- Ms. Sloth
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I just read a thread that Mr. Bee posted about joking about divorce, and it got me thinking. Not about joking, but about reactions to divorce in general.
So bear with me. I might get up on a soapbox, and I might ramble a bit.
The reason I put the title of this post in quotes is because I have issues about calling divorce “the D word.” I don’t care if anyone else does it, but I won’t do it myself. And the reason is that divorce isn’t a dirty word. It’s not a taboo subject. It’s something that should be acknowledged, not tiptoed around.
My parents separated when I was five years old. Even at that age, I remember being relieved that my mom and dad were going to be living in separate houses, because then they wouldn’t fight so much anymore. They tried to make it work before my mom moved out and they even reunited briefly once, but they were miserable together and happier apart.
So, honestly, I think that sometimes divorce can be a good thing. It’s messy and upsetting and difficult and can be ugly, even devastating. But I would much rather get divorced than stay in a marriage that’s not working out.
I’m not saying that I’d be like “Oh, this marriage thing is harder than I expected, let’s get divorced.” But if I was in a bad marriage, and counseling didn’t help, and we we tried absolutely everything, I’d consider divorce as a last resort. Or, if I was married to a man who abused me physically or emotionally, you bet your ass I’d rather be divorced than stay with him.
I’m not saying that I plan on ending up divorced. I love the boy with all my heart and he and I are in it for the long haul. But I don’t think that we should treat divorce as a taboo subject, that’s all.
I’m interested in hearing your feelings on divorce, too! What do you think?