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I have had serious cat problems. We are moving into a bigger house but before i move there do i take these problem cats with me. Yes i am a cat person a big heart for animals. But My male cat is attacking the female cat every single day she has welts on her body from him biting her all the time. She defended herself and scratched him in the eye him almost losing his eye sight.
She a violent cat they both are. I have a baby here and hes crawling and the female cat is pooing on the floor cause the male cat wont let her use the litter box, i solved that problem by gettting two litters and i let her only use the one aways from his.
So my baby has been bugging the male cat and he has been bitting my babies arms i havent noticed that when he gets mad hes actually bitting him. My baby went real close to the female cat didnt even touch her and she scratched his face all the way from the forehead down to chin, just barely shy of losing his eye sight.
So now i have to get rid of the male and put down the female cat.
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omg!! Yes!! You need to get rid of them! Anytime animals put babies in danger its time for them to go....im sorry :(
If that cats are putting your child in danger you can not keep them. I know it is hard to get rid of your cats but Your child is more important than the cats...
WTF. Is this for real? I see NO reason to put the female down. Don't put her to sleep. If you can't keep them then find another home for them.
have you always had these problems or has something happened to trigger this behavior? cats don't misbehave just because they want to make your life hell. i suspect there is something else going on. i would work on finding the root cause and fixing it but it sounds like you've already made up your mind. is there any way to rehome them if you cannot keep them? there's no need to put the female down. sadly euthanasia might be the fate of both cats even if they are surrendered to a shelter. too many people out there want kittens.
Im not understanding why the cat would need to be put down. Keep them away from the baby for now while you try to rehome them.
It sounds like the cats do have some behavioral/social issues, and they would be better off in a different home- and away from your baby.
Please don't put down the female cat. While she did manage to harm the baby more than the other one has, it's not an indicator of her being violent the way you might be able to tell from a dog. She just got in a particuarly nasty scratch, which lets you know that these cats are not the type of cats you can have near the baby.
Just advertise on craigslist or petfinder and try to find the cats some homes that can better deal with their issues and take care of them. If that doesn't work, try to find a no-kill shelter for them. They often have workers there who are trained resocialize animals and deal with their special "quirks". Don't put her down! Good luck..
I understand why you need to rehome these cats by why on earth would you need to put the female down? That seems pretty cruel, unless you're leaving out a huge chunk of this story....
The only reason the female cat was suggested to be put down she bites people, and acts like a wild cat but shes been indoor her whole life. I am the only one that can hold her. I do not want to put her down but i am at my loss to what to do? I thouhgt about giving her away but also she makes messes all over the place pooing when the litter is clean and she has her own. I love her so much but like how everyone talks in here and i think for my self is my baby comes first and when he could of lost his eye sight i coulda killed the cat myself. I wouldnt, but my temper for my babies sake was steamed. My male cat can go to a different home but if the female stays her temper doesnt change even if male cat goes. I bought that feliway to change their behaviour and its not working my expectation. They need a cat whisper, to help us.
@Daisys4U: My parents have a cat that we've had since she was a kitten, and she is just mean. She bites and chases you for no reason. They've just learned to deal with her, and there is no baby in the house to worry about. I'm sure if you contacted some shelters or advertised her on craigslist (clearly stating that she has some aggressive issues), there will be someone who will be willing to take her in and work with her.
Honestly if she is a biter I would not feel comfortable rehoming her. Cat bites are really really serious and it's not worth the risk. It's hard to do but getting rid of them is the best for your family.
@Daisys4U: If the cat is refusing to use her own litterbox then there's definitely an underlying issue. Your two cats clearly don't get along with each other and both are probably stressed by the baby's presence. I think you need to get rid of both of them, but not put either one down. Can you surrender them to a no-kill shelter? It might be a farther drive from where you live but I could never surrender a cat to somewhere that would put him/her down.
I know this sounds harsh but if you are such a "cat person" and have such a "big heart for animals" you will not put her down.
She sounds severely stressed out. The male cat, the baby, and who knows what else is affecting her and she is acting out because she is living in constant fear and uncertainty. Imagine constantly being attacked. And if you are packing etc, she is probably more stressed. Its great that you have made some efforts to make things better. I believe each cat should have their own litter box regardless, so its great she has her own now.
Maybe she is just extra sensitive and there is too much going on in your home for her. Kids are intimidating and unpredictable to some animals and they often aren't gentle with them. I'm not blaming your baby...just giving reasons why the cat(s) may be acting out.
Please don't put her to sleep. Find a great home for the kitties-maybe with no other cats or children-or take them to a no-kill shelter. She doesn't deserve to die.
