Post # 1
So as many of you are… I’ve been all over researching wedding etiquette for invitations. I am already ignoring the calligraphy/handwritten invitations because I want to be practical (I’m doing wrap around labels to still be cute).
My next dilemma is to include or not include registry information (as an insert) along with the invitation. Now before you say they should be included in the shower invitations, know this: I am not having a shower.
To go around this, I was thinking of including an insert with the wedding website address, but most of the aunts/uncles/etc don’t even have emails much less know how to browse the internet to say “information is included on the website.”
My fiance keeps telling me if we don’t include them, people won’t get us anything. Sidenote: We are still both living at home and moving out for the first time ever after the wedding… so yeah we are starting from scratch!
I’ve asked friends here and there what they think or if they remember seeing registry cards on invites… and they seem to be okay with it.
What should I do????? HELP!
Post # 3
I’ve heard it’s best to just go by word of mouth. Personally I’ve had a few people ask if we were registered anywhere so I assume they will fill in anyone else who wants to know.
Post # 4
@futuremrsguerra: Uuuugh, I know exactly how you feel. I made a post about it a while back and I’m still unsure what to do.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
Word of mouth would be the best route to go besides including it on your wedding website. Including your wedding website on the invitation is fine.
Post # 6
Don’t include in with the invitation. Make it available on the website/facebook page/whatever, and tell your mom and bridesmaids.
Post # 7
I have never been offended when getting an invitation to a wedding that also included the registry info. But with that said, I am not doing it. I’m going to inlcude a link to the web site with the regitry info. And for those who don’t know how or don’t bother looking.. They’ll just give you cash! So you can go out and buy anything you didn’t get off your registry.
Post # 8
The most polite thing to do, is to not include any mention of gifts on the invitation.
It is hard for me to get an invite with registry information on it, and think anything other then they want me to buy them a gift.
People who want to know will ask. Presumably you are only inviting people with whom you have a personal relationship, and that you are in contact with regularly. Tell a few key people (bridal party, parents, the family gossip) and word will get out.
It is also 2013, it is very easy to find registry information on the internet, even if you don’t know where they are registered. There are a few key places, and sites that check a bunch of places.
Post # 9
I know most people think it’s a faux pas…but I have never come across anyone who was truly offended by receiving an insert like this.
I still find it a little strange that people say it’s rude because “it makes it look like gifts are expected” or that it’s gift grabby and you shouldn’t expect gifts…but at the same time everyone says they would “never show up without a gift” to a wedding. It seems like you’re supposed to act like you don’t expect any gifts but at the same time you know it’s rude to show up to a wedding without one! Makes me laugh.
I understand the point, that you should act like you are not expecting them, but I have yet to find anyone that was offended by the practice. Most people I know just use it to make finding the gifts easier.
I wouldn’t be offended, and haven’t been in the past (I have received numerous inserts like this)
Post # 10
I have never received a wedding invitation that DIDN’T include registry information. I didn’t even know it was a “no-no” to include info about the registry until after I got engaged and starting reading about invites. I would say it depends on where you live/your circle of friends. For me, I would say include it with the invite.