The dreaded post-holiday hand check…any advice?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@plum_pudding:  LOL This happened to me every time we’d see my FI’s friends. I’d always pretend to backhand them. This strategy might not be the best for everyone, but it worked for me. 

Oh…. if they’re married, grab their bellies and ask if they’re pregnant yet. If they’re old, check for a pulse. 

😀

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@plum_pudding:  How annoying! Luckily it never happened to me, but man, that really stinks. No real advice from me, except trying to flash the non-engagement ring a LOT before they have a chance to attack your hand. I hate being touched by people, even family, without permission so this would drive me bonkers.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@plum_pudding:  I had this happen to me for the first time the other day. I thought my SO was going to propose on our recent trip, but due to me changing the ring design, he didn’t. So my co-worker grabbed my hand and said “I don’t see a different ring!” lol. I didn’t mind, but I guess I could see how it would get annoying after a while. My family isn’t big on being in your face like that, and neither is his, so I guess I don’t have a lot of advice. Just say “it’ll happens when it happens and we’ll let you know”, I guess?  :/

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@plum_pudding:  Oh, no, I am in the phase of belly touching and asking “Are you preggos yet?” We got married in July so that is my version of the “holiday ring check”. A relative of mine actually saw me drinking wine at a Christmas party and said with a sad tone, “Oh, and here I was hoping you’d have a special announcement to make this Christmas.” What? No. Just because we’re married doesn’t mean we want to start making babies right away!

I dread the day if I ever do get pregnant because I will be tempted to wear a shirt that says, “Yes, I am pregnant. No, you cannot touch my belly.”

Post # 10
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Worker bee

I’m really, really not a manicure person, but this might be a good use of one. That is, maybe you could get a funny or cool manicure (christmasy, all sparkles, fancy designs, or just paint S.T.F.U. across them).

Then, you could ignore that they want to ask about a ring and just say “Why yes! I’m so glad you noticed that my nails are just to-die-for! Thanks so much!!! “. Subject changed.

 

🙂 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

@veilofanonymity:  That’s hilarious! I think an “N” and an “O” on the left hand middle and ring fingernails would also suffice.

OP, whenever anyone asks me about our (lack of) engagement situation, I always just direct them to my SO. If I’m going to be tortured about it, he should be too! 😛

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@plum_pudding:  Dang! Poor girl! Maybe you’ll want to get a shirt that says “No, I am not engaged yet.”

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Wear mittens!;)

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