I just watched this Cat Whisper and he gave some tips on how to show your cat who is boss and to have her face her fears. First step was to put cat on harness and walk her every day untill she actually walks behind you, then she knows who is the controller. Second is to go to eye level and explain her bavior and tell her that its not exectable, not to stare her in the eyes but look at her eye direction. Third was to face her fears put her face to face with her fear example the vaccum.
I was beliving all this and then he started to eat the cat poo. Gross. I dont think i am going to get rid of the cats and i think there is a possiable way to train and love them, I HAVE TO FIND A WAY. I loves these cats. I just have to send them out side while my baby is roaming the floors. cause him getting scratched was awful, but i am detemand to find the problem.
OK so I just looked at your profile and I noticed that you were complaining about your cats 10 months ago! You have been letting the male attack her for at least 10 months and you have been hitting them...
"My female cat pees like a river and the male cat hates it. He will attack her every time she goes in which makes it hard for her to go in and then she does it on the carpet either poo or pee on the floor. I get so upset that i hit them and chase them around the house with the water gun..."
At that point the female was 10 years old and the male 2 years old. Did you have her first? Please give them to a good home. She shouldn't have had to live like this for so long. If I were her I would be so sacred and angry I would pee and poo all over your house too. She deserves to not live in constant fear.
Why do you have to put your female cat down?? First of all, are you clipping hers and the other cat's claws so they are not sharp? Also, is there a reason you can't at least try to find a shelter that will take her? When you take in an animal, you commit to that animal for its life. Please at least give your cat a chance.
Please find a shelter in your area to give BOTH cats to. There are LOTS and LOTS of non-kill shelters all over North America, just do an internet search. They will take any cat with any problem. You are putting your child in danger by not figuring out how to keep them seperate.. and the fact that you are considering putting one of the cats down without exploring any other option does not lead me to believe you are a cat lover who has a 'big heart' for cats. If putting an animal down and giving one away is your FIRST choice.. I can't even write what I think because it is NOT pretty. Just.. for the sake of your poor animals please find a proper shelter to give them to because you should not be owning them.
Why would you keep that male cat if it terrorizes the female? And what do you expect the female cat to do when it's being prevented from the bathroom? Of course it's going to relieve itself elsewhere. Why on earth are you hitting them??!
I just read your last reply. You don't have to be a hero. This isn't about you. She deserves better than this. Its not about "who is the controller". She obviously knows she has no control over anything. She is STRESSED! She isn't ignoring your rules because she wants to be in control.
And they shouldn't be forced to stay outside because of the baby. It would be better for everyone if you found each of them a new home. IMO she is being abused because you are making her live like that. They deserve to be happy. And locking them in the crawlspace of your new home (like you mentioned in the other thread) is cruel too. Yeah, locking her in a room with the male who is constantly attacking her is a BRILLIANT idea.
Seriously, please give them to a no kill shelter. You are not capable of taking proper care of them. In fact, I doubt you are capable of even knowing what a good home for them would be, so let real animal lovers who are eduacted on animal behavior find great homes for them. I beg you.
I think it would be best for you and the cats if you found them new homes. Both cats seem like they should be the only cat in the house-- the male because he bites, and the female because she's been terrorized enough. The female cat is scared and stressed out, she doesn't need to be controlled.
I totally feel you. I couldnt imagine how torn I would be if my cats did that. They would probably just be kicked out ( they are indoor/outdoor) and only allowed in to feed.
This post makes me really sad and I thought about it all night. I know I'm repeating myself, but please give them to a no-kill shelter. The females situation will not improve with training and they will have a better life than you can provide for them at this point. No offence but after reading some of your posts it appears you are dealing with a lot right now. I think it would be best for everyone if you had less to worry about. Please reconsider keeping them and at the very least give one of them up for adoption.
I usually don't suggest re-homing or giving to a no-kill shelter, but I honestly don't think the situation will get better for your cats at your house. I think maybe just having the female would work, since she just seems to be really stressed out. I read your post from 10 months ago, and it just seems like you're making SO many changes so suddenly and your cats probably don't know what to do. My cats are pretty easygoing, and they still kinda spazz out a bit when we even get a new litterbox.
You need to separate them completely into different rooms and away from your baby until you are able to find them new homes/a no-kill shelter.
Yes, see if there is a no-kill or rescue organization you can bring them to. I started volunteering recently with a rescue organization and they do some great work. They have a network of foster parents who work to socialize strays or problem cats so that they can be adopted. We get a good number of adult cats who are surrendered, and spending time with each of them you really get to appreciate their personalities! The organization is really good about recongnizing each ones needs: some cats will only be adopted out to people without kids, etc. We even work with feral cats. They will usually have them fixed and then find a farm in the area which needs a barn cat so that the cat can be fed, but live a relatively wild life.
