the emotions of the wait

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

He probably got nervous! I hear even though they know we’ll say yes, they still get nervous. I’m sure it’ll happen soon. We all have our emotional times. If I had known he’d had the ring that long I would be going crazy!!

Post # 3
36 posts

I’m sorry you are having a rough time. I would be too if I found out he had taken the ring on vacation and didn’t ask!  In fact, we are going on vacation at the end of the month and the ring is somewhere in our house. I know that I’m getting my hopes up and will likely come home sad and ringless. But, I don’t think we realize how nerve wracking it is for guys to propose. I bet he just got nervous.

Also, I can relate to the fear that he can change his mind. My bf broke up with me early on in our relationship (also due to him freaking out about life and the seriousness of our relationship) and even though we have been back together and strong for 4+ years, I still have moments of fear that he is going to walk back out of my life.  But, just remember, he bought you a ring and is planning to propose. He loves you. Hang in there and feel free to vent. This is a pretty great community of ladies that don’t seem to judge or make me feel silly when I’m being silly.  😉

Post # 4
1107 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

outdoorsycouple:  From what you’re saying, it sounds like he’s unsure if he really wants to marry you. It sounds like he bought the ring and now is nervous to pull the trigger because he may be second guessing? Maybe that’s not true but from reading your post, that’s how it kind of sounds? Not to be a downer but if he’s concerned you’re “not the one” at any point, I would personally be concerned.

Post # 5
140 posts
Blushing bee

I can relate to your anxiety.  My fiance purchased and picked up the ring February of this year and he proposed last Friday.  During that time we went away on vacation twice and countless dates. I was so sure each time it would happen and every time it didn’t I felt a flicker of disappointment.  They have their reasons for waiting (nervousness, waiting for the perfect moment, ect) and I realized (now) that they truly have no idea how much anxiety we feel when it’s drawn out so long.

The only thing that concerns me is your SO saying you weren’t the “one.” The only thing that kept me sane was my SO’s constant reassurance that there was no one else for him. Friends and family started to question if he had doubt s since he had the ring so long, but listen to your gut. I knew deep down my fiance was is in for the long haul, ring or no ring. Do you believe he wants to spend his life with you? If so then be patient and have faith that he will propose,  if not then there are other more important issues that need to be addressed. 

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