Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
This question is part of our blog and boards series, The Buzz, where we poll the hive for great advice and ideas and run a selection of helpful answers on the blog. Read more about the series here, and a couple of our first The Buzz posts: Saving for your first home and Length of dating before getting engaged.
We want to know:
How old were you when you got married and why that was a great age for marriage?
Lend your helpful tips and advice to the community, and we’ll feature answers on the blog throughout this month!
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I was 23, my DH was 24. I always tell people it was ideal timing because I (mostly) looked old enough to get married, and he still had some hair. Really, after almost 7 years together, it just felt right. We also wanted to have time after getting married but before we have kids to enjoy this stage of our life.
Post # 4
I was 22 and he was 26. Really it was the ideal time for us to get married because it was right for us. We’d been with each other for 5+ years and living together for 2 1/2. I don’t think there is a specific age where a couple has to get married. It is whatever works for that particular couple!
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
I was (still am) 25, and DH was a month shy of 26.
It was great timing for us because we both graduated a little bit later (me at 23, him at 25) so that gave us a chance to graduate and get jobs.
It’s also good timing for us because we had been together 4.5 years by the time we got married, so we felt like we had a pretty good foundation going into it.
AND, as a last note, DH wants to try for his first kid when we’re about 28, hoping to have his first kid before 30. His dad isn’t that old but has some health issues, and DH wants to have his kids as “early” as possible because he wants to be very active and healthy in their lives. I think he wants 3 kids and for us to be pretty much done around age 35! So getting married at 25 and 26 gives us a couple years to ourselves to just be together, grow as a couple, and SAVE MONEY/PAY DOWN DEBT for those expensive little miracles to come….
Post # 6
I will be 27 when we get married, my FI will be 31. I always thought I would be a bit older when I got married, possibly 30, but I am ready to start the rest of my life, and I have accomplished a lot of my pre-wedding bucket list.
It’s different for everyone, but both my FI and I strongly prefer being at least 25 when you get married (my FI actually said 27 at one point, but I think that is because it’s going to be my age) The reason is that you should be out of undergraduate, and maybe through grad school at that point. Likely have a career established (or a good idea of what you want in one), and some independence going. It was/is very important to both of us to have independence prior to marriage.
Post # 7
We were both 27 when we got married. We were previously engaged when we were 21, but we called it off because I was still in college, and even fresh out of college we didn’t have anything established. We waited until we both had decent paying jobs and could support ourselves. I couldn’t be happier with our decision.
Post # 8
I recently got married at 25, DH was 27. We felt like it was a great age and timing for us for a quite a few reasons.
- We had dated for 10 years and had a solid foundation for marriage
- We felt emotionally and financially stable
- Both of us had graduated from college (DH was done with his masters) and we had been working full time for over 3 years
- Over the years, we spent qutie a bit of time discussing and agreeing on how we wanted to live our lives, thoughts on when/how many children to have and general values/beliefs
Post # 9
@Mrs. Mouse: Not married yet but I was 21 when FH and I started dating, we got engaged 10 days after my 30th birthday (The ring was my birthday present) and I’ll be 31 on our wedding day 🙂
Post # 10
I was 33, he was 37. For us it wasn’t so much age as it was timing. We had no student loans, no car loans, had already purchased a house, had enough savings to cover our wedding expenses, etc. Since I don’t plan on having children, I didn’t see the point of rushing into marriage (I was the one dragging my feet lol).
Post # 11
I will be 26 and FI will be 3 days shy of 32 (our birthdays are 10 days apart, and the wedding date falls inbetween).
FI and I had been talking about the ideals and values of marriage even before we officially started dating, and the more we talked of marriage/life values/etc, the more convinced we were that we would make a great duo & partners!
We had a very rough time ever since we started dating (family issues from FI’s side), and we still do, but that also reassured us that we can withstand and endure all future hardships together as a couple.
I also love the fact that we’ve matured so much since we first started dating two years ago, and we couldn’t be more ready to tie the knot.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I was/am 25, he was/is 26. Just enough time to get adjusted to post-college life.
Post # 13
I was at the tail end of 22 (now 23, three months later) and DH will be 31 in February. We’d lived together for 2 years with shared finances and have a very strong relationship. We just knew that it was the right time and we both have established full time jobs and didn’t see any reason to wait just for the sake of waiting. He asked me and I know he’s the one I want to grow and change with and spend my life with, so I said yes. We’re definitely enjoying marriage but to be honest, it really isn’t all that different 🙂
Post # 14
I will be 31 and FI will be 39
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I will be 30 and FI will be 35 when we get married. It just took us until this point in our lives to find eachother. We were together a year before getting engaged and will have been together for just over two years when we get married. We had both dated enough to know exactly what we wanted and what we were looking for in a relationship and then we found it with each other.
Why is it a great age to be married? Well it’s just the age we are is what I thought at first! But really we have both had time to date, to be single, to live alone, to experiance many things and become great individual people who know how to take care of themselves. That was important to me. I loved my years being single not dating and living alone. But now I’m ready for the next chapter.
Post # 16
Early 30’s. I think it is a good age to get married because many people have already sorted out a lot in their lives.