- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
Forgive me for posting so much in the ring board! I’m trying to figure out what I like and don’t to present options to Boyfriend or Best Friend as we prepare for engagement later next year. Boyfriend or Best Friend and I were talking last night about things we’re looking forward to in 2012 and I told him I was excited to take the next steps in our relationship — moving in, him meeting my parents, getting engaged, etc. He said he was looking forward to that too but not looking forward to buying the diamond. Boyfriend or Best Friend is self employed right now and doing well for the situation but doesn’t have a lot of extra…he’s talking about going back into the “real job world” but he’s struggling with this. I’ve told him a couple of times in the past that I don’t necessarily need a diamond but then we got to talking about why I would want one and I really am torn, as is he. He mainly thinks that he wants to get it for me (1) because its an investment unlike other stones and (2) because its expected that I get a diamond. I think he would feel truly inadequate if he got me a sapphire (even though I love sapphires) or a Moissy.
My parents would be highly skeptical if he doesn’t get me a diamond (my mom used to joke with me that no guy was worth it if they couldn’t get you 2 carats). I also could easily afford a diamond myself with my savings (he cringes every time I mention paying for part of it at least). My parents have already indicated that they expect me to have (and them to pay for) a black tie wedding and my mom has already talked about how she sees paying $5000+ for my wedding dress (depending on what looks good of course). I can’t imagine paying more for my dress than my engagement ring — since the dress I will wear once and the ring I will wear forever. Still, I don’t want a diamond of bad quality just to have a diamond if that’s all Boyfriend or Best Friend can afford and he won’t let me pay for part of it…
At the same time, we both struggle with the blood, conflict diamond thing and so if anything would want to get a Canadian or conflict free diamond.
As you can see we are highly torn about this, any advice or thoughts are truly welcome…