Post # 1
My mother is divorced and no longer wears her engagement ring. I was just wondering, from those of you that got a family stone– how did you get that? Did a family member offer it to you, to your SO. Or did you ask them for it?
Post # 3
@AEMalmostK: My ring is my grandma’s. She offered it to me repeatedly before I got engaged but my mum always asked her to keep it.
When it became clear that I would be getting engaged (the whole family knew it was in the works for a year before it was official), and my grandma had lost a lot of weight, my brother took the ring from her to give to my fiance to give to me (with her full agreement).
The only thing we changed about it was having it sized and polished. I love it but sometimes it seems like it’s still her ring just on my finger.
Post # 4
We mutually decided it was something we wanted. The ring belonged to my grandmother and I’m the only grandchild, so it would eventually have gone to me anyway. I wanted something special and I couldn’t think of a better way. My mother completely agreed and was more than happy to give it to us.
Post # 5
My stone is from FI’s decrease grandmother. She left him the set when she passed, he was just a child at the time/
Post # 6
My stone is from my husband’s grandmother’s ring. We talked about it and he asked his mom if he could put it in another setting for me and she was thrilled. She said she knew the ring wasn’t my style but had never thought of resetting the diamond.
Post # 7
My ring is one my grandma inherited but never wore (she had her own set). She showed it to me when she was becoming ill, and checked to see that I liked it before she offered it to Mr.ND (she was a smart ol’ granny).
I’d already told him that I’d seen it and I loved it, so if she offered it, I’d be very, very happy with it. Then she had her chat with him and gave him the ring. 🙂
Post # 8
My mom is divorced and has a diamond from that engagement ring. She told me that she thought about giving it to me for my ring, but then she decided it would be bad luck and I should have my own rock.
Post # 9
My option wasn’t on the poll exactly (so I didn’t vote), but it would be “My relative offered the stone/ring to him/FI”. My mother passed down the center stone- an antique mine cut .98 diamond- to FI about 8 months before he proposed. I only knew all this after he actually did propose, but he picked out a setting at a local jeweler that showcases the stone beautifully. I’m grateful for the money we saved going this route, especially since I had no say in the ring price etc.
ETA: I just realized that option WAS in the poll, so I voted 🙂 Sorry!
Post # 10
@JoJo Bananas: My mom is divorced as well. She gave me her diamond in a new necklace she had made with a sweet note about something good coming out of something bad. It was super sweet. I like it as a necklace, but I agree, I don’t think I’d want it as my wedding ring.
Post # 11
My diamond came from my fiance’s divorced mother. His parents were married for a few months before he was conceived, but his dad didn’t want children and flipped out, so they got a divorce before he was even born. So the ring sat in a box for the entire duration of my fiance’s life outside the womb…. She never remarried.
I really think it’s just like getting a ring from a jewelry store… lots of diamonds are recycled/reset… and the diamond itself is thousands of years old! haha… none are exactly “new!” so it didnt bother me at all.
The diamond was reset into a new setting before it was given to me. It saved us boocoodles of money, and I’m grateful that she gave it to him. It was also a sign of her approval of our relationship, which he valued. 🙂
Post # 12
@anotheroneofmany: I’m the same as you! My SO’s divorced mother gave us her center stone for us to reset. We’re extremely close with his dad/stepmom and his mom and they wanted us to save the money and put it towards a house instead.
We were against it at first but when we started thinking, most diamonds are recycled and who knows where they came from and if they were/weren’t from a divorce-so we decided it was silly to worry about that when it could save us so much and we both really love that it’s a sign of their approval of us together also.
Post # 13
I didn’t get a family stone, but one was offered to him by his mother who was asking him for his grandmother. Did that just make sense? Haha, it would have been his grandmother’s stone and his mother asked my fiance if he’d want it.
Post # 14
After asking my Dad for permision to marry me, Dad told Mom, who gave him the stones. Then I guess they all sat down and had a discussing during which Dad said not to bother trying to pick anything out, just to let me do that.
Post # 15
SIL was given a family heirloom diamond–a tie tack their great-great grandfather (I think) brought over when he came from Russia–and she had it made into a ring. MIL also gave her some small rubies and diamonds from jewlery she (MIL) didn’t wear anymore to make an eternity band.
To keep things “Equal,” she offered DH the choice of jewels from some old pieces or loose stones she had. DH ended up choosing a ceylon sapphire that is just under a carat. She had actually ordered it from the Home Shopping Network in a set of two; she thought the stones looked high quality and were priced well. She totally called it because they were appraised about three times what she bought them for! She also gave DH some old gold to trade in when he had the ring made
Post # 16
My FI’s dad tragically passed away when he was 5 years old. My diamond is the diamond his dad gave his mom 30 years ago. FI’s mom said it’s something that his dad would have wanted me to have. I didn’t care what it looked like, I was so touched and still am to know that she wanted me to have it. The small stones that were on the sides of her ring will one day be used in his twin sisters’ rings!! My stone is currently being custom set. I love it so much, it’s beautiful but the story behind it makes it priceless!