Take your cats to the humane society and don't adopt or buy any more animals.
please do not put these animals down. Please give them to another home or a shelter. There is no reason to put her down. You can take her to a shelter and they can find her a home. YOu can call your local no kill shleter. Please do not put her down for this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so sad just thinking of this.
OMG. I just read the whole post and I am sick to my stomach. You are seriously committing animal cruelty. Please take these animals to the shelter or another home asap. They deserve better than this. Animals are helpless, please do not abuse them. I really hope that you do the right thing here...
As a no-kill shelter volunteer and foster parent my heart is really weak right now reading this. Please, please, please do the right thing here.
Your cats are stressed and that is why they are acting this way. I see it with foster cats. Please take them to a shelter or find them a better home.
also, do not let your cats be outside cats. its not fair to them, especially in the winter. Do your cats have their claws? if not, you REALLY cannot let them outside. Cats naturally do not like to be outdoors....
I understand stressful cats, but there is no reason to put them down. Rehome them and move on with your life, you don't sound like you've made an effort to get to know these animals at all. I thought I was going to have to send my cat packing back to the shelter, and instead I researched and researched, watched My Cat From Hell videos, talked to the shelter people about him, and now he's the BEST cat. Maybe these cats aren't right for your home, but they could be great for someone else.
I can understand the concern for your baby, but rehome the cats, take them to a shelter, Hell, Petco and petsmart might even take them if you are in a bind, but DO NOT put them down. that is mean and cruel. Poor kitty
My FI had a cat before I moved in, and she was two years old at the time. He works a lot and he has a small apartment, so the cat wasn't really getting the attention she needed. She would act out and jump on people, and sometimes attack their arms (FI would play with her through his shirt, and she couldn't tell the difference between a naked arm). Guests would be scared to sleep over at our apartment. I think having the two of us there really helped, and I grew up with cats and knew them a little better. I wouldn't react when she would jump on me, and I gave her a lot of positive attention. If she scratched the furniture I had a spray bottle near by and would spray her once, in the act, so she knew what she was doing at the moment was wrong - I didn't chase her around the house with it. She went through a phase where she would bite my foot for attention (not totally chomping down, but enough to hurt) so I locked her in the kitchen for a half an hour (with her water and litter box) for a time out. Her behavior improved, and is the sweetest thing ever.
I hate to say it, but according to your previous post if you did hit your cats and terrorize them with water guns then you are responsible for their aggressive behavior. There is never, ever, a good reason to hit any living creature. Violence breeds more violence - if that's what they get from you, how else to you expect them to react? Clearly they need a good home that is more stress-free than the situation they are in. I don't think it's responsible to assume the female is a lost cause, given the male cat and some of your prior actions. Please do the right thing and find them good homes or give them to a no-kill shelter. Really, after putting them in this situation it is the least you can do.
Those poor cats. Please give them away to a no-kill shelter and give them a chance at a new life.
Your post made me seriously sick to my stomach. As someone involved in animal rescue and who runs an animal sanctuary, I can not begin to express my thoughts without it being viewed as a personal attack. PLEASE NEVER ADOPT ANOTHER ANIMAL - they deserve better.
Please give us an update on this situation. Or, tell us what area you live in and I will look for a no-kill shelter for you. If you really love animals like you say you do, you will let them have a better life.
Wow. Please rehome or bring your cats to a no-kill shelter, and then never ever think about owning an animal again because you clearly do not know how to handle them.
UGHHH! This is beyond infuriating! Given your pattern, are you really not going to come back on WB for another month or two??!! Please give these cats a home they deserve. This post has really got to me. I keep picturing "the female" as she's so lovingly referred to, being attacked and hit. Living a terrified and abused life covered in welts. I wish I knew where you lived so that I could take them from you. I hope this is no indication of how you parent your child.
Please update this!!!!
I am keeping the cats, i love them both and i just cant part with them. I vent and say i will concidering i feel there is nothing i can do cause they both hate eachother and then are scratching my baby. But i cant hurt them or give them up
Really?? I'd say that's way worse than putting down a cat. Is your baby going to have to lose an eye or develop a horrible infection due to a bite or scratch before you decide to rehome these cats?
@Daisys4U: You ARE hurting them by not giving them up. Its NOT fair to your female especially, since she cant even use the litter box in peace. Dont be an idiot and use "love" to justify what you are doing, do what is best for your animals.
Also, given the problems in your life that Ive gathered from your previous topics do not ever get another animal...or have another child for that matter. Your life is seriously screwed up and bringing more people/animals into it is not going to make it better.
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