Post # 1
So it looks as if we’ll have around 120 people at our wedding. The ceremony is 35 minutes at the church and than our reception is right after in a ballroom (at another venue) and there is a cocktail hour with appetizers and than a reception with dinner etc.
I can imagine that as the ceremony ends everyone gathers outside the church and we exit … first. We are whisked away to where the reception is and we greet guests as they enter the cocktail hour(that will be the receiving line) …
We could have a receiving line as guests exit the church … but I don’t imagine this to be as nice because maybe most of our guests are family … they will probably all stay at the church and expect pictures (which we don’t want to do … no formal shots with extended family at the church) …. and than random people will show up at the cocktail hour and be like … ok. =( …
What do you think? What would you do? I cannot figure this out.
Post # 3
hmmm i think for you the best idea is the first one to go straight after to your venue and do a receiving line there since you are not doing formal shots at the church. people WILL want to take shots with you if you do right after the ceremony.
We are doing table visits instead of a receiving line. Much easier since everyone can take pix at the same time our photog is taking pics with people and we get to thank everyone personally but since our photog is there they can control the amount of chatting people will be doing. hehe
Post # 4
So when do you plan to do table visits? (like at what point?)
Post # 5
I also agree that receiving line is really passe now. Bride and groom usually try to mingle and talk to as many guests as possible during cocktail. When dinner is served, just take a few bites and ask the caterer to box it up if you can’t finish your food. That’s when you do table visits. Do table visits anytime when your guests are eating as long as it’s not during toasts and not during dancing party (if there is one).
On an unrelated matter, I’m just curious as to why you do not plan to take photos after the ceremony? Do you choose not to have posed photos with your family?
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House
I think if you decide to do a receiving line, you should make time (like 30 mins. or so) in your timeline for it. Otherwise, go into hiding, let your guests move on from the ceremony to the reception, and either greet them there or I’ve also seen it done during dinner. At the last wedding I attended, the bride and groom sat at their sweetheart table and a majority of the guests came up to them to say hi/congrats/etc. at some point during the reception. I think we are going to try and walk around tables during the dinner.
Post # 7
I like the idea of greeting your guests at the cocktail hour. Are you taking photos during the remainder of the cocktail hour?
As for going around table to table, I would suggest doing that during dinner (after you eat of course!!) but before dessert. With only 120 guests- thats what 12-15 tables? Just make a brief appearance at each table & then mingle some more during the dancing and partying.
Post # 8
If you do a receiving line, I don’t think you need to do table visits — its either/or. I prefer receiving lines after the ceremony, because everyone is all joyful and congratulatory. Anyone you miss then won’t feel slighted — they will probably just find you at the reception.
Post # 9
we had the same problem. we have decided to forgo the receiving line entirely. We’ve never liked them much anyway – they seem so forced.
So we are having all the guests line up outside the church (while we hide in a backroom after walking down the aisle). Then we will leave the church in a grand exit.
We aren’t having the line at our cocktail hour either. Instead we are going to try to just walk around to every table and speak to every guest at some point in the night. I hope it works out!
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
We’re doing the receiving line at the reception/cocktail hour.
Post # 11
yes, our table visits are going to require something my fiance is not fond of…eating quickly and starting to visit right after eating! but its our tradition and this is one of the few that i will stick to!
Post # 12
I’m not a big fan of receiving lines. From a photographer’s perspective if you plan on doing any portraits, even if its just you and the groom or your wedding party, then you should consider against it or plan to do it after photos it seems like there is never enough time planned for them. From a guest perspectives, who wants to stand in line for 30mins and only have a second to chat, I would rather get to cocktail party and mingle with your other guests and chat with you when you are relaxed and having fun. I would talk to your photographer about it.
Post # 13
My husband and I dismissed each row at the church. I’m so glad I did because I wasn’t able to make it to every table at the reception and we only had 150 guests.