(Closed) the dilema . (just a vent)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll:
    him to be included : (8 votes)
    36 %
    have him involved somewhere in the wedding but to get another groomsmen : (2 votes)
    9 %
    kick him to the curb! : (6 votes)
    27 %
    leave as is and not mention a thing... : (6 votes)
    27 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1566 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think you should talk to FSIL and see how she feels. If they are friendly at this point, I don’t see the need to ask him to leave the wedding party unless she really really insists on it. If, down the road, they have a falling out, you can always ask him to leave then. I don’t think it’s a big deal to be “a groomsman short” – a lot of wedding parties have uneven numbers.

    Post # 5
    Member
    272 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I’d wait and see what happens with their relationship, but if they break up for good, I think it’d be really weird to have him there, for his ex-wife’s brother’s wedding.

    Post # 6
    Member
    806 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I would leave it alone for a while and see what happens with their relationship.  At the end of the day though, I think you have to take the sister’s side.  If you get a sense she is truly uncomfortable with him also beeing in the wedding, I think you would need to ask him not to be.  I think he would understand, as this is her family, not his anymore (if they split up).

    Post # 7
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    139 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I agree with prettyflowers. Wait a few months and see what happens with their relationship. Then, talk to the sister and see how she feels about it. What does your FH want to do? 

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