(Closed) The Doula Thing

posted 5 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Did you/will you hire a doula
    Already Moms: I used a doula for my labor and I totally recommend it! : (0 votes)
    Already Moms:I used a doula for my labor and am lukewarm on whether I would recommend it : (0 votes)
    Already Moms:I used a doula for my labor and it wasn't worth it : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Future Moms: I plan to use a doula for my labor : (16 votes)
    25 %
    Future Moms: I am thinking about hiring a doula : (20 votes)
    31 %
    Future Moms: I do not plan to hire a doula : (12 votes)
    19 %
    What's a doula? : (6 votes)
    9 %
    Other (described below) : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Already Moms: I didn't hire a doula : (8 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    9142 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    I think hiring a doula is a great idea!  I will be the first to tell you I want an epidural when I give birth but I still think having a doula is an important part of the labor process because she is there to support you before, during, and after labor.  They tend to have better outcomes regarding moms who want a natural birth.  Plus, they can advocate for you in the event the doctor is trying to suggest a procedure like an epesiotomy when you may just need a little more time in labor.  Even better many offer post partum services like assistance with breastfeeding and new mom support.

    Doulas remind me of the wise women of tribes.  Usually they are older women who have already had children and assist with birthing the next generation.  They are there to calm your fears and remind you that you are designed to go through labor and delivery.

    Post # 4
    748 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’m seriously considering hiring a doula since I’d like to try for a natural birth. I’m interested to hear responses from bees who had one! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 5
    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I don’t think I will unless my insurance has a provision for it (I might have to switch insurance half way through :/ and I think my new insurance might).  I do think it sounds like a good idea.  I am ging to take Bradley classes with Darling Husband, so I am hoping he can be trained to help me through it (I *hope*/ plan to go natural as well, but we will be at the best hospital/ birthing center in town with an OB).

    Post # 6
    5148 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I was going to hire a doula. We met with one, but didn’t like her contact ($600, non-refundable fee, which covered a prenatal and postnatal visit and being present at the delivery; but if she couldn’t make it to the delivery, there was NO REFUND!) We never got around to interviewing any other doulas.

    My labor went so quick, I think I would have been disappointed I paid for a doula if I had one.

    My Darling Husband did a great job of “coaching” from what we learned in our Bradley classes. 

    Post # 7
    868 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think it is a great idea! My mom was as labor & delievery nurse for a long time or I’d be hiring one too.  I think that epecially with first time moms and dads, it’s great to have an advocate in the room and during the process. 

    Post # 8
    699 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We took Bradley and were trying to to have a natural water birth. Unfortunately my labor stalled and after 48 hours we decided on an epidural. In hindsight we wish we would’ve had a doula because we feel like she could’ve helped get my labor out of stalling.

    I would take a Bradley Class. It educates the husband to be the helper and if you feel like you still need more support, get a doula. Go to bradleybirth.com and you can find instructors near you. Most are run by doulas and you can either hire her or she can recommend someone to you. (if you in atlanta look for anette culp.. she’s great!)

    Good luck!


    Post # 9
    515 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens

    We just hired a doula for when our baby is due (which is next month!). Her services include all of the things you mentioned, plus she does newborn photography as soon as the baby arrives ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 10
    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    If you skim my birth story, YES I wish I’d have a doula now looking back. I kind of feel like most people don’t need one, I thought I was one of them, but I really could have used an advocate to get my horrible nurses out of my face, a comforting presence when I was at my most vulnerable/afraid.

    Post # 12
    320 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2012 - Wynn Las Vegas/Bouchon Bistro

    We hired a doula. Ours is pretty darn expensive, but we wanted someone with a great reputation and a lot of experience. Our midwife group highly recommended her — saying that we couldn’t have chosen anyone better! She does unlimited phone/email contact, 2 prenatal visits, labor assistance at home and in the hospital, breastfeeding support, and a postnatal visit. She takes photos of the birth and gives us the card afterwards. She also sent us a birthing ball and a relaxation/hypnosis cd.

    If our doula cannot make it to our birth (emergency, illness, etc) she has four back-ups, all of whom are equally awesome

    Post # 13
    1212 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    If I do get pregnant once we start TTC I would have a Doula. I didn’t know much about them but had one on my dragon boat team a few years ago. I had been talking about a pregnant friends worries and she gave me some tips to tell my friend.

    We got talking and she told me all sorts of wonderful things about hormones and chemicals and how to encourage labour just through interaction with Darling Husband etc. and everything she said made so much sense. She was just so calming and lovely that I promised myself if I ever got pregnant I would hire her or one of her colleagues.

    She also has a pool of doulas that can cover if they can’t make it to the birth and they try to meet you prior so you aren’t dealing a stranger at the most important time.


    Post # 14
    3773 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 1999

    There is no option for me on your poll:(

    I am already a mom and did not hire a doula. I had no pain meds with #1 with Pitocin, and epidural at 10 cm with #2, and am pregnant with #3. I don’t think for me personally they are neccesary.

    Post # 15
    1675 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We are in the process of hiring a doula (first meeting is scheduled for next week).

    I am really hoping to get into one of the midwifery practices in my area, but I am on the waiting list for all of them, despite having called the day of my BFP when I was only 3w6d pregnant! So I am hiring a doula knowing that I may have to be under an OB’s care instead of that of a midwife and, in that situation, I absolutely want labour support and an advocate. And if I do end up getting in with the midwives, then they are absolutely supportive of working witha doula.

    Post # 16
    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I didn’t hire one but I will definitely do it the next time around!

    Our Dirty Delete was born in an NHS hospital in England and the midwives sit in your room the whole time and basically act as a doula. I loved the experience. ๐Ÿ™‚ I had the same midwife for my entire active labor. 

    Our next baby will be born in the US and I will be hiring a doula to act in that capacity. ๐Ÿ™‚

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