Post # 1
I’m feeling a bit confused. I’ve picked my dress and ordered it already but when everyone asks me if I had “THE feeling” I don’t know what to say. Because I didn’t.
After watching so many wedding gown shows (Say Yes to the Dress, I Found the Dress, etc.) I see these girls brought to tears when they find their dress and they just KNOW that they found their dress.
I didn’t get that feeling. I waited for it and tried on many different dresses but ultimately, I thought the dress I picked looked nice, I liked the price and that was it.
Did you have THE feeling? Did I miss out on something? Should I have kept looking? What do you think?
Post # 3
@jungeunie: i didn’t get the feeling either.
i tried on a bunch of dresses and they all looked great, none i wanted.
then i found a dress that i thought i wanted and said i liked it.
when the bridal salon girl put a veil on my head, that was the moment i finally felt like a bride and got a tear in my eye. the tear was a tear of happiness that this was all real now.
i ended up going to another salon the next day and found a dress that more suited my vision for the wedding. i didn’t cry there or get overly emotional. i said to my mother and MOH that this was the dress.
and then i put my own clothes back on.
Post # 4
@jungeunie: Not once did I have that feeling. I got it a bit when I ordered my veil, and maybe even a little bit on my wedding day when I was (finally) in the whole look, but it was more just a feeling of ease and confidence, rather than like the “ZOMG THIS IS THE ONE I AM A BRIDE” that some brides will get, and yes, that you’ll see on tv on SYTTD. I don’t think it happens for everyone!
Post # 5
I didn’t have that feeling either! When I found my dress, I liked the way it looked on me and how much it cost, but I didn’t cry or feel like it was “the one.” My mom kept asking “Do you feel bridal?” “Is this everything you imagined it would feel like?” And I had to keep telling her no! I did get a little emotional when they put a veil on me and gave me a bouquet and had me practice walking. I could see myself in the mirror and imagine walking toward my FI. THAT got me to tear up and feel emotional, but NOT the dress. I don’t think you missed out on anything!!
Post # 7
@ajillity81 – that’s essentially what it was for me. I tried on the dress. My mom and I analyzed it. Thought it was the most flattering out of the dresses I tried on. Then I changed and put my clothes back on. It was such a calculated experience rather than an emotional one I was expecting.
@pengoala – i will look forward to seeing the whole thing come together. I don’t think I need THE feeling but with everyone asking me if I got it, just made me second guess my dress.
Thank you, ladies!
That makes me feel better about the whole thing.
Post # 8
@jungeunie: I didn’t get THE feeling either.
I was going to only try on ‘dress shapes’. I had assumed I would buy online.
I walked in for the appointment and there was this lace dress in the window. When I got my consultant I said – I think I like something like that (and pointed to it). She brought be two weird tulle/taffata monstrosities and I was not having it. I said again ‘I really like that style’. She brought me another dress that I tried on and hated…
I finally said ‘Can I just try that one one?’ She sighed and brought it to me. I put it on and it was the prefect fit, material, etc etc. My mom cried, my sister cried and my best friend couldn’t stop taking pictures. They even bring over this stupid bell that you ring when you found ‘the dress’. I felt retarded ringing it while they cheered.
I never felt anything different. To me it was a dress.
Post # 9
I never really had the feeling either… there were two dresses I liked, I was leaning toward the more expensive one but couldn’t decide if it was worth it.
So I brought my aunt and my grandmother, who liked a different dress on me that I thought showed too much cleavage (yes, my grandmother liked the dress that I thought showed too much cleavage. Haha). I was torn.
So I brought my dad to see them! He picked one, said it was the dress hands down no contest. And I’m a bit of a daddy’s girl, so seeing him smile that wide at the dress helped me make my decision! (It was the one I was leaning toward anyway, but I thought was too expensive… he didn’t care about the price).
I love my dress!
Post # 10
@jungeunie: I got a feeling, but it wasn’t THE feeling that girls talk about… for me, I fell in love with a dress online shortly after getting engaged. Almost 6 months later I started looking for dresses (looking for a dress similar to the one I fell in love with, which was out of my price range)… I couldn’t find anything that was even close. Finally I stumbled upon THE dress by accident (we pulled dresses along similar lines, and the sales associate put it on me), and when I tried it on, I loved it! However, it wasn’t until I took it off and saw the tag that I realized it was THE dress I had been looking for. Then I squealed with happiness and nearly cried because I was excited that the dress I loved online I also loved in person! and then I put money down on it that day, despite it being more than I wanted to pay for a dress, because it was THE dress, and it was the right thing to do. So I had a feeling of complete giddiness, but I didn’t cry while I was in the dress, and I didn’t say “OMG THIS IS MY DRESS!” or anything like that.
Post # 11
I didn’t feel anything other than “Phew, glad that is done! Now on to floral arrangements!”.
Post # 12
I never experienced the feeling until I put it on on my wedding day. I went to like, 6 bridal salons and I found a dress I loved at each one, so naturally I just chose the dress that was cheapest. Thankfully thats was pretty much everyone’s favorite anyways. I think it’s sad my hat shows like SYTTD make brides feel that they must have a certain feeling or vibe, when in reality it just doesn’t happen like that for us all. I had major dress regret because I, too felt that I should have that special feeling. So don’t sweat it! 🙂
Post # 13
My dress shopping experience was pretty unremarkable. I didnt even look through the racks myself. I basically just told my consultant what I was looking for and my mom, FMIL and FSIL (who is also my MOH) went to look in the racks also. I just kind of sat there in bewilderment of how many dresses were in the store. I sort of wish I had looked for myself, but I love my dress either way and it is perfect for me.
I think for me, the feeling was more about imagining my fiance seeing me for the first time when the doors open at the ceremony. I still didnt break down in hysterics but I did get a little misty eyed. When my mom came over to me and asked if this was the one I wanted and I could see that she was a little teared up too, I think thats when maybe one tear actually fell, but definitely not the over-the-top reaction you see on SYTTD.
Post # 14
@suburbian This made me lol!!
i’ve never had ‘the dress’ moment, not really suprising since i’ve also not been wedding dress shopping.
We’ve got a really small budget and i couldn’t chance falling in love with a dress that i couldn’t have. In the end, i bought 1 dress off ebay then won one which was much closer to my ‘ideal’ dress so i’m wearing that one. i’ve only recently been able to zip it up as i was dieting into it and i’m the only person who’s seen me in it in real life (although my mum and dad have seen the dress, just not me in it) so i can’t say we’ve had any tearful moments either…..tbh i’m kind of sensible and analytical about the whole process. Don’t get me wrong, I love my fi with all of my heart and i can’t wait too marry him but in fairness we have 2 kids and have been together forever, he really is my best friend but i kind of think that the ‘most important day of my life’ has already happened twice with the births of my children, i want to look beautiful and have a lovely day but the marriage and family part are the most important to me. crying over a dress isn’t really me although i can’t promise to stay dry eyed through the ceremony!
Post # 15
I didn’t get any feeling. I’m just not the kind of girl who would do that though, so I don’t think that’s a bad thing. If you love the way you look in your dress and can picture wearing it at your wedding and loving it, then it’s the one. No tears required!
Post # 16
I didn’t get a “this is the one!” feeling. I knew it was my dress when none of the others I tried could even come close to being as awesome lol. I also didn’t want to take it off.