Etiquette Snob here… lol
Ok, going back to your OP, you said…
My concern and fear is that our wedding is going to turn into a freakin free for all with all these friends attending. Now we do have to have a minimum of 150 guests…if we dont meet the minimum of 150 guest then we’ll just be paying for extra plates that no one is eating which sucks but I wanted the bigger less cluttered room. Anyway…I’ve been seeing on facebook that friends of ours are planning on bringing same sex friends to the wedding as their plus one.
Issue # 1
The way around this is to issue Invites that are very specific on WHO YOU EXPECT to attend. So Names Only … No “and Guest”. Folks whom you wish to give a Plus One to you ask them for the addressing details for “their date”
You also use the RSVP / Reply Cards that have the phrase…
” ___ seats have been reserved in your honour”
And write in the number that corresponds to whom you sent the Invite to.
So… Mr Bob Black … it would say 1
Mr Bob Black & Guest… it would say 2
Mr Bob Black
Ms Sue Jones…. it would say 2 if sent to Bob’s Address (not the best Etiquette)
OR 1 on each Invite RSVP if you sent it to both their home addresses if they are not living together… (Best Etiquette)
Issue # 2
Guest numbers are determined by your Guest List… you said you haven’t sent out your Invites yet… have you organized your Guest List ? Broken it down into FAMILY – RELATIVES – MUST HAVES – WOULD BE NICES etc.
Prioritizing means that you’ll have better control of things… and IF necessary you can also have a B-List (just be aware that a B-List has its own set of protocols… you can search WBee and the ETIQUETTE BOARD for more info… or ask again, and I’ll give you the full run down)
Issue # 3
As noted by other Bees… once you write “And Guest”… it says you’ve left that decision up to the Guest to decide who will accompany them. Be that their regular GF, or some random person they just met… or even their Best Friend, Sister, or Mother… whomever they wish to spend the day / weekend with essentially.
Issue # 4
FaceBook… a sure fire way to mess up a Wedding if there ever was one… pure Drama / Trauma by the truck-load. Get off of FaceBook… infact don’t talk about your Wedding Plans on any social media website, and limit it in real life too… people cannot make poor decisions / demands of you if you don’t feed them the info to get them started down that road.
BEST ADVICE… If you want to talk Wedding Planning come to WBee… not nearly as harmful as doing so with those in 3D life.
Hope this helps,
PS… Overall, it sounds like you really aren’t there yet… and have some more thinking to do / work on the Guest List so you’ve thought thru all the variables before you. Just be aware that if you are looking to have a B-List, you need to get the first round of Invites in the mail by the 12 week mark.