he proposed and man did she lay on the evidence THICK. I literally had to sit in the shower and pray that the idea of him proposing would leave my mind because I didn’t want to be dissapointed. All night she would tear up and say things like “your so beautiful” or “you would be the greatest daughter in law”. Also there was the conversation of what I should wear to which she responded “something perfect so that you can remember it for the rest of your life!” or “you just need to look gorgeous!”
The next day he was so normal that I sort of just let the idea go and figured his mom was being her normal loving self. Then he got crazy jumpy and just HAD to have a picture of us standing on a star in the middle of the river overpass. I didn’t even have a second to process that there was some reason other than lighting that made him get me on that star 🙂
Post # 15
@chica_b: lol, oh men….
@Daizy914: Good on your DH to plan everything the way you wanted! 🙂 I was pretty specific about not wanting a public proposal, so the idea of our first date location kinda worried me, but he did a great job of locating a more private area, and that part was a happy surprise 🙂
Post # 16
@littlemisst08: OMG LOL let me tell you–i told DH in passing–random conversations bc thats what i do- i said if there comes a time that you want to propose, please make sure its not public…like no flash mobs…bc i would run away (he died laughing) and I also said no holiday proposals…(again he died laughing) he said I didn’t know there were rules, i said no, no rules, just preferences…he said ok ok enough..let me take care of it now! haha