Post # 1
Alright bees I need to vent for just a few minutes, do you mind? 🙂
So I have this Aunt/Uncle and their daughter/my cousin and her family that are going to drive me insane. Examples:
- We are having our wedding in Grand Rapids, a city that has an airport and lots of things for people to do because 90% of our guest list will be flying in for the weekend from out of town. BUT G.R. is about a two hour drive for some members of my in-state family and my uncle has made it clear they are not happy about this and mentioned that some people are not as “well traveled” as my Fiance and I are. Well traveled? A two hour drive means we’re well traveled?!?! FI’s family members are driving 3 hours or more to attend and they couldn’t be happier! Are we really asking so much?
- In an effort to include this particular family in the wedding and let them know how much them attending means to me I have asked my Aunt, who is also my godmother, to do a reading. Instead of being honored she made it clear that the reading “better be easy to read or else she’s not doing it.”
- My cousin RSVP’d to the shower that her and her husband would attend, my Maid/Matron of Honor let her know that no other men were attending and my cousin was so confused and hurt by this. (They do EVERYTHING together) Seriously?! When do men ever attend showers unless it’s a coed shower and better yet, what is fun for a guy at a shower?
- Yesterday my brother was over at the Aunt and Uncle’s house doing yard work for them and overhead our Aunt complaining that we had registered for a Dyson vacuum. It is the only thing over $100 that we registered for and did so thinking it could be a possible group gift that people went in on. We don’t really expect anyone to get this but your registry is a wish list right? It’s not like we’re asking them to get us the damn thing!
- Today the cousins 10 year old daughter FB’d my Fiance and said “my mom and (step-dad) drank ALCOHOL at there wedding and there was no problem of doing that and why not kids come im sad:(“ – We are not having kids at our wedding for many reasons, one being our reception is going to be very alcohol friendly and I’d rather not have a bunch of kids around that. I deleted the comment and messaged my cousin asking her if I should talk to her daughter about the no kids thing so that way she wouldn’t be so upset. (And since she clearly did a poor job explaining the situation) She responded and didn’t even apologize for her daugher’s comment on FB (for all the world to see), just said yes would you? UGH!
I know that I need to just continue to ignore all of this and not let it get to me but FFS they are driving me up the wall! I just want to be like, “you don’t have to come if you don’t want to, you know that right?” LOL! I’m such a bad person! I know many of you bees have it so much worse than me, and thankfully it’s really only this particular branch on my family tree that is so being so frustrating so I shouldn’t get so riled up over it all. I just keep reminding myself that at least I’m marrying in to a wonderful family that doesn’t act like this over everything!
Ok thanks for letting me vent ladies! Back to the high road I go! 🙂
Post # 3
Oh god – you know the mom totally told the 10 year old kid to do that right?! My sister had no kids at her wedding. Our cousin brought her 2 daughters who were about 7 and 9 to the ceremony and then we had a babysitter for them for the reception. However, before the ceremony started, the 7 year old went up to the groom and started asking why they weren’t invited to the reception and how it was mean of him. NO 7 year old child knows to go up to the groom and say those things – it was soo obvious the mom had told her to go do it! He was NOT happy to say the least!
Post # 4
Ugghhh – good for you for remaining respectful and cordial!! I swear weddings can really bring out the crazy in family or friends, and you are handeling the situation wonderfully.
Also agree with the above poster; unfortunately, it appears your cousin used her daughter as means to lay a guilt trip, besides what is a 10 year old doing posting about alcohol anyway?
Post # 5
@MrsWBS: Oh I know this couldn’t have been all the girl, especially because there’s no way she could’ve spelled alcohol (and capitalize it like that) all on her own. It’s so frustrating. The best part is that in the beginning my cousin was all gung-ho about it being a romantic weekend away for her and her husband but as soon as we said no kids allowed suddenly she was all over me about not being able to bring her kids, forgetting she had originally told me that her ex has the kids that weekend anyway. This particular family just complain to complain, I know this and need to just stop letting them get under my skin!
Post # 6
I feel you, that would drive me crazy!
Post # 7
Also wanted to add I’m from Kalamazoo and Grand Rapids is nice!
Post # 8
As a language arts teacher, I have to point out that your aunt might genuinely be afraid you are going to pick a reading that will be too difficult and that will lead her to embarrass herself. Lots of people are nervous about reading aloud in front of others, even adults. If you want to help her with this, I would pick something pretty simple for her to read (a poem in modern English, or a quotation she already knows well), or else find her some help as she practices it (like, if it’s a Bible verse with old-fashioned words in it, offer to meet up with her to read it aloud together, or make sure another family member can help her with them).
Otherwise, they sound like they just enjoy complaining. Rest assured that there isn’t much you can do for people like that – if you fix one thing they are complaining about, they will find something else to complain about ASAP.
Post # 9
They sound like a whole lotta fun