(Closed) The dress regret monster has come for his first visit :(

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

For my two cents, I think you look gorgeous in this dress! The ultimate question is: do YOU like it? Regardless of what your parents say – it’s not their dress!

If you would like to make it more modest and perhaps meet them in the middle, maybe a lace bolero or something to cover your shoulders for the ceremony? Then you can take it off for the reception.

Post # 5
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238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Aaahh, I see. Well, the cathedral length veil might add a little modesty and traditionalism as well for your parents πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think the dress looks beautiful on you! You definitely have the body for it, so don’t worry about that.

EVERYTHING is a fad. Everything. Throughout history, women have been picking out “classic, timeless” dresses- and in 20 years their kids are like, “Mom, what’s up with your dress?” My mother’s wedding dress was beautiful, but could I imagine myself wearing it? Hell to the no. Fashion is going to change no matter what you wear, so as long as you look and feel good in it, that’s what matters! It’s not like the dress is ridiculously trendy, either. It’s just a more form-fitting sillouete, and it looks great on you.

And that last picture IS a weird angle- one which no one will be looking at you from, unless they are 5. And if they’re 5, they automatically think a bride is the most beautiful person in the world.

Most importantly, don’t worry about what your parents think! When you’re walking down the aisle, the last thing they’re going to be thinking about is how they wish you were wearing something more traditional… they’re going to be in awe of how beautiful you look and the fact that their little girl is getting married. Do what makes YOU happy at this point in your life. Don’t worry about anyone else.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think the dress is absolutely gorgeous on you. But you are the one that has to wear it. Nobody else has to be comfortable in the dress but you. I know these are things that you know and have heard before, but only you are the one that can tell if you can picture yourself in the dress on your wedding day. Good luck with your deciding!! 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think its a beautiful dress on you.  Other peoples opinions can definately ruin it for you.  I think puffy sleeves would date you:)  But that dress is beautiful and I think it will look like that forever.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I love you in that dress! I think that if you love it, you should wear it– no matter what others say.  It’s certainly not riske’ by any means, but the important thing is that you are comfortable.  Also, remember you can always sell it on the various websites if the bridal store won’t return it.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think it looks gorgeous on you and I’m not even a huge fan of fitted dresses.  If you felt great when wearing it, that’s all that matters.  Like a previous poster said, pretty much everything is a fad or trend.  In fashion, nothing stays the same for very long.  I’m actually surprised that most wedding dresses have stayed white (in one form or another) for this long in Western society.  The bottom line is that you have to love your dress.. I know you want your parents to love it too, but they haven’t seen it on you in person either.  It will be a totally different experience.  You have to trust the feelings you have when you wear the dress.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

@Anniebo: You want honest? Okay. I do not think this is the absolute most flattering dress you could find. It draws attention to your hips (as fit+flare and mermaid styles often do). BUT that is not necessarily a bad thing. A dress that draws attention to your hips also makes your waist look incredibly tiny.

I do think the dress looks great. I also think that another style may be more flattering (a natural-waisted A-line for example). If you love the dress, then this is the dress. There is nothing about it that makes me say “don’t wear it!”, in fact that opposite. It does look great on you πŸ™‚

Sort of a roundabout way of saying that while the dress may not be the most flattering thing out there, it still looks really really good and you should wear it if you love it!

(Also, that last picture is just a super bad angle. Delete it and burn it from your memory forever. The first two pictures are lovely)

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Anniebo:

You are simply stunning! No regrets if it’s purely financial regret, you’ve already invested so much in this dress. I think you look romantic, sweet, and very bridal. A cathedral veil is my favorite πŸ™‚ I hope you can find peace of mind. * HUGS *

Post # 14
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1956 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

WOW! I love your dress! I was not expecting to from the way you described it but honestly, I think it’s beautiful and that you look really great in it…Personally, I would stay with that one but obviously, I’m not the one wearing it…

If you really think you’re not going to be happy wearing it, then it might be worth asking the salon if you can switch but personally, I’d stay with that one πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think you look great in that dress! Keep in mind pictures will always be pictures and I find wedding dresses are always more gorgeous in person. I still look back at pics of my dress and I remember it was much more amazing when I saw myself in the mirror instead of seeing it in pictures. I personally think you do have the body type for the dress, it’s true not everyone can pull off a mermaid but you definitely can! I find that people like family and friends will always have something to say about your dress, that is why near the end I just went dress shopping alone…if I loved the dress, it was the one! 

I do agree that the last picture is a really bad angle…other than that, i honestly think you look great in that dress!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Is mermaids just a fad, and am I going to look back and regret it in years to come?

Are you buying it based on the popularity of the style? They might go out of style, but if you really love them, it doesn’t matter πŸ™‚ I don’t think they’ll be out of style anytime soon.

Is it not conservative and modest enough, do I look like I am trying to show off my body on my wedding day?

It is conservative and modest, for sure!!! It covers you up just fine. 

Do I not have the body for it?

Yes, yes, YES! You look amazing. You’ve gotta feel comfortable and beautiful though. If you don’t, I highly suggest you keep looking.

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