the couple from hell

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

What a situation. Why does your hubby still want to invite them after all that? Good luck

Post # 4
6173 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i wouldn’t want to invite them either.  how could your DH want to invite them after they clearly stated they didn’t like you and wouldn’t invite you to their wedding.

i’m so glad to hear the your DH declined their invitation.

Post # 5
791 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@amicelli13:  I wouldn’t invite them.  Why spend money on a couple who don’t respect you or your marriage? 

Post # 6
2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Don’t invite them. This happened to me at a family member’s wedding once. They didn’t like SO, but they concealed it by saying married couples only. We had been living together for a few years at that point. I went, and everyone there who was unmarried had their SO with them. I have never been able to let go of that one.

Post # 7
9038 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@amicelli13:  Easy.  Don’t invite them.  The friendship is over anyway, move on and put it behind you.  You’ve done nothing wrong and have nothing to feel bad about; the friendship ending is their responsibility due to their terrible behavior towards you.

Post # 8
6457 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Glad to hear your DH turned down the invite and being the best man! I would absolutely not invite them.

Post # 9
2657 posts
Sugar bee

I agree that you shouldn’t invite them.  It sounds like you would be asking for trouble by having them around the reception.  And honestly if I were the couple from hell and I received an invite to your wedding after the situation with your DH dropping out, I would probably decline it anyway.

Post # 10
2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yea… sucks that it’s his “best friend” but it seems like that friendship is over.  Personally, I wouldnn’t invite them after how they treated you.  I’m glad FI is on your side.

Post # 11
3538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wouldn’t invite them.  Why would you want to make yourself feel uncomfortable with these people around on your special night? 

Also, their reasoning for not liking you is the most immature and stupid thing I have ever heard.  What was their grand plan for their wedding, to get your hubby and her sister to hang out?  I imagine she is probably the MOH…I would cut these people out of my life.  

Tell your DH that you understand this guy is his friend, but a real friend would just be happy that your DH is happy with you.

Or, you can always only invite the guy, and not the girl…give them a taste of their own medicine. LOL

Post # 12
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I would under no circumstances invite them to your wedding. It sounds like they would just cause more drama!

Post # 13
50 posts
Worker bee

If that couple is as petty and socially inept as they sound, I think one of two things will happen if you do invite them:


1) They will refuse the invite. They would probably justify it by saying it was rude of your DH to pull out of the wedding party, not go to their wedding, you didn’t buy them a wedding present but that’s all you want from them now, etc. But they’re not going to your wedding. Problem solved. Or


2) They go to your reception. If they were so rude as to actually exclude you exclusively and then justify it in a truly Miss-Bingley-from-Pride-and-Prejudice fashion, then I think it’s safe to assume that their bad behavior would be just as glaringly hurtful at your reception. They will go and tell everyone who will listen for five seconds that they had really hoped that your DH would be with her sister instead (and probably list all the reasons why they think she’s better). You might have been the better people by inviting them, but they could potentially cause a lot of drama and hurt at a party meant to celebrate your love.


Those are my two cents. I would talk to your DH about that. He might just miss the friendship-that-was, not what is, and is therefore trying to extend an olive branch. I would present those two possible scenarios to him, and see if he thinks it’s worth going through that if you guys invite them.


But if he insists on inviting them, you need to consider it. You may be paying for most of it, but it’s his reception too. Refusing to come to an agreement on this issue can only make the situation worse. I hope this all works out for you, good luck!


Post # 14
920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I would talk to him and tell him that you understand that he’s friends with them but they don’t like you.  It’s fine if he wants to spend time with them but your wedding should be filled with people who support your marriage and care about you both.  I would also inform him that you want nothing to do with them if thay are willing to act so immature.  If he decides to hang out with them you don’t want him to keep it a secret from you but you will not be joining.

Sometimes it’s hard for us as humans to see the horrible in our loved ones.  In time he might slowly come to your side on this issue.  I’m not saying things will deffinately change because some people just don’t give up on others no matter what.

Post # 15
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

What a bitch. Jealousy is a curse. I wouldn’t even talk to them let alone invite them.

Post # 16
2516 posts
Sugar bee

@amicelli13:  It would be ruder to invite them to the after-dinner part of your reception than to exclude them completely. Save yourself a headache by leaving them off the list altogether.

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