(Closed) The dreaded line … should we do the receiving line or not? I cannot decide.

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

hmmm i think for you the best idea is the first one to go straight after to your venue and do a receiving line there since you are not doing formal shots at the church.  people WILL want to take shots with you if you do right after the ceremony.

We are doing table visits instead of a receiving line. Much easier since everyone can take pix at the same time our photog is taking pics with people and we get to thank everyone personally but since our photog is there they can control the amount of chatting people will be doing. hehe

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I also agree that receiving line is really passe now. Bride and groom usually try to mingle and talk to as many guests as possible during cocktail. When dinner is served, just take a few bites and ask the caterer to box it up if you can’t finish your food. That’s when you do table visits. Do table visits anytime when your guests are eating as long as it’s not during toasts and not during dancing party (if there is one).

On an unrelated matter, I’m just curious as to why you do not plan to take photos after the ceremony? Do you choose not to have posed photos with your family?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House

I think if you decide to do a receiving line, you should make time (like 30 mins. or so) in your timeline for it.  Otherwise, go into hiding, let your guests move on from the ceremony to the reception, and either greet them there or I’ve also seen it done during dinner.  At the last wedding I attended, the bride and groom sat at their sweetheart table and a majority of the guests came up to them to say hi/congrats/etc. at some point during the reception.  I think we are going to try and walk around tables during the dinner.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I like the idea of greeting your guests at the cocktail hour. Are you taking photos during the remainder of the cocktail hour?  

As for going around table to table, I would suggest doing that during dinner (after you eat of course!!) but before dessert. With only 120 guests- thats what 12-15 tables? Just make a brief appearance at each table & then mingle some more during the dancing and partying.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If you do a receiving line, I don’t think you need to do table visits — its either/or. I prefer receiving lines after the ceremony, because everyone is all joyful and congratulatory. Anyone you miss then won’t feel slighted — they will probably just find you at the reception. 

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

we had the same problem.  we have decided to forgo the receiving line entirely.  We’ve never liked them much anyway – they seem so forced.

 

So we are having all the guests line up outside the church (while we hide in a backroom after walking down the aisle).  Then we will leave the church in a grand exit.

 

We aren’t having the line at our cocktail hour either.  Instead we are going to try to just walk around to every table and speak to every guest at some point in the night.  I hope it works out!

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

We’re doing the receiving line at the reception/cocktail hour.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

yes, our table visits are going to require something my fiance is not fond of…eating quickly and starting to visit right after eating!  but its our tradition and this is one of the few that i will stick to!

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I’m not a big fan of receiving lines.  From a photographer’s perspective if you plan on doing any portraits, even if its just you and the groom or your wedding party, then you should consider against it or plan to do it after photos it seems like there is never enough time planned for them.  From a guest perspectives, who wants to stand in line for 30mins and only have a second to chat, I would rather get to cocktail party and mingle with your other guests and chat with you when you are relaxed and having fun.  I would talk to your photographer about it. 

Good luck!

Post # 13
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Helper bee

My husband and I dismissed each row at the church.  I’m so glad I did because I wasn’t able to make it to every table at the reception and we only had 150 guests.

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