(Closed) The dreaded cash bar…

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have a friend whose getting married, and they don’t ever drink. I think it’s kind of silly for people who are having small weddings and don’t drink to be forced to pay for guests’ alcohol consumption :). I know a lot of people think of alcohol as a requirement for a wedding, but I think you’ll be just fine :).

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MsRMTiffany: You don’t have to do a full open bar. Maybe just have wine and beer and a champagne toast.

Or you could place 2-3 bottles of wine on each table and when it’s gone it’s gone.

Can you supply your own alcohol? Or does the venue require they provide it?

I think not having hard liquor and just doing wine and beer is a fine option (and would help you save some money).

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@MsRMTiffany:  I wouldn’t do a cash bar under any circumstances.  You just don’t ask your guests to pay for their own refreshments.  Choose the option that works with your budget even if that means a dry wedding with a champagne toast.  You can mitigate people’s upset with this by having an afternoon reception instead of an evening reception. 

A beer and wine bar is also a less expensive option.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Do beer and wine, with a champane toast. Cash Bar is rude to your guests, it’s like “hey thanks for driving out here, getting us a gift, but go buy your own drinks”. Beer + Wine won’t set you back too much, and your guests will appreciate it. And hey – you’ll probably want a glass of wine or two!

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I personally don’t understand why cash bars are considered ‘tacky’! If you decide that you are not providing an open bar, for whatever reason, then having your guests pay for their own drinks is no biggie! Maybe it’s a regional thing, but cash bars are the norm where I’m from. I wouldn’t worry about it. Your guests are coming to celebrate with you, hopefully not to judge your reception. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think you should do a beer and wine bar. I’m in the same camp that you shuold not ask your guests to pay for anything. Personally I think its rude, I’d rather is be a dry reception than have to pay for anything.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If you’re providing other options (water, soda, etc) I don’t see why it’s unheard of to ask guests to pay for alcohol.  We did a few drink tickets per guest so that we provided some, if they wanted additional they could purchase them.  You could also do a wine bottle on each table as part of a centerpiece, and give them their booze that way. 

 

Do whatever you want.  If people arrive and think ‘OH NOEZ THERE’S NO BOOZE?’ then they’re not there for the right reasons.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I would think that for 40 people, it would be very easy and low cost to provide wine, and perhaps beer if you want.  You could probably get everything you need for $200 or less, and no one should be offended by that.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@puddingpop: They are considered “tacky” because you are inviting these people to your event. As part of the event etiquette states that these guests pay their own way TO the event as well as get the couple a gift. By asking them to pay for their refreshments on top of that, what are you really providing at the event? Also, many people do not even carry cash anymore.

I have never been to a wedding with a cash bar, but I think limiting what is available at the bar is perfectly OK.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m in the beer and wine camp, I really don’t see the point of cash bars.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

I agree with @puddingpop.  I’ve never been to a wedding that had an open bar all night.  Most just had a one hour open bar for the cocktail hour.  I know when I go to a wedding that I should bring cash, so it’s not that big of a deal. I would MUCH rather pay for my own drinks than go to a dry wedding. Just do what you can afford and don’t worry about what people think.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

“I personally don’t understand why cash bars are considered ‘tacky’!”

Because as the hosts its up to you to provide for your guests when you invite them to your event.  You wouldn’t invite friends to dinner and then ask them to pay for the steak you’re serving would you? 

You entertain at the level you can afford.  If that means a cake and punch reception, then that’s what you do.  You don’t decide you want the bells and whistles but ask your guests to pay for them.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Boston Bee: I agree! I always bring my own money when I go to weddings, better to be safe than sober..HA! Wink

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

totally second boston bee

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