Post # 1
Alright ladies, let’s do some polling. How will you handle the alcohol? Or, how did you handle it and how did it go?
I am well aware of regional and traditional reasons for every combination under the sun, from dry to unlimited, so I’m not looking for any suggestions about what’s “better”. We are currently torn between preferring a cash bar in order to limit alcohol intake, probably doing beer/wine/signature drink, and the regional preference of completely open bar. It’s a hot-button issue to be sure!
Also, please explain your vote(s) below, as I’d love to hear the thought processes behind all of your decisions!
Post # 3
I chose other, simply because we go back and forth between having a cash bar, having 2 signature cocktails and handing out drink tickets to limit, or having alcohol in a back room for just the two of us and having our coordinator run and get us one when we want something. Since we can buy and bring in outside alcohol to the venue we’re very lucky in having tons of options! Regionally we could just go with a sweet tea and a few sodas and we’d be ok!
Post # 4
we’re doing an open bar because it came included with our venue/catering package. but, if it didn’t, we probably would have had a limited open bar with beer, wine, and a signature cocktail
Post # 5
We just had this discussion a couple of weeks a go and decided to go with an open bar. I just couldn’t come up with another option I was comfortable with! I have been to weddings with a cash bar though, and I don’t mind that. I think whatever you’re able to do is perfect!
Post # 6
We were in the beer/wine/signature drink camp. We had 3 signature drinks. The keg was dry by the end of the night, we had 12 bottles of wine left, and all the hard liquor was gone. Everybody LOVED our signature drinks–peach/raspberry martinis, blue passion fruit+vodka+sprite fizzie thingies, and gin and tonics. Pretty simple but it was one of those “something for everyone” for us.
Post # 7
My family is super conservative so I would get a lot of dirty looks if I had a cash bar. Plus there will be many children at the wedding reception, so I want to make sure there isn’t overly drunk guests. We are doing a lemonade/water/iced tea bar and having root beer floats. Hopefully these options encourage guests to drink non-alcoholic alternatives. Still debating to have wine on the tables…
Post # 8
We also have the open bar included in our catering package. Otherwise, it would be beer and wine on us but cash bar for anything else.
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
you’re right, there are tons of opinions on this! we did an open bar for cocktail hour, and for dinner we served wine. our venue also gave us the option of hosting a cocktail hour by consumption (per drink as opposed to a flat fee for each person), but i didn’t want to stress out during the cocktail hour wondering if people were drinking too much!
if we had had to cut back on the cocktail hour cost, i probably would have gone the beer/wine/signature cocktail route, or even just beer and wine.
we did close the bar for dinner, and just had wine. people could have requested a cocktail if they wanted, but i don’t think anyone did.
hope you find what’s best for you!
Post # 10
We’re doing a cash bar, from our area NH it’s totally normal to do cash bar. I’ve been ripped apart by other brides before saying it’s rude and awful to have a cash bar but in reality there is no way we could afford an open bar and don’t want to limit our guests to 1 or 2 different types of drinks.
Many of our guests are heavy drinkers and it would be a few extra thousand dollars (no joke) to provide an open bar. We will be providing a price break on a certain type of beer because my FH works for the company and we can get it rather cheaply.
Post # 11
We’re doing beer/wine only and MAYBE a sig drink or two. Our reason is entirely monetary. Cash bars are frowned upon in my group/family… basically everyone I know has had a full bar. But, we just can’t afford that. Since dry/cash bar wasn’t really an option beer/wine it is. Whether or not we have a signature drink might depend on how our budget is looking. Also, I’m not sure if we’re having a champagne toast ($$) and we’ll probably being going lower-end on our drinks. It sucks bc I’m a big wine drinker… but I don’t want to go into debt so people can get plastered on the good stuff haha.
Post # 12
My mom is very traditional when it comes to hosting parties and alcohol so it wasn’t really a question when it came to open bar. I’ve been to cash bar weddings and I’m fine with it as long as it is made known to me ahead of time because I don’t usually carry cash. Beer and wine option is A-OK by me also.
Post # 13
We’re doing an open bar because the fam loves to party (not in a gross “lets get wasted, throw up, and pass out” way but a fun way!) and would be grumpy if they had to pay lol, plus i’d just like to provide it for them.
Post # 14
Beer/wine/signature drink and a champagne toast came with our catering package. That’s pretty standard in Wisconsin. I don’t see open bar with liquor very often. We looked into open bar and it would have been $2000 more, so we just stuck with the package.
Post # 15
We didn’t want to have to spend major $$ to have a completely open bar. Our unlimited beer/wine and a passed cocktail as guests arrive is included in our catering price, so we figure that should appease our guests. Pretty simple for us, actually.
Post # 16
We are doing beer, wine, champagne at bar plus a champagne cocktail and some cute non-alcoholic drinks. Our main rationale was to avoid hard alochol because ti makes people stupid. And I don’t want people to get stupid at our wedding.