Post # 1
FI and I recently started going to the gym together and I’ve noticed that we’ve been getting along REALLY well since we started doing that (not that we don’t usually get along, but we’ve just been extra sweet to each other the past couple of weeks and not bickering so much). As long as I’ve known FI, he’s always consistently gone to the gym and working out has always kind of been his “thing.” I think he appreciates that I’m spending the time there with him and asking for his help on how to do exercises. Not to mention, I’m sure the endorphines are making us happier!
So I was curious what kinds of things you and your SO do together that bring you closer. What do you bond over? Do you play a sport together? Video games? Cooking?
Post # 3
We were working out together but one of DH’s friends decided to go and the guy is a talker! Our gym nights were 3 hours!!!
We pretty much do everything together…kayaking (my absolute favorite), camping, playing video games. And I love to cook but DH always wants to help me…he says it’s his favorite bonding thing for us!
Post # 4
We are HUGE videogame nerds and play a LOT of Mario Kart and the like. He’s trying to get me into other types of games now (though I am really bad at almost all shooter games so it’s not progressing as well as he’d like). We also cook together and go to the gym at the same time. Sometimes we run together, but he gets frustrated with my slowness haha.
Post # 5
Well, FI is an athletic beast, so we don’t do a lot together, BUT, he plays rugby and I used to play in college, so we definitely bond over that. I am a distance runner, but he set sprint records in high school… so we don’t run together often. He is so sweet though- he would ride his bike behind me on my really long runs while I was marathon training. He would hand me my water and keep track of time and distance for me, and not once complained about riding his bike that slowly for 14, 18, even 20 miles.
Post # 6
We do a lot together! We also workout together a few times a week. We go on walks almost every evening. We go fishing/camping about 5 or 6 times a year. And we ride four wheelers/dirtbikes together. I agree that all this helps us get along really well!
Post # 7
We go on walks a couple times a week, play video games and board games. And he usually always helps out with dinner. We try to always do things as a team because like you and your fiance, we always seem to get along so much better when we work together.
Post # 8
Not gym people, but we go on walks around the neighborhood with our dog and he really enjoys that. We also like to do projects around the house and work on the yard together.
Post # 9
We play music together. We formed a two-person metal band and record and release CDs from our home. Although there isn’t a big market for evil clown-inspired black metal, it’s fun for us and we don’t have to worry about appeasing any other band members. We always do whatever we want, no matter how off the wall it is. It’s great!
Post # 10
We both go to the gym, but at different times out of preference and schedules. My gym time is my “me time” very early in the morning before or after my run before work, his is his transition time after work! Our work schedules don’t match up either anyway! If we have weekends off together (he often works on weekends) we may go together for a little while but I tend to workout longer so this does not happen too often and when we do we still are “at the same gym” but doing our own thing. I’m a runner and he isn’t (active, but just not a runner) so that is also my time alone.
We do however do lots of other things together. We go camping, snowshoeing, cycling, go out to pub to watch UFC together, traveling, kayaking, hiking, go out for walks, or for coffee, go to movies (or stay in and watch!), we might play our didgeridoos, go out for dinner and just talk, work in the garden together, hang out with the sheesha pipe, go out to special events (exhibits, talks, plays, etc), play videogames, or we just stay in and watch one of “our shows” while he gives me a foot massage (my favourite), ha ha. We used to do hot yoga together several times a week but we live somewhere where there is no longer hot yoga (not one that we like anyway). It really does not matter so much “what” it is (it could be cleaning, washing the cars, or doing yard work for example), we just like to do it together. We really just like to just spend time together and talk and enjoy being together and it does not matter so much WHAT we are doing, as long as we ARE doing (this is my husband’s phrase, anyway!).
It is a bit difficult to just come out with a litany of things we do as we share much of our lives together so there is “lots of stuff”. We are both pretty independent people too and do lots of things on our own, especially due to schedules, but “playing together” has certainly never been a problem for us and is certainly a priority as well.
Post # 12
oops sorry for the double post! computer trouble :o/
Post # 13
We work out together, too! It’s fun and definitely helps both of us with staying motivated better than going it alone. One or the other of us is always saying we need to get off our butts and move. And this is on a daily basis.
We also hike together, watch movies, play golf (me not so good), travel (mountains, beach), and go to sports bars. FI turned me on to watching sports by teaching me about football in a girl-friendly way, and by plying me with alcohol at the same time. If we’re at home watching I get foot rubs. We also go out for dinner and to clubs occasionally; visit friends and family. We’re pretty active. We do just about everything together, even cooking and cleaning; we really enjoy being together.
I hope we always stay this way.
Post # 14
We have so many similar likes – that is why it is hard for me to comprehend the whole “opposites attract” because for me, I love that we are so similar!
If I had to pick one, is I LOVE when we just sit in the living room, drink beer, and play old records. Time just passes, and we have our most intimate conversations during this time; and before we know it its been 5 hours and the sun is up! It is so funny too, because if one of my friends asks “why are you so tired” all I have to say is “records” and they know. 🙂
Post # 15
We pretty much share all our hobbies – running, rock climbing, tennis, volleyball, cooking, watching our favorite shows. We have a lot in common and it does seem to ring true for us that playing together helps stay together.