The DOs and DON'Ts of grooms-wear

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@aekc:  

  • Notch on a regular, single breasted suit (peak is OK, too). Peak on a tuxedo or double-breasted suit. Shawl on a tuxedo ONLY.
  • A tuxedo is one color: black. Gray tuxedos are a current fad much like the powder blue tuxedos of the 1970s. If you want gray, just have the men wear suits.
  • The lapel facings on a tuxedo should never be a different color than body of the suit.
  • 1 is the best on a tuxedo. 2 is acceptable on a tux and best on a suit for most men. 3+ never on a tux, unless you’re doing a late ’90s theme.
  • This depends on how big the boutonierre is. If it’s a single flower without much filler, it should be fine. If it’s one of the giant boutonierres that looks like it’s taking over the whole lapel, the pocket square would be too much.
  • If the men are wearing tartan long ties, they should be wearing suits and not tuxedos, so this point is moot.
  • Finally, and most importantly, a tuxedo is evening wear. At a brunch wedding, a man wearing a tuxedo is as inappropriate as a woman wearing a floor-length ball gown.

That said, it’s your wedding, you’re the bride, you can do what you want. This is just my opinion based on the time-tested “rules” of menswear.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

And about differentiating the groom… You can do that however you want. I prefer subtlety. We’re just doing a different boutonniere, that’s all. If you’re doing a formal wedding, everyone should be wearing white shirts, so that’s not an option.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@aekc:  The only way I can think of “don’t you want to spend money on something you can keep and wear again instead of a rental?”

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t really know about most of the questions but I thought I’d chime in on differentiating the groom. My groom has his identical twin brother as his best man, so this was particularly important for us. What we did was have all the guys in the same grey suit pants and vest, but my husband was in a white shirt and everyone else was in a yellow shirt. And I was in a white dress and all the girls were in yellow dresses. So we matched. We also had his bout in the same flowers as my bouquet, which were slightly different from the bridesmaid bouquets which matched the groomsmen bouts.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

We had our guys in suits and tartan ties and they wore both bouts and pocket squares. I always prefer black tuxes and notched lapels myself. I don’t really care about buttons as long as there are no more than 3, so 1-3 is fine by me. I love vests too. I’ll show you a pic of what we did:

*The bouts aren’t on yet in this first picture, but they are in the next. DH wore a red tie.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@aekc:  We don’t have any pro pics yet but here’s one that a friend took of hubby and his bro!

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