- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
ok so, im a smart, logical, practical person. and i have been following the dress boards long enough to know what to expect when dress shopping, trying on, buying, and the next step in the dress journey, the arrival and first try on.
i was scared. seriously. i ordered the dress in white, but had tried on probably 30 dress samples in ivory. id had an extra inch added to the neckline for coverage of these huge DDD disgusting boobs. this particular gown gives a unique shape. it has an inner corset, and has fine chiffon ruching in the bust. alot of aspects of the gown are what i call ‘variables’ from sample to sample. every bride ive seen photos of wearing it looks alot different yet somehow exactly the same.
i am keenly aware of the fact that sample dresses can be stretched, dinged, a longer length, clipped up instead of actually fitting, situated on the body in a particular manner to make it look as best as it possibly can. just totally not even really a true representation of what a just-made, brand new, fitted to the right size gown will look like.
i expect all of this this, i really did. ive even advised other bees that the dress is SUPPOSED to not fit on the first try on. it is SUPPOSED to be altered after the fact to fit a woman perfectly. i guess id hoped that it would be perfect, regardless of my practical and logical thinking. but alas, its not. and im thinking i could easily panic!! but i am not, im trying to hold myself together.
i havent gotten much tanning done yet, so, though im dark complected, i feel pasty. i have tried dieting, but only have lost 3 or 5 lbs from the holiday gain. when i compare newer boutique photos from when i ordered my dress in Feb to the October of last year photos when i first tried it on, it looks gross to me now. ive gained. ya ive still got about 4 months to lose. but i just cant make the first step to get started, i have no willpower. the dress is bunchy in the hips, the shape is not smooth like the sample. the cut of the dress is very unique and gives a shape to my waist which i didnt see on the sample.
my hair is inbetween styles because im letting it grow as long as i can between now and the wedding, so im not happy with my hair right now.
i seriously need to buy spanx. ive actually never ever worn any shapewear and i know women who wear it daily to work. i just go out on the weekends feeling self consious when there are solutions out there that i havent embraced yet.
i am aware that i only have a precious few photos from yesterday’s arrival session in the salon. the lighting is bad, the angles r bad, im slouching, the petticoat was too full from being rolled into a ball in their backroom for a long time. ok…no problem. so NOW i know i can slip the dress on (its now in my closet!! finally!) and take as many pics as i want. i know that they just slapped the dress on me without much attention to getting it perfect because i am being handed off to alterations soon. which i wont actually do for probably 2 to 3 months.
the dress is a tad bit big in the hips but tight in the waist, and fits pretty good in the bust. i guess i was hoping the dress would be huge everywhere since i ordered what seemed to me like a large size for me to accomodate my large bust. but its a pretty damn close fit, so it actually alarms me! i need to diet!
overall, i know the answers to my own questions.
1. im really just venting right now. i just am trying to rationalize and not panic.
2. theres still a few months to work out any issues with dress fitting in alterations
3. i need to embrace my options with shapewear and can use it anytime i want to help with self-image/confidence. alot of women wear shapewear all the time!
4. my skin, nails, hair, makeup, and accessories will help with overall look once it gets closer to the wedding.
5. i knew/know the basics of dress trying on and the differences between dress samples, and actual brand new gowns. i expected this.
6. i can now try the dress on as many times as i want to get a ton of photos
7. i need to stop comparing the new dress to the sample dress because it is NOT the sample dress. it is the same materials, in 99.9% identical arrangement, but probably made by completely different hands, long after the sample was constructed.
when i get more pics from my mom, ill post pics in a new thread! just wanted to share my mindset right now. thanks for reading!