The dreaded binkie!

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

my sister used the “binkie fairy” like the tooth fairy.  She told my neice she would be coming to take it soon because she was a big girl now.  She never asked for it again.  Im sure you can google it.   I think she also did this with bottles. 

Post # 5
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@roxy821:  Are you planning on using a binkie again with #2? Because it’s upsetting when one child starts attacking another for a binkie (I work in child care).

You could wean her off it fully now (before she gets more attached), but be aware that she will probably regress back into needing them for the first 4-8 months of the baby’s life.

So there’s a lot of factors at play!

Post # 6
661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ve heard of people poking small holes in the plastic so it looses the comforting suction that the kids seem to crave… After a few days the kids usually give it up on their own…

Post # 7
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

she was a big sister at 18 months… I think the binkie was taken around 22 months.

Post # 9
8678 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I have no advice but I wish you the best of luck. My godson’s mother weaned him off his binky, but he used to steal them from other children in day care. It was a constant uphill battle and nothing seemed to work. He even somehow smuggled one home from day care. He developed very minor dental issues because of it, but it corrected itself with no surgical intervention.

The best advice seems to never to start with a binky, but that doesn’t really help you now.

Post # 10
5883 posts
Bee Keeper

I wouldn’t rush her and force the issue right now. If she’s comforted by using it, you take it away and she substitutes a thumb or a finger for it, THAT is a much harder habit to break and can cause way more damage to her mouth.


Ask your Dr. for some guidelines with regard to using it and for how long.


Post # 11
5968 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

@roxy821:  You just have to bite the bullet. My son was so addicted to his! I lost the only one he would use and after about 3-4 days things got easier. I just had to stay home and deal. I probably didn’t help much lol but that’s what worked for me.

Post # 14
476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My children are 17 months apart.  Both were very addicted to their binky.  At the age of 1, my oldest was only allowed to have it for sleep and car rides.  I did not allow him to have it walking around the house, in stores etc.  He had a binky basket in his room and when he got up, he put it in the basket and before bed, he got one out.  He started phasing himself out.  If he didn’t take it, I didnt remind him to.  In the car, I didnt give it to him unless he asked.  Shortly after turning 2, I explained that the binky was someone’s baby and his mom and dad missed him and really needed him back.  I also told him that his brother still used one because he is a baby, and since he was my big boy, it was time to send it back.  We packaged it up in a box and off it went.  The first few nights were a little restless, but not horrible.  He still slept.  The car was fine as he rarely asked for it.


Did the same thing for my youngest.  However, he had them stashed EVERYWHERE.  He would pull one out from under the couch cushion, drawers, his toy box.  Once we discovered all of them, we did the same rules… only at bed etc.  Sent the binky back to his parents, few restless nights and it was gone. 


I would either do it now, or wait until after the baby is born.  Too much adjustment at once is tough on the little ones.

Post # 15
2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@roxy821:  Binkie is pacifier, right?  We never called it that (it was lovingly called “paci” by my son” and his blankie is a “buppie”–


My son had his paci until he was two.  I know for some that might seem too old.  But here were my thoughts:  it wasn’t damaging is teeth.  They never stuck out- as a matter of fact, they were nice and straight.  And it was mainly used for sleep time- I don’t remember exactly when we stpped carrying one one with us- (he’s five now)-  

it was a comfort thing.  There is nothing wrong with a baby being soothed.  I knew at some point he’d be ready to give it up on his own- and that’s just what he did.  He realized he was old enough that he didn’t need one anymore- but he was allowed to make this decision on his own.    Yes, we’d talk about it- explaining to hiim that he didn’t need that, it was for babies.  Sometimes I’d tease him and playfully tell him “you’re being such a baby with that”- 

trying to just take away something that’s so soothing for a young kid without any reasoning other than a book tells you you should, or you’re embarrassed to have a kid with a picifier seems really unfair to me. That kid doesn’t understand why you’re taking away something that conforts them.


I will never take away my son’s security blanket.  It’s small (issie by Aden & Anais)- and he loves just touching the ends of it (the silky part)- but it’s very soothing to him.  I find nothing wrong with that.


Unless your child is having dental issues from her binkie, my suggestion would be to just talk to her- remember- children have control over very little in thier lives.  If you make a big deal out of the binkie, she might want it even more just because she feels like she has control over the situation.  It’s why some kids are picky eaters.  They don’t have control over a lot- but you can’t exactly force feed a child.  So it’s like the one area they know they have control- sounds strange maybe, but our DR explained that to us.


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