The "etiquette" of meeting new friends.

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should I have asked my friend if we could be friends with her friends?
    No, that's ridiculous - you can talk to whoever you want : (166 votes)
    97 %
    Yes, it's only common courtesy - she knew them first : (5 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Whoah – that’s kind of psycho, lol! I hope you laughed it off and let her know she can’t be serious?

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @MrsPanda99:  Yeah, no. That’s crazy talk! Who on earth invites people to a get together and gets mad that you actually made friends with their friends?! 

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    What’s the point in having a get together with a group if your guests aren’t allowed to mingle? Might as well just have individual couples nights if you don’t want your friends associating. That’s crazy.

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @MrsPanda99:  ha! Yes, better left unsaid. What a weirdo control freak though! I am somewhat mortified for her.

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    That’s ridiculous on your friends (hosts) part! You can be friends with whoever you want and the more the merrier.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I agree that you can be friends with whoever you want and friendships don’t have owner. However I also think that it’d be nice and courteous to invite your original friend if you have the other ones over for dinner.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    When I taught preschool, I saw this a lot. “BUT MARIETTA WAS MY FRIEND FFFFIIIIRRRRSSSTTTT! NOT Josie’s friend!”

    Oh, you’re not 3 and in my preschool class? Then your friend is being seriously cray.

    You definitely don’t have to ask permission to make new friends!

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    @bebero:  agreed. That’s what we do and it’s a nice way to cement the friendship – all the various connections are present. 

    Post # 13
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I think that your friend is out of line as well.  But since your friend feels this way, you should make an effort to include your friend some of the time for the sake of your friendship.  That doesn’t mean every time though and hopefully she will not feel so insecure about it after a while.  I wouldn’t bring it up again, and if she does, then I would play the oblivious card personally.  Just tell her that you are so happy she hosted the get together and that you hit it off with her friends, had a great time, etc and then change the subject.  If she wants to be negative, let her simmer in it by herself.  That’s just me and maybe not the best tactic, haha.  My friends call this tactic bulldozing, when you just “bulldoze” over the negativity and act obliviously positive.

    Post # 14
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    You have got to be kidding me. No really, please tell me you’re joking. That is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard. I don’t understand what your friends problem is, but you can befriend whomever you want. If she didn’t want people to mingle and make new friends than why did she host a party and get everyone together in one area? So you’re telling me she expected anyone who hit it off with a new friend or couple to come ask her permission first if they could be friends???? She doesn’t own either one of you, you should all be able to befriend whomever you like. 

     

    I can’t believe this is even a real thing right now 😐 

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @MrsPanda99:  whaaaa? That’s one of the goofiest reactions I’ve ever heard of! O_o

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