Post # 1
Just wondering if anyone else has experianced this … I thought I was pretty laid back about my wedding but I seem to have a crazy friend. Initially she send me a long email explaining that she didn’t want to come to my wedding because she felt uncomforable around my other friends and was not really a “Wedding person” …Now, one of my bridesmaids has organised my hens and she is messaging me to ask if she can have a stripper. I have not responded and noticed that the has posted on facebook that she has been invited to a “boring” hens night with no stripper…
I am not really a stripper kinda person… but the behaviour seems weird? Is it just weddings make the crazy come out?
What do I do? Ignor?
Post # 2
Yes, weddings and funerals bring out the crazy in some people and drive wedges into relationships.
Some people like to complain a lot, to get attention for themselves. My daughter has a friend who is quite dramatic/histrionic, and it can really wear you down, and make people distance themselves.
I’m not a stripper kind of person, either. In fact, if I was ever surprised with one, I would leave the room. You need to make that perfectly clear to your bridesmaid who is organizing the hens.
In hindsight, I would have declined to invite her to anything, since she said she didn’t want to come to your wedding (I’m sure she was just waiting for you to beg her to come?). I have a cousin who said I didn’t have to invite her to my daughter’s wedding; I did, and she waited to the last day to RSVP, and then didn’t give the couple even a greeting card.
Post # 3
Crazy! Agree with PP- her declining the wedding was wanting you to beg her to go. I’d just go with it and if she doesnt go, she doesnt go! Her loss. And as for the stripper- what even?! Since when is a hen boring just because theres not a stripper?! Have a word with her- its embarassing for her and insulting to you that she would write so openly about your hen on facebook. I’m hoping its just the stress of planning getting to her and not what she is actually like!
Post # 4
Thanks Ladies, good to see I am not being overtop with Judgement. I try to be good and understanding to other people… but even though I have been friends with this girl for over 10 years, I am starting to wonder about the friendship….
I guess my question is, when do you let a friendship go?
Post # 5
If you’ve been friends for 10 years, maybe there is animosity, because she isn’t a bridesmaid? Unfortunately, you can probably can expect her to act-up, during the whole wedding process. (My daughter’s friend -who I talked about in a pp, dyed her hair a bilious shade of red, right before the wedding; she certainly stood out, in the bridal party photos).
Post # 6
Yes, possibly she is upset she is not a bridesmaid. I thought about asking her, but I already had quite a few bridesmaids (all of who I have been the maid of honour at their weddings), I thought she could read a poem or something instead…. but now I am thinking that is not such a good idea..
Post # 7
i have a friend like this – i actually made a thread about wondering if i should invite her. we’ve pretty much lost touch, i haven’t seen her in 3 years, but she’s my moh’s best friend and my moh assured her she’d be invited (i have no idea why!) anyways, in addition to all of that, she can also be really loud and innapropriate (i just put up our beautiful engagement photos and she wrote ‘do me’ on one of just me…) and make things about herself. on top of that, during her own engagement (while i’ve been planning my wedding) she constantly posted really condescending things about how ‘people who have big weddings don’t care about their marriage’ and how happy she was that she ‘wasn’t wasting her money on a stupid party’ and how her wedding and marriage will be more meaningful because of it.
i don’t want to invite her now, but feel backed into a corner. and i really don’t want her to come, act horribly and spend all her time with my moh, who, duh, i want to spend time with. didn’t mean to threadjack, i just mean that i totally get you – people start doing the dumbest stuff!