Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
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Post # 3
I would try not to be so stressed the week before!! I kept trying to relax and let things go, but I was too excited/anxious and everything seemed like a huge deal.
I would have insisted that the MUA NOT use primer with sunscreen. I asked him not to because of photos, but he said “Oh, this primer won’t cause a reflection in your photos, I promise!” but he was wrong. All of our guest pics with flash look ridiculous because I have ghost-face.
I would have sprung for the full hair trial instead of the free consultation, because I feel like I could have liked my hair a bit better.
Post # 4
I would have checked (and double and triple checked) the photographer’s work to be sure I was happy with their style. In my opinion photography is the most important part of the day. You only get one chance to capture the day!
I would have gotten the flowers I had always dreamed about, even if they were not “in season”, instead of settling for another type just to save a few extra bucks. It still, to this day (and I’ve been married a while!), bothers me when I look at my wedding photos in their picture frames in my home. I should have been holding sun flowers, darn it!
I would have gotten a delivious cake. The venue we chose had the wedding cake included in their menu, so I just went with it. Wish I had insisted I just buy a cake that I LOVED.
Post # 5
@Mrs. Mouse: If I could go back, I would let the wedding party sit where they wanted to at the reception. I realize now, after attending a few weddings after my own, how nice it is to be able to sit with my husband for dinner. Granted it was only for an hour, but I think it is a courtesy I could have extended.
I also would have let the bridesmaids pick their own dresses rather than matching them. It would have been a lot less stressful to just worry about a specific color or fabric rather than worry about the dress as a whole: if everyone would like it, if it looked good on everyone, etc.
Post # 6
I would have changed everything about how/when/which photos were taken. We did a first look, and parents/bridal party shots before the ceremony, and looking at the photos I wonder why we spent so long doing bridal party shots. I wish we had done our “bridal” shots of DH and I before the ceremony, and spent the time during cocktail hour taking photos with our extended families.
Post # 7
I would have remembered to keep the dang sharpie pens with the shutterfly guest book we had! The first few pages are smeared due to people using ball point pens 🙁
Post # 8
@littlemisst08: good to know! I want to do the Shutterfly guest books
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
I wish I had better communicated to friends and family about making cookies. Our cookie table was a little lackluster…
I also wish we had gotten a videographer.
And finally, hired a DOC! My family helped set up and break down everything, and I felt terrible for putting them to work! Someone else should have been there to lead all that.
Post # 10
- I would have worn flat shoes all day and had my dress altered for flats. I abandoned my shoes the minute the photographer got us on grass and went barefoot the rest of the day/night…
- I would have made my own cake. Friends and family forbade me doing it somwe spent too much money on a cake that was really disappointing to me. One day I will make my cake…
- I would have stood up to my now SIL sooner when she tried to wreck our day instead of leaving it till the week before….unnecessary stress I should have quashed. She ended up not coming and we’ve not so much as acknowledged each other since.
- I would have had a few more varied backgrounds for the photos.
Nothing major really, the day was amazing and none of the above impacted greatly at the time, just whem I look at pics I can see my dress is too long,,,,, but then I smile at the memories of my black feet and DH washing them for me 🙂
Post # 11
I would have spent more time dancing at the reception. I instead spent half of it trying to work out the bill with the caterer.. I should have delegated and gone out to have fun!
Post # 12
I would not have had a bridal party, and I would have done a small destination wedding.
My wedding was wonderful, but if I could do it all over again, I certainly would.
Post # 13
No, I really can’t think of much. And that is a shock to me as I dreaded the wedding for months leading up to it. But on the big day, I was just so happy.
The only things I can even come up with are so minor. I wish I had warned my husband about the tiny bit of train left when bustled, so he wouldn’t have stepped on it and ripped the bustle out.
I would have had the DJ announce that there was hosted beer, wine, and margaritas, since a lot of our guests didn’t realize it and bought their own drinks. We were left with a lot of beer at the end of the night.
But overall? I wouldn’t do it over and change things. The day was far better than I ever could have imagined.
Post # 14
@Rubbs: I agree with you. I would’ve went on vacay with both our parents siblings and grandparents and had a small ceremony.
Post # 15
@bowsergirl: OH, the drink thing happened to us too! We just had a dinner reception, and the waiters came around with wine. I guess some waiters asked people if they wanted wine, beer, or cocktails, but not all of the waiters did, so some of our guests went out to the bar and bought their own cocktails, since they didn’t want/like wine. I felt terrible when I found out after our honeymoon! But oh well, lol.
Post # 16
bought the perfect strapless bra, im small chested and used a bra that didn’t work with my dress and therefore caused my dress to fall down ALLA NIGHT. it sucked majorly.
Put my music together better. Got to the venue late and had my cousin doing music and bc I didn’t get there on time to walk him thru and my weddig planner was a b they screwed the ceremony music up and I walked down the aisle to the wrong song. I was soo devastated and pissed. I still get upset thinking about it.
Hired a real wedding planner mine was an idiot and just about ruined my whole day
Done pictures before the wedding it took up all the time I should’ve been spending with my family and friends.
Chosen different bm’s I excluded some really good friends and regret it now. A few of the girls I chose over them were awful the day before and day of offering no help or showing any interest being there.
Honestly my wedding was a mess I planned it in a little less than 4 months and it really showed. My friends weren’t really there for me, my wedding planner was a bitch who almost ruined our day well she pretty much did but I’m trying to convince myself it wasn’t as bad as it seemed. And I just wasn’t really happy and I’m sure it showed in our pictures that I still haven’t got back 3 months later from our awful photographer 🙁 I would highly recommend a destination wedding with close family and friends.