Post # 1
is 2 hours too long between ceremony and reception??
FI and I have found the perfect place to have our ceremony. its in a state park that also has a mansion they rent out for weddings. they give brides who reserve the mansion first dibs on all the spaces and if they havent elected to use our space by jan. 2 we can grab it for our ceremony time of 4 pm.
if they do choose to use it, we can still reserve it, but we have to be done by 3:30, meaning we’ll have to start our ceremony by 2:30. our reception cocktail hour doesnt start until 6 pm. the ceremony is exactly 20 minutes from the hotel where the reception is.
90% of the guests will be OOT and there is a very nice bar in the hotel. my hope is everyone would have to check in and get settled, filling an hour at least… can i get away with a potential 2 hour gap?
Post # 4
For me, 2 hours isn’t that long. Lately all the weddings that I have been in have been 3 and 4 hours, which isn’t bad for the bridal party, but for the guests, it’s rediculous.
Post # 3
I would do my best to try to avoide that 2 hour gap- it sucks BUT reading your description that there is a hotel bar in the same area as the reception, will be good !
Are you providing shuttles between ceremony and reception ?
I think the biggest issue with gaps between ceremony and reception is that guests that OOT have nothing to do especially if it is not a city wedding. I have been to weddings where the guests went to a diner in the 2 hour gap and did not eat anything at the reception.
As long as you provide information of what people can do during the gap, that will be good !
Post # 5
I think 2 hours is ok, as PP mentioned, have something for guests to do.
I went to a wedding on Saturday with a 5 hour gap and it was way too much.
Post # 6
2 hours isn’t that much in my eyes, that’s what we’re having. With OOT guests though, make sure you give them the knowledge of things to do. We’re doing an out of town package, with a small ‘booklet’ full of where the bars are, a map that were putting little stickers with interesting things to do in the city (like a park, where the movie theaters are, bowling ally, nice cafes, other things to do). We’re also giving them all a free drink at the bar at the hotel where our reception is going to be, just to get them to go and sit there. There’s also a cocktail hour.
But yeah, 2 hours isnt that much
Post # 9
2 hours is absolutely fine! People can go and have a light lunch, or suggest a local place they can visit!
Post # 7
I’m sorry. I’m not understanding why you cannot reserve the mansion and be one of the brides who has first dibs on the space. Can you please explain what you mean by this?
Post # 8
Weddings with gaps are SOOOO common around here (lots of Catholics) I don’t think 2 hours is bad at all. Heck, most B&Gs include info in the program on nearby bars/resturants for people to go to during the gap. If it was like, 8 hours, then I’d tell you you’ve got issues. Our ceremony will likely begin at 2:30, with a reception beginning at either 5:30 or 6, though, so I’m obviously biased.
Post # 10
Wow, I just looked at the poll votes.
Every single wedding I have been to (15+) has had at least a 2 hours gap in the middle so the bridal party can go have location photos.
May be an Aussie thing? No one ever cares, they check into their hotel, sit in the sun, go have some lunch etc.
Post # 11
@StL.Ashley: That’s a great idea to include this info on the program. Too bad ours are already printed!
I don’t think that a 2 hour gap is bad at all. Most of the guests will either check into the hotel, or head back to freshen up before the reception. They might grab a drink at the hotel bar, or do some quick sight seeing during the gap. I wouldn’t worry about it, seems that gaps are standard 🙂
Post # 12
@Brielle: we can’t book the mansion because we dont want to. we are only interested in renting the park’s ampitheather for our ceremony. the mansion is in a different part of the state park, but the state has a policy of letting the brides who shell out the $5,000 to rent the mansion get first dibs on all the spaces in the park. their contract just says that they cannot begin set up in those other public spaces until after 3:30 which is why we could have the ceremony earlier, and thus the gap… we already have a reception site that works for us, but even if we did want to rent the manison, it was booked through this summer 2013 when we got engaged in november 2011.
@StL.Ashley: i am used to the gap with all the irish catholic weddings ive been to in my life… i think part of my issue is that we are not having a catholic ceremony so i feel guilty with the gap!
@cirk: a booklet is a good idea. i thought we would do something in the OOT bags, but thats agood idea to specify things to do during the gap.
@karineh: the reception is actually in the hotel, which has a full bar in it as well. we are having it at a hotel so we dont have to deal with shuttles, but the hotel does have one into the downtown area.
Post # 13
2 hour gaps are the norm for most of my family who are catholics and it’s manageable for most people. Have a few suggestions for out town guest and it should be fine.
Post # 14
@bostongirl27: We’re going to have like a 4 hour gap, so my mom is hosting an informal gathering at her house in between. We did the same thing for my sister’s wedding years ago and it worked out really well.
Post # 15
@bostongirl27: Ahh. OK. Now I understand. Thank you for clarifying.