Post # 1
I’ve been reading sooo many old threads on here that turn into photographers vs brides about whether or not giving your photog a shot list is a good thing or a bad thing.
I can see how telling your photographer to get pictures like “bride and mother”, “bride walking down aisle”, “groom staring at bride” would be super annoying. But we have a few shots of things that meaningful to us that she would have no idea to take otherwise – and so I want to know is it okay to ask for those pictures?!
Some examples are a photo of our feet (I have a tattoo I want captured and he’s wearing some special socks he wore on our first date) and pics of our rings with a stuffed animal we share back and forth when we one of us goes on a trip without the other. There are a few others like this too, so I’ve probably got about six special things we want done. For the photographers out there, would you be annoyed if your brides gave you a list like this?!
Post # 3
I’m not a photographer, but if you have something that is special to both of you that the photographer wouldn’t know about, you absolutely should tell them. You are paying them (probably) massive amounts of money to capture this huge day in your life. If a photographer doesn’t want to hear these things, they should not be shooting WEDDINGS!
Post # 4
i sent an e-mail to my planner that had photo ideas (including pics from other weddings). when i got to the wedding site, the photographer had a print out of my e-mail and all my photo examples.
i got my most important shots and couldn’t be happier.
i sent this picture and said “i want a group photo here”
i got this photo and it’s hanging on my wall as a canvas print now
basically what i’m saying is this…. YOU are the customer. you should get what you want. give them a list ahead of time to ensure you get your money’s worth. obviously don’t give them one last minute… especially if you have photos that may take time to set up. give them time to figure out how they want to get your shots, so send it ahead of time.
Post # 5
If it’s sentimental I can’t see why not. Plus you said a ring shot that is a shot all photographers should get but if you wnat to add a stuffed animal that is fairly simple to do and doesn;t take up much time and effort on their part. Foot/shoes shot is pretty popular to do as well but I would say it just in case.
Post # 6
Thanks ladies! I agree with you both – I think I just read so many other threads where I was starting to doubt myself. Some of those debates get HEATED! Ugh.
Thanks for the great example, Roswarms! 🙂
Post # 7
Some pictures are obvious to the photographer who is used to attend weddings. But others, such as your tattoo, are not. You have to tell them. You’re the customer, and the photograph has to meet all your expectations, but in order to do that, you have to discuss with him/her. I know that I want a very specific artistic touch to my pictures, so I’ll have to see many of the photographer’s work and discuss a lot to about our expectations to decide if I choose to signe a contract or not. I think sending examples of pictures you like or expect is a good idea !
Post # 8
I’m a photographer and I would much rather you told me about any shots that I couldn’t be expected to read your mind about. So yes, please don’t tell me how to do my job but also, please don’t let your wedding pass without getting those extra special shots that are unique to you and your FI because you think I’d be offended about a shot list.
Everyone’s wedding has unique elements that are important to capture and any decent photographer will want to make sure they capture them.
Post # 9
I think a few items/shots that might not be obvious are totally fine! it’s just those insane shot lists with like… every moment of a wedding (and moments that might not happen like “groom crying”) on them that are completely irrational and nutso.
I plan on asking my photographers to get a picture of my grandmother’s locket on my bouquet, and of me and my brother sitting in the pew that has our family name on it in the church. Things that are not obvious, its ok to point out!
Post # 10
My photographer actually asks for a list of anything unique that we want captured. I think your short list of that stuff is totally fine!
Post # 11
I think you’re fine giving a list of those things. Otherwise you might forget the day of to ask.
I also wouldn’t assume that the photographer knows the “obvious” shots. I did and the only shot I asked for ahead of time was of my parents rings tied on my bouquet. I’m pretty certain if I hadn’t asked for that he wouldn’t have even taken a shot of my bouquet at all. The day of if I hadn’t asked for certain shots mine would have missed a lot more of what I thought were standard shots (like me and my dad). I wish I had remembered to ask for one of DH and I with his parents or DH and all his siblings. Maybe ask your photographer if they have a list of standard shots that they do?
Post # 12
@midwestgirl80: nope. Those are the kind of things I want to know. ” first kiss” , got that covered haha! Your list is 100% reasonable.
I send clients a questionnaire that asks for a list of family formals and and special items or people of significance like elderly relatives etc
what I don’t take are three page lists of obvious shots or photos that people want ” copied”. Whether or not a photographer will accept those is normally up to the way they choose to work, their experience level or their creativity.
I prefer to be hired by couples looking for unique and creative work that stems from how the day unfolds. Long lists hinder me way more than they’d ever help. I like to keep my eyes on the action, not a piece of paper! 🙂
Post # 13
Trust me, we’re not opposed to getting a shot list if it’s important and meaningful things.
I’m most defintitely not going to know to take a photo of your feet, unless you tell me.
Our biggest gripe is long shots lists like the ones people copy from “the knot” and magazines. It’s a long list of things that are already a given for any professional wedding photographer. If you (not you, just general you) have hired someone who needs one of those lists….RUN.
I send my clients an info form to fill out a couple weeks before the wedding. In it it details all the locations we need, finalized times, parents & siblings names, bridal party names, and all FAMILY formal groupings. Outside of that I ask them to let me know if there is anything special or unusual they want photographed that might be out of the norm.
Just email your photographer and say, “hey, I have a few shots with some keepsakes that I really want to make sure we get.” Just let him know what they are.
Post # 14
@midwestgirl80: A professional photographer would want the list. You pay really good money to have the pictures YOU want. The photographer we are looking at actually requests a list and gives you a small discount for providing one.
Post # 15
@midwestgirl80: I”m not a photographer, but i know mine has asked that I let her know if we have any special touches that might be missed. So if you know you want a picture of your tattoo, you should tell her.
We’re going to do a shoe/sock pick too. Another one that’s slightly offbeat – if all my cousins actually make it to the wedding I need a photo of me and my cousins – we haven’t all been in one place in 12 years – for that matter, we’ve never all been in the same place because my half brother is only 6!
Post # 16
I’d definitely tell them. I think the issue is when you give them a list of 100 obvious shots. However, if you have like 6 shots that aren’t typical and you don’t want missed, why would you NOT tell them??? You’re the customer, and they want you to be happy.