Post # 1
Out of curiosity, how many of you went with your FH to pick your engagement ring before you were proposed to? In all honesty, would you have preferred to be part of the process of choosing the engagement ring, or would you have rather been completely surprised?
Post # 3
i was completely surpised but told him i liked the solitaire look (with no side stones). he went on his own and picked it out. looking back, i think i would have liked to be part of the process. not sure if i woulda picked the same ring… but i love it nonetheless!
Post # 4
We looked at rings and at the time I thought i wanted a radiant or a cushion cut. As we were leaving the diamond district I saw the most sparkly round diamond in a window. I tried it on and realized I loved round on my finger so much more!
We never shopped after that, but once in awhile i pointed out rings in magazines of settings I thought I liked. Apparently I confused him with so many different options- he ended up proposing with a gorgeous round diamond solitaire, set tiffany style in a thin band. He said it was a temporary setting, for me to chose whatever I wanted….7 months later, I still have it as is. I tried on a bunch, but realized this classic style was exactly what I wanted:)
There are so many settings that I loved in magazines/on others but when I put them on my hand, it just didn’t do it for me. If you have the chance to go, I would definitely look on your own, or with him. Although, you will probably love anything you get, because of it’s meaning:)
Post # 5
We stopped in a few shops toghter but no offical shopping. I actually found the ring I loved in a magazine and he asked for the photo one day and he kept it in his wallet. He wanted me to have exactly what I dreamed of as I had to wear it forever.
He took the photo to a jeweler, had it made for me with a few little twists that made it even better – and wall-ah! I had a ring, and I was totally suprised! Eevn though I knew generally what the ring would look like.
Post # 6
I was totally suprised and preferred it that way. Besides, I trusted my FI’s taste in jewlery (and everything else for that matter! He’s even picked out our furniture all on his own) So I felt I didn’t need to take the joy of his true suprise away from him. It’s a big thing for a guy too. And sometimes we females over look that.
Post # 7
the best part of my engagement was the absolute surprise. everything about it was a shock and that, for me, was my favorite part. i dont have anything against those who go shopping for their ring beforehand, but for me it just sort of takes the romance out of it. ive always felt that when i found the right person, it didnt matter what the ring looked like. i also kind of feel like if the guy really knows you, he wont go wrong. (think sex and the city when aiden returns the gold ring for the one that is more carries style hehehe).
Post # 8
I didn’t participate at all…. but I did let it be known that I wanted platinum and something simple looking. He did an amazing job and I’m proud to say he did it all himself!
Post # 9
I am very particular, and he already knew that I dislike most of the ornate stuff you normally see in e-rings, and also wanted something unique. So we shopped together to pick out a setting. Along the way we decided we wanted a yellow diamond, which you can’t just order like a white one – they are all different. So we also shopped together to pick out the center stone. Then he had the ring made on his own; I had no idea when he even picked it up. So I can say that the actual moment of the proposal caught me completely by surprise – I was totally not expecting it. However I’m really glad that we shopped together – we both really love my ring, and there have been multiple posts about bees who have had theirs reset even before the wedding!
In general he does have great taste in jewelry, but we did have a little watch incident last Christmas – he bought me a really expensive Fendi watch and I just hated it. Really could not bring myself to wear it even to save his feelings. So he wasn’t going to take the chance of anything like that happening again!
And I agree with ginabean – not only did I see very little in magazines that I liked, but when I actually tried on the few that I had liked in pictures, I didn’t like them on. I don’t think I would ever have picked out the ring I ended up with from a photo alone.