Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
This question is part of our blog and boards series, The Buzz, where we poll the hive for great advice and ideas and run a selection of helpful answers on the blog. Read more about the series here, and a couple of our first The Buzz posts: Saving for your first home and Length of dating before getting engaged.
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What was your most nontraditional wedding choice? How did your friends/family/guests react?
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Post # 3
We chose to have a native chief do our ceremony and to include a blessing to the four directions. people seemed to really like her and commented on how “us” that was. Neither of us are actually native
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
Rather than focus on inviting a ton of family members, we opted to invite the nearest and dearest and fill the rest up with friends, instead. We only had a 50 person guest list, and if we had invited all the aunts and uncles and cousins, we would have gone over that limit. So we had our immediate family members, grandparents, a few cousins and a few aunts — we probably hurt some feelings, but it wouldn’t have been our wedding otherwise!
Post # 5
To our family, everything about our wedding was non-traditional. I’m from a big Italian family and our wedding was not the typical Italian wedding. Our ceremony was outside in an apple orchard and all of our guests loved it.
Post # 6
I have a man of honor instead of a maid of honor. We have been best friends since middle school and I couldn’t imagine having else standing up there with me on my big day.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
For the wedding world, our wedding wasn’t untraditional at all, but my friends and family hadn’t seen a lot of the little things we did. Things like place names for table names, having my brother stand on my side as a Bridesdude, a ring warming before the ceremony, a cookie table, ribbon wands, glow sticks, family style dinner, brooches in my bouquet… probably more. I felt like such a genius because everyone was complimenting every aspect, especially the more “offbeat” things, when in reality I probably saw many of them online first! But nonetheless, the nontraditional things were minor enough that they were very well received.
Post # 8
We didn’t do anything crazy, but afterwards, a lot of people told my parents and ILs that it was the most personalized wedding they’d been to (which is a compliment, I think) – we did popcorn-style vows, we had opposite-gender friends in our parties, our maids carried books, I walked the aisle barefoot… most of it was just unique, not untraditional.
Post # 9
Our wedding isn’t too unique – the most nontraditional thing is we’re doing a destination wedding. My whooooooooole life I wanted to get married in a church (both of my grandfather’s are ministers) so doing it this way is VERY not me. i also HATE sand haha. So everyone is a little taken aback by it. We have 85 people coming though so it doesn’t seem like our friends & family are too anti!
Post # 10
Our wedding was pretty traditional! The most untraditional thing we did is despite having a catholic ceremony (my husband is catholic I am not religious) I really tailored the ceremony. I changed traditional words, didn’t have parts of the ceremony I wasn’t really comfortable with and chose readings/reflections that reflected us. For instance nstead of the traditional blessing we had an Irish blessing instead 🙂 “May the road rise up to meet you..” I just always loved it.
Post # 11
my whole wedding since it wont be a traditional italian wedding….and my engagement ring which is a gemstone instead of diamond
Post # 12
My Blue Shoes, Black Bridesmaids Dresses, Not being in a church…
all of these seem to be causing some drama somewhere in my family, but it’s our wedding so I’m okay with it 🙂
Post # 13
I’m not planning on having any flowers at the reception. We’re having a 20s themed wedding, so our centerpieces will alternate between having low candelabaras and tall ostrich feather arrangements.
Post # 14
We had two wedding ceremonies. One a religious one in my husbands mosque Where I wore a traditional sari and another one a destiantion wedding in Cuba with 67 family and friends!!!! Everyone loved both of the weddings and it was very different then what people are used too
Post # 15
@Mrs. Mouse: skipped out on the bouquet and garter toss, some people didn’t like that idea too much. We also didn’t have a receiving line, and did a sweethesrt table (in my circle, most don’t like this). We skipped out on speeches during rehersal dinner (no one missed them).
Also for my DH Family, they are from Trinidad, so they usually have certain traditions, like a black cake favour. We didn’t have it…I heard people complain about this. We also didn’t have any island food, we had italian, because I like italian, and some of his family actually told us they didn’t really appreciate we didn’t have island food, the day after the wedding.
I loved MY wedding…
Post # 16
We walked down the aisle together (loved doing that!), served dinner family style, and our table was just a regular round table with our bridal party and their SOs, no head or sweetheart table (I loved that too!). Our centerpieces weren’t floral, and we skipped the bouquet/garter toss. I’d do it the same all over again!