the church popped my bubble :(

posted 3 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

The only (unfortunate) thing that I could think is that she judged you in some way as soon as she saw you. Not really the best attitute to have as a “godly” person working in a church, but probably the reality. I’d look at other venues!

Post # 4
1327 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

That’s really weird.  Was there any communication between setting up the meeting and when you called for directions?  If so maybe something small set her off?  Personally that would put me off if the lady acted like that if she has anything to do with the weddings there.  But she could have just been having a bad day.  I would just be very polite in my follow ups and see how she acts from there on.

Post # 5
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

that’s really weird, but at least you know now that they’re not worth dealing with

Post # 6
328 posts
Helper bee

@Kabira1208:  I’m going to just ask you this, not to be offensive, and not because I think the person from the church was at all justified, but are you and your FI different races?  I ask because I’m mixed and SO is white, and we do sometimes get looks…not very often, but it does happen.  And when it happens, it sucks!  And when it happens from someone who is supposed to be representing God, it REALLY sucks!  But I’ve found unfortunately that sometimes, those who work in the “supporting roles” in churches (i.e. secretaries, committee members etc) can be the most judgemental.  


Hope I didn’t offend you by asking-maybe she just discovered she had a hemorrhoid or something!

Post # 8
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Kabira1208:  Unfortunately some people are ignorant. I really hope your race had nothing to do with it. Hope you find the best place to get married!

Post # 9
2818 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

this sounds pretty straightforward. She took one look at you and changed her mind about being nice to you. For the record, I arrived at this before I scrolled down and saw that you were African American. I don’t know the race of the lady who dealt with you or the general racial makeup of the congregation, but it is not at ALL uncommon for me to have had a conversation with someone on the phone, have them fall in love with me, then all the energy leave their body when they actually SEE me. 

Post # 10
1178 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

This happened to me at on of the venues I looked at. I ended up looking elsewhere.

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