Post # 1
I have started planning our wedding and really trying to keep the numbers down because we didn’t want to get carried away. Ultimately we would like to invite 100 and hope that about 80 could come. We gave each set of parents 15 people of their choice to invite. My mum has left off some people I know she would like to ask but they exceed 15. My FFIL has given me 22. Yes 22. I’m really upset that he would put me in this position as now I am going to look like bitch if I approach him about it. I have left all my cousins off to keep the numbers down. I’m really upset, I was really hoping this wouldn’t happen. Has this happened to anyone else?
Post # 3
Sure. My mom has already asked to invite several people even though my maximum guest count is 18. She doesn’t understand that it is a solid cannot go over number. Even one more guest would put me into the next level and cost me over $5000.
So I just say “Nope. No extras unless you wanna help pay.”
Post # 4
oh the numbers game…My family is HUGE so I am trying to keep it at 300. Of course the day I order my save-the-dates my dad (parents are divorced) and my FMIL decide to add more people. The count is at 347…yikes. It would be less annoying if they were helping me pay for the wedding but they aren’t.
Post # 5
We’re paying for the wedding ourselves so we never gave our parents the option to invite anyone. We did the guest list entirely on our own, much easier that way. Good luck!
Post # 6
You shuld have your fiance approach him and say he needs to narrow it down. Sorry but unless he wants to pay for the extra 7 plates then he should narrow it.
Post # 7
Yes my FI’s tried to invite about 60 friends to our 200 person wedding that they are not paying for. What we decided to do was to split our guestlist down the middle so I got 100 and he got 100 and then it was up to us to deal with our parents separately. So if FI wanted to let his parents bring their 60 friends, it was going to come out of his 100 guests. I think in general it’s best to let your FI talk to his father about it, just as it would be better for you to talk to your own parents rather than have FI do it if your parents were causing guestlist difficulty.
Post # 8
We did the same as iheartnerds for the same reason. It may sound kinda bitchy on my part, but if they don’t wanna help pay for the wedding then I don’t care what they think. And if I’ve never met someone after being with FI for 5 years, I don’t see why they should be invited to our wedding.