- 5 years ago
Anyone else have a friend like this? I do. I love her. She’s fun and I can talk about anything with her. But yikes. YIKES. She’s always telling me so and so wants to be like her, is copying her, or is trying to steal her thunder. She treats everything like a competition.
For example, my friend is buying a house soon. A very inexpensive fixer upper. Now one of her coworkers is talking about buying a house –and it’s in much better shape and more expensive than the house my friend is buying. Her response to this ..”She is only wanting to buy a house because I am! She’s trying to take away my thunder. And of course it has to be more expensive ..she just has to have a nicer house.”
A couple of other more recent examples. Another coworker of hers is painting her living room the same color as my friend, and my friend claims she stole the color from her and that she’s pissed about it. Her sister chose May for her wedding, and my friend says it’s because that’s when she got married, and that she just wants to make that month about her. She has also accused her sister-in-law of only trying to get pregnant because she was.
I can’t make this crap up. I think she does this stuff because her life hasn’t turned out how she imagined (due to her poor choices) and she’s embarrassed by it/insecure about it. She got pregnant when she was 19, ended up marrying her asshole of a boyfriend because of it and is now in a miserable, loveless marriage, and barely getting by every month. I get that. I feel for her, I really do. But I wish she would try and do something about it, instead of letting her insecurities eat her alive.
I asked her if she would accuse me of copying her if I chose pink as a wedding color since she also chose pink when she got married (5 years ago, mind you). Her response ..”Well, since it’s you ..no, I wouldn’t mind.”