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I went to the grocery earlier and saw on the headline of a gossip mag that Jon went out SANS wedding ring to a club and left with another woman..and they had photos.

I was kinda shocked.  But then again not so shocked.  I watched their show two times.  I had to turn it off the second time because I actually felt sorry for Jon.  It was so sad seeing her treat him as a child..

but then again, nobody under ANY circumstance deserves their spouse to cheat.  If you're unhappy, discuss it with your partner and work things out FIRST.  there is never a good enough reason to be unfaithful.  But then again we don't know if he was.

I'm sure they both love their children very much, but seriousy...am I the only woman on earth that thinks Kate was not that great to her H?

Seriously she made me feel so nervous watching her.  Just berated him over and over..and that's what she was comfortable doing on tv in front of millions of people...I wonder what she did in private?  Geez.

Maybe she will get a wake up call.  And him too for under no circumstance is cheating ok.  But she really needs one.

Yea, but no adult outside of work (even at work I find it abhorrent) needs micro managing.  If I've somehow managed to survive to the age of 21, get a job, and pay for a house and my bills, I require NO MICRO MANAGING.  I'm not a child.

And he's not a kid either.  He is so relaxed in comparison to her.  She's just like a ball of arrrrrrgh!

T and I watched them twice.  He even said that he could NOT STAND to be married to a woman like that..and I agreed with him in that I couldn't be married to a man like that. 

Probably so...but she's bossy.  She's so bossy that honestly if it were me, I'd have been out of there were it not for the kids.  And I'm a 100 percent pro marriage kind of woman.

cheating is a no no and a deal breaker for me.  I should know about that one.  But in no way would I deliberately make my H miserable. 

It's gotta be no fun having all that chaos.  I love children but I couldn't imagine it for myself.  But in having that chaos AND a spouse who belittles you in front of millions of viewers has got to suck.

There was a discussion on morning radio about him a while back..the men all called in and said he was a "wuss" and stuff like that for putting up with such poor treatment and sadly, most women agreed with it too.    

Yea.  But I felt that poor Jon was the way he was because he was trampled on all the time.

I may be prejudiced...I have a now distant friend who would have been a bridesmaid had she not done some wild stunts over the last 2 years that caused me to rethink our friendship..and the breaking point was seeing her (at their going away party before they moved away) sit in another man's lap (T and I threw a large dinner party for them at our favorite restaurant) and then berate her husband and order him around in public like she did all along..and then ignore her friends (including me). She also bears an uncanny resemblance to Kate.

Yea but what kind of moron berates their Husband in front of millions daily and thinks the poor man would NOT consider leaving? I think it's a case of their personalities just don't match.  And that maybe they aren't just suited well.

This is a discussion.  And we can be critical if we want to.  That's what a discussion is.  If you read on, I said I might be a bit critical...because she bears an uncanny resemblance IN REAL LIFE to a woman I know (was once a good friend of mine) who treats her H the same way and her friends too.

Yea, it has to be both rewarding and yet at the same time super stressful to have that many kids..

I just could not do it.  I'd love one more, but that's it!  And I hate to admit it, now my son is a bit older, I'm loving it even more.  We can take him everywhere..but then again as a single mom of one child, I travelled with him from the age of five and up...everywhere!  Even on a week long cruise to the carribbean, to islands, to nice resorts, and he's always behaved.

I don't think I could do it if I were octomom.  Then again, I don't think I'd be her either,.

But my friend whom is a dead ringer for Kate is the mom of 2 and acts the same way.  Her H is a very intelligent man who's a business exec and she's a stay at home but she wears the pants and over time, it's really pushed all of us away from her having to witness her berate him, tell him what to do, boss him around, and when last December, at the party T and I threw for them (a going away party) she sat in the lap (after 3 martinis) of a male friend (and husband of another) for about 30 minutes.  T was enraged.  Her H looked embarassed.  And after leaving the other man's lap, she went right back to ordering him around.  And we were barely thanked for having a dinner party for over 25 people.. 

Listening to T watch that show and see my former friend behave almost the same way has taught ME something about what NOT TO DO with him.  I trust T's a grown man.  He's made good decisions in life.  He's smart.  He did not need me to survive until the age of 40.  He did it well and on his own.  He's already got a mommy (and she's super sweet!)..he doesn't need me to be that.  That job is already filled and has been filled for 43 years!

Did watching that show make you realize what not to do?  That's what the two episodes I managed to sit through (wincing all the while) taught me..not to belittle T or boss him around.  I don't, but it sure will make me think twice if I ever thought about doing it!!  lol!

Tabloids...great source of information??

I love Jon and Kate.  I watch the show religiously.  People commented on how they don't seem like such a "loving" couple.  The fact is that they do what works for them, and what may seem like unacceptable behavior to others, is simply how they cope.  They have said that they do love each other, and the show mostly focuses on when they argue.  But if you have 8 kids, you would be a little more stressed out too!  This isn't a deadline at work, this is a child's life.  It is EIGHT lives.  I'm amazed they are still sane!  And there are lots of moments where they show them having a "moment" where you can just see how much they love each other.  I love that show!

I think the cameras being around causes more stress anyway.  It's WAY crazier with 7 cameramen in your face than being alone.  No wonder Jon doesn't want to do the show anymore, just look at the comments here!  Would you want everyone questioning your relationship or putting down the one you love?  Poor Jon!

@bellenga: "Yea but what kind of moron berates their Husband" I think that was a little harsh and a bit snarky to call her a moron and that may have been what Josalyn was talking about.

As far as Jon & Kate, I love the show and watch every episode.  Yeah, she seems bossy, but heck, so am I.  If I have a film crew turning a week's worth of film into a 30 minute episode, I could easily come across like she does and I'm sure many of us could feel the same.  It's a how and it's edited a certain way.  We don't know them personally or what goes on in their lives, so I think it's hard to judge.  As far as him and what has recently been said in the tabloids, you have to think about the source and take what they say with a grain of salt.  

Lillindy that was in response to what JaeDawn said in an earlier post..but  it is TRUE, we do not know what goes on in their life behind the cameras.  Either way, it could be all a made up deal, or she's deliberately painted(with all the happy  huggy stuff going on and ending up on the cutting room floor and America never sees it) incorrectly to gain viewers, but we will never know.  All I know is watching the show is enough to make me feel antsy..and I couldn't watch a third because of seeing their stress level.  And if it was perceived snarky, it was made about a person not on this board and not a member here.  Who knows..maybe Kate is really nice IRL?  I'm willing to give that the benefit of a doubt. 

Maybe it's because I'm not bossy. And maybe it's because I don't really like to see a woman treating a grown man like a child. 

Everybody is entitled to their opinions right?  I didn't like the show after 2 shows.  But I love other shows on tv and reality shows (my faves are: Man Vs. Wild, Anthony Bourdain's No reservations and that man is about as snarky as one cold ever be but I love him, Deadliest Catch, and I love Captain Seig but wish he'd quit smoking).     I'm happy you liked it, different shows for different people. 

And in the lounge we can have fun like my friends and I do at work and talk about current event issues/stuff.  And all my friends have different opinions about pretty much everything..and that's what makes it so interesting.  It's always fun to come to work and we talk about Deadliest Catch.  It's hilarious..one of the girliest friends I have (and I am girly), Teresa, loves "Ice Road Truckers"...