The dreaded gap!

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@LarLa:  I think you should push your cocktail hour up* a bit… the cocktail hour is NOT for the bride and groom, it is for the GUESTS so they have refreshments while you’re doing photos.

The reception starts when the bride & groom make their entrance.


What else are you having for your guests while you spend 2 1/2 hours getting photos?  We did not do a first look and managed to have all of our photos done during the one hour cocktail hour.  


Post # 4
526 posts
Busy bee

@DaneLady:  This!


We too had a large gap, to allow people to get to the hotel and check in, however it was too long and some guests were bored or pre partied before the cocktail hour.  Unfortunately it was the only option for us, however it didn’t make the day any less amazing.

If I had it to do over, I would have paid the extra whatever and had coctail hour extended an hour earlier, and had the DJ, photobooth open and put out games or something…


Post # 5
133 posts
Blushing bee

Is it possible to have your ceremony after the 4pm Mass? That’s what we were able to do. You need to find a way to get rid of the gap. Either move your reception up, or the ceremony back. 

Post # 6
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@LarLa:  I have no problems with the gap and have never been to a wedding without one.  I would agree with PP’s though and suggest that you move your cocktail hour up to when your photos start.  It will give your guests something to do as no one wants to be hungry and waiting around.  It doesn’t have to cost a lot – you can serve punch and finger foods instead of alcohol and hot appies.  Your guests will be happy knowing that you took the time to think about them and cater to them.  

ETA: Our ceremony will start at 4 and end around 4:30.  We are starting our cocktail hour right away and leaving the venue to get photos taken at a nearby beach.  During that time we’ll serve punch and fingerfoods, our DJ will play music and guests will be able to order a drink from the bar, sit back and relax on the oceanside patio or play some lawn games.  Our reception will start at 6 but I don’t think we’ll need a full 90 minutes for photos.  If we get back early we’ll pose for photos for our guests (as we’re having an unplugged ceremony), take an aerial group shot from the 3rd floor balcony with everyone and enjoy some refreshments with our guests before heading inside to start dinner. 


Post # 7
10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

2:30 ceremony with 5:30 cocktails/6:30 dinner was our timeline too. It was perfect, and we even had to fit in about 45 minutes of travel during rush hour. 

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