Post # 1
First, I am so glad that I have this forum to vent and seek advice! I think I am spending at least an hour a day on here reading posts! lol
So I have literally started taking on some peoples advice; Ive started reading Harry Potter again and am cleaning out every little cupboard and draw in the whole house! BF thinks Ive gone crazy!
I made engagement chicken last Saturday night and BF loved it! We had a really nice night and for once I stopped stressing about waiting! It was so crazy – he just looked at me and said look I know things arent progressing as fast as youd like but I promise there is a lot going on in the background that I cant wait to tell you about some day soon! It was like he was reading my mind and I didnt say boo to start it off!
So whenever we are both home at the moment Ive either got my head in a book or a cupboard (thats lasted a week for me now!). I just hope he doesnt think Im putting myself at arms reach on purpose.
Our timeline is that we want a June/July 2011 wedding (winter for us) but Im really starting to think that it isnt going to work out – I want an engagement party and to take my time planning. How can I nudge or imply that planning a nice wedding takes a lot of time?? (Also, he is most likely to be starting a new job in Feb which will see him away 2-3 nights a week; which will put a big dent in the time we have to plan).
All advice very much appreciated! 🙂
Post # 3
Do you have an idea of what your priorities will be? The feeling or ambiance or theme or colors you’d like? What about the size of the wedding? Small or intimate or with every. single. person. there. ? Have you thought about budget? or possible guest list? Maybe you’d like to start an inspiration board to find out what does appeal to you. BTW-if you finish with your cupboards ya wanna come over and work on mine, LOL 😉
Post # 4
Maybe you could print up a timeline that includes the engagement period, engagement party, time needed to book things (venue, flowers, photographer), the wedding date.
He might not realize all the things required to pull off a wedding, and maybe showing him the timeline will be helpful.
Post # 5
I would say if you really want the wedding that Jun 2011 time frame you can go ahead and quietly start doing some research but in general boys aren’t dumb. He knows how long it takes and from the sounds of his comment he is working on his end. Don’t pressure him. To make the timeline you want you need to have decisions made in your mind (like they said above.. what are your priorities… do you actually know what you want?) then once he pops the question it will all be a matter of finding vendors and telling them what you want. For me what took the longest is coming up with the wedding vision. I believe I could have gotten it all done pretty fast if I had known that. Let him be the man and do this at his pace (I am a much more femanist person than that sounds but sometimes we have to let the fellas feel like a man just as much as we need to feel like women) Proposing is one of the most memorable days in a man’s life. Let him do it his way. (My fiance was not given the chance to propose to his first wife and he told me how much it bothered him) So daydream away! But save it all in a little inspriation folder on your computer.