Post # 1
So today I was invisioning my wedding day yet again and began thinking about the cake cutting. We cut the cake for the first time. FI and I feed each other a piece. Almost every wedding I have been at the newly weds smash cake all over each other. Although some couples haven’t done a cake cutting at all. I am now wondering if FI plans on feeding me nicely or making a mess of my face. He’s usually very respectful with me, so I was thinking he might just feed me proper. But then again, is it “tradition” to shove cake all over each other? Maybe he will. Will people be disappointed if we don’t? What did you do at your wedding??
Post # 3
@BriansBride: I’m not married yet, but when I’m a guest at a wedding and someone gets cake smashed in their face I wonder if they are happy about it- sometimes I feel bad for them. When the couple is nice about it, then I think aww, how sweet- definitely not disappointed. I don’t really think it’s a tradition and it seems like there is a fine line between “playful” and “mean.” FI was horrified when he saw a groom smash the cake in his bride’s face, so we will be feeding each other nicely. 🙂
Post # 4
FI absolutely does not want cake smashed in his face, and I think what I said was something along the lines of ‘if you get cake on my dress i’m getting cake all over your face’. I think it depends on who you invited to your wedding as how they would react.
Personally I think it’s cuter to take a little piece and feed it to your SO instead of seeing how far you can get it up their nose. I mean it would be horrifying in any other situation if someone saw me grab a handful of food and just rub it all over my FI’s face, lol.
Post # 5
we got just a touch of icing on each other’s lips but no smashing 🙂
Post # 6
I think this is something you discuss prior, so there’s no surprises. Personally, I find it pretty shocking, that on the one day where you’d spend more money than any other time in your life to make yourself look pretty, that someone would considering smashing a $5 slice of cake all over just to ruin it.
Husband and I discussed it prior, and agreed we’d keep it clean but at his sister’s wedding which was prior to ours, they did a mini smashing and his own grandmother scolded us and told us to not even consider doing such a thing.
I will say I was rather surprised at our own wedding, people were actually disappointed that we didn’t smash cake and were yelling at us to do so! I just yelled back that if I was going to be rolling around with frosting all over myself, that it would be happening on our honeymoon alone, not at the wedding.
Post # 7
@BriansBride: I picked “other.” We fed it to each other nicely, but DH put a tiny swipe across my nose. Then he kissed it off. Everyone thought it was adorable. lol
Post # 8
Neither of us wanted to eat the wedding cake. We cut it and served it to our guests. I was all about the Viennese table!
Post # 9
I got cake to the face. It was all over my mouth/nose, but nothing got on my dress. I was so surprised, but thinking about it now I’m not sure why I was surprised. The night after we got engaged my girlfriends all came over and got us a little cake and he smashed it all over my face that night… I should have seen it coming!
I think it’s harmless and makes for adorable pictures.
Post # 10
We both said we weren’t going to, then totally got into a cake fight!
A delicious, delicious cake fight.
Post # 11
Feeding each other cake, at least as I was taught, symbolizes that the newly married couple will care and provide for each other throughout their marriage.
It doesn’t have to be solemn but it shouldn’t degrade into shoving food into each other’s face.
Post # 12
I hate it when a couple smashes the cake. I think it looks so juvenile- like they are not old enough, nor mature enough to get married. When I am wearing the most expensive dress I will ever wear in my life, I don’t need to look like a one year old in a high chair with their birthday cake.