- 3 years ago
I have to say that as a lurker who dreamed of posting my very own wedding questions on this site, I am so excited to finally be part of the hive!
I have 10 months until the wedding and I STILL have not selected colors. Our florist wants to meet in January and doesn’t want to nail down a precise quote for me until then, which makes me nervous. (I just want to know what I am spending, as much as he is saying that he will “work with [my] budget.”) After a few recent email exchanges, it sounds like he is willing to meet with me sooner, provided I have details nailed down as to what I want, including my colors. Sadly, I can’t make a decision! It feels so permanent!
I always thought that just picking the colors part would be easy, but honestly, I have no idea what I want. Our venue is an old bank built in 1920 with a gorgeous gold revolving doors, gold foil ceiling, stoic stone columns and the super cool original teller windows that will now function as our bar. Because of the history of the venue, we are keeping a loose 1920’s/Old Hollywood Glamour feel to our wedding. Our florist has thrown around loose figures and stated that if we want to ent his ivory and champagne colored silk arrangements on his tall silver or gold candelabras, he would rent us what we need to “do the place up” for “about $1,000” (for just reception venue). I love the idea of working faux ostrich feathers (after searching, I’ve found some) into the arrangements, and have the table colors laid out in my mind as a champagne table cloth, black napkin, black chair covers and mixed metal hues throughout the room.
The only problem is that I’ve been told by people that I might look back on my wedding and regret not having “a color.” If you were to have asked me before we found THIS venue what my colors would be, I would say eggplant and champagne. Because it is an evening wedding in late September, and because I’ve always wanted darker colors for my more formal wedding, I think this palate would be nice. If I were to be really honest, though, I like eggplant because in some light it is close to black, and I just think black is so elegant and classy. If I were to really just say “the heck with it” and do what I want, I would have my bridesmaids in black dresses, because I know that this group of gals would wear them again. My FI’s only request though was that he and the groomsmen wear grey instead of black, so out go the black bridesmaids dresses. My sisters (who are also in the bridal party) have told me that I should go with purple or I will regret it. Heck, if you were to have asked me when I was 5 years old what my wedding colors would be, purple would be the response. The only problem is, I just can’t imagine purple in this venue. I keep trying to work it in, but I don’t see it.
To complicate matters more, my grandfather was affectionately known as Poppy in our family. Poppy passed away when I was 12, but he has always been my hero and the single most influential person in my life. Poppy was everyone’s hero and it hurts a little to know that this big important day is happening and he won’t be here, physically, to celebrate. I’m the second of the grandkids getting married, so I was blown away to receive word from my grandma that she and Poppy had saved his whole life to put away a little money for each grandchild fora big occassion. I won’t go into Poppy’s story, but the savings that he and my grandma set aside for us must have meant a lot of sacrifice throughout their lives. Anywhoo, I decided to use some of that money for my flowers and there is no doubt in my mind that I want to work poppies into my wedding. All florists have told me that poppies don’t work well as cut flowers and will not last in a bouquet or a centerpiece. My florist has offered to make special silk poppy corsages and boutonnieres for my grandma, great aunts (Poppy’s sisters), my mom and aunts and my cousins. This is really important to me, but I am afraid of two things. First, that it will look like I am playing favorites by giving things to my family and not to my FI’s family (and that, honestly, it might look like I’m segregating because the FI’s family is all Chinese, and my family is all Japanese.) My second fear is that if I go with black, mixed metals and poppy orange (here and there), it is going to look like Halloween came early.
My questions for you are:
Is it important to have *a* color? Is it cheesy or drab to go with just a mixed metal theme? Do you like the idea of mixed metals and do you think it will work with the venue? Being that I have always liked the color purple, do you think that I am going to look back with regret if I don’t work purple in? Based on the pictures of the venue (below), do you have recommendations for a color other than purple? As Poppy is important, should I try to work poppies in somehow other than the special gifts for my grandma, great aunts, aunts and cousins? Do you think that looks like segregation (because my family has them and not my FI’s family)?
Thank you so much for your input! I can’t tell you how much it means to me! Here are pictures of our venue. It is a little untraditional, but I like it. 🙂
Pictures of our Venue:
We will enter through these large gold revolving doors
Its hard to see, but the ceiling is gold and blue
The Bar: Drinks are served from behind the original bank teller windows
The inside of the venue with some tables set
It will be light out during cocktail hour, but dark by dinner
Gold details throughout the room:
Example of our florist’s silks and feathers
THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP A MILLION TIMES OVER! It means so much to me! 😀