The Gluten-Free Guest

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Ok, what should happen?
    Note it on the RSVP, regardless of whether it asks for dietary restrictions. : (36 votes)
    40 %
    Push food around on the plate at the wedding or attempt to make husband eat both ;). : (8 votes)
    9 %
    Contact the bride/groom personally. : (43 votes)
    48 %
    Something else I'm not thinking of? : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    753 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    As a fellow gluten free girl, when i have been in your position before i contacted the bride and asked her if there was going to be any gluten free or veggie option (usually that option doesnt have gluten). If she said no i would just eat something before i went or bring my own food (kind of strange but my health comes first). And of course if she says yes you are in the clear! 🙂 

    Post # 4
    9859 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @jo.lee:  I would note it on the RSVP and contact the bride/groom personally.  Most venues/caterers are senstitive to dietary restrictions these days.  They should be able to accomodate you.  I know all the caterers I’ve spoken with said no problem – jus tlet me know where s/he is sitting and they’ll get a special meal.

    Post # 5
    11379 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @jo.lee:  definitely tell the couple.  i would indicate it on your rsvp as a food allergy.  most venues now adays are very aware of this and will be happy to accommodate you. 

    both my mom and brother are celiac and my entire menu, including dessert, was gluten free.  they had the same food options (beef, chicken, veg) as the rest of the guests.  trust me, it’s not that difficult for them to accommodate you.  i had them make sauces (for example) using corn starch instead of flour.  creme brulee for dessert.  on oil-based dressing.

    the couple will be paying for a meal for you anyways, they would expect the venue to take care of you.

    Post # 6
    742 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We had a gluten-free quest attend our wedding, we had put a spot on our RSVP cards for anyone to list any kind of food allergy or dietary restrictions. she at the time didn’t think she was going to be able to attend but ended up being able to, she just informed me ahead of time that she was gluten-free. I’m so glad she did or I would of felt HORRIBLE! I informed our caterer who assured it was no issue at all, they deal with it all the time and she was served a special gluten-free meal 🙂

    Post # 7
    7997 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I would let the bride know. I think many venues are aware of gluten-free diets now, so should be able to accommodate you.

    Post # 8
    1762 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Anytime there is a medical issue, tell the bride.  I’d rather spend a little extra to have one special meal made and have a guest be comfortable and safe than have them miserable and hungry.


    Post # 10
    1951 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @jo.lee:  Personally, if I had a guest that had a legit (medical) reason for not being able to eat something, I’d absolutely want to know. I’d email the bride & groom and ask what the best way to handle this is. Caterers are becoming better and better about diet restrictions, so you should be able to work something out. 

    Post # 11
    3635 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would have wanted to know if someone couldn’t eat our food! 

    Post # 12
    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I am Ceoliac and every wedding I have attended has accommodated me very well, even if it has been fruit for desert it has never been an issue. Every invite that we had has always had a dietary requirements page to say major allergies such as peanut or gluten so that the bride and groom can inform the caterers. I would be surprised if a bride and groom didn’t include a space on the RSVP for stating a dietary requirement to me it is just etiquette. 

    As I am gluten free I understand to cater for the needs of my guests and I know a few people coming to my wedding who are also gluten free so they will be catered for. I would definitely want people to tell me if they had a nut allergy or dairy intolerant and do all I could to provide a meal for them. We have a page in the invites and a place on our website for guests to make us aware of any dietary requiremets that are legit or if they are vegetarian etc. 

    Post # 14
    2460 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    We just put something on the RSVP card about letting us know if you have any allergies. We have one celiac guest and another one who’s allergic to a bunch of things

    Post # 15
    490 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I know that some of my guests have dietary restrictions, so I asked my venue if they have gluten free and vegetarian dishes on hand. They won’t be written on the menu itself, but there will definitely be an option for those guests. More than likely, the venue will have something I would think. Gluten free has become very well known.


    Post # 16
    576 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We had 5 gluten free guests, all medical reasons, and it was a requirement when we were looking for a venue, but we didn’t put it on the RSVP card. Write it in!!! 

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