Post # 1
Hey, lovelies! I would love some more opinions on our future wedding date! Background:
- We are set for February of 2015, because I get a week off from work for ski week. Also, we live in Cali, and the weather will be beautiful (though we want to get married in a beach town, so indoor ceremony locale is a plus)
- We were leaning towards the 14th, but the venue we want will only be available at 4:30. Not a lot of time to set up, take pictures with natural lighting, ceremony would be at 6, not a lot of time for cocktail hour, etc. It just seemed like a logistical nightmare. The cost to rent all day on Saturday is close to $10,000. YIKES! That’s not happening! (The normal Saturday rental charge is a quarter of that)
- We COULD get married on a Sunday earlier at that same venue (5:30 or so) for less than half of that. We’d have 7 hours with flexible timing. However, it’s a Sunday (albeit a holiday weekend where most people would get the next Monday [President’s Day] off)
My family and his family are our most important guests. My mom is fine with Sunday, I believe FI’s mom would be fine with Sunday (it would even be better for FI’s grandma, as she observes the Sabbath). My aunts and uncles are mostly retired. My FI’s family isn’t that large. We have a lot of local (30-45 minute drive) guests.
What do you think? I know a lot of people on here don’t neccisarily approve of holiday weekend weddings, but does the above information make it seem like Sunday is the better choice for our wedding date?
Post # 3
@ohmariemarie: Did you consider that some people may not want to go because it is a 3 day weekend and they may want to get away that weekend.. or the fact that it is Valentines day? If you dont care go for it.
With those two factors + it being a Sunday night, you could be putting yourself in a position where people may be hesistant to say yes or feel a little resentful about your date choice. It is your day, you can pick whenever it is, just be prepared that the turn out will be affected.
Post # 4
@SparkleBee11: We’ve asked the people who matter most to us if a holiday weekend would work, and none of them were bothered. A nice wedding in a gorgeous beach town sounds like a nice getaway to me! People who want to do something else will inevitably do that. I just don’t know if Saturday is a more desirable day in a holiday weeked, or Sunday. Thanks for your input though!
Post # 5
@ohmariemarie: Wouldn’t the grandmother be a VIP? So if she can’t do Saturday and the other VIP’s are ok with Sunday, why would you still be considering any other day?
Post # 6
@ohmariemarie: If the most important guests are ok with it, then do the Sunday the 15th. It’s cheaper and it’s actually better for your closest family because of your grandmother.
I know a person married on a Sunday when the next day was a public holiday, and everyone important came.
Post # 7
@j_jaye: She can do Saturday after sundown. It would technically work, just not the best.
Post # 8
I think you should do Sunday! Why pay more for Saturday when it’s going to be such a huge mess?
Post # 9
I vote for the sunday wedding! Do what works for you and people will come if they can.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
$5000 = funds for honeymoon. I’d go with Sunday if I was in your position and start talking to family members about the possible date for wedding. (I have never done a save-the-date; it was all verbal. It gave me a better idea of who’s coming and who’s not)
If they really want to be there for you, they would attend!
However, if you are superstitious about choosing good dates, I would consult the lunar calendar.
Post # 11
I vote for a Sunday wedding 🙂
Two of my friends got married on a Sunday two years ago. Despite the fact that lots of us had work the next day, we went, we had fun and we celebrated with them. If it is the day that will work the best for you and your families, AND it will save you some/a lot of money, I don’t see an issue.
Post # 12
@ohmariemarie: I definitely think Sunday will be your absolute best! Honestly, I wouldn’t worry about the whole “holiday weekend” deal. Valentine’s Day isn’t a massive holiday like Memorial Day, Fourth of July, Christmas, etc. Echoing what you said early, I think people will love a weekend on the beach for Valentine’s Day with their loved one!
We were actually planning on having a Sunday wedding before we eloped and no one in our family had absolutely no issue with it whatsoever. You save so much money that you can use towards honeymoon or just general life costs!
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I think Sunday is fine. President’s Day really isn’t that much of a holiday- I know very few people who actually have the day off- it can be more of an issue if you do Memorial Day/Labor Day, where people like to have a long weekend.
Post # 14
I had to actually try and remeber what holiday weekend was happening then, because my first work holiday is Memorial Day. So, if you’re wedding was on a Sunday night out of town, I would take off if you were my very good friend but otherwise probably not. Be careful when planning to be true to yourself and the size wedding you want… for example, using easy numbers, if you KNOW you will be sending invites to 100 people,
do you only want 40 to show up (destination/ non-Saturday)
do you want a room full of people? like around 70? (Saturday convenient to most invited)
Also just want to add, most people’s preferences are, in this order, Saturday, Friday, Sunday. We decided not to do Saturday because we couldn’t find a venue available that we liked, but also saw big savings opportunity. So our wedding is on a Friday night. People traveling have to take off, but people in town don’t. And I have a big full day to get ready and do photos etc before ceremony starts. Good luck!
Post # 15
@Andthepupmakes3: Wow, I thought President’s Day was more widely recognized and people had the day off! I’m a teacher so I get the whole week off, and my FI has that day off this year, so I’m assuming it will be the same next year. Honestly, the people who matter most to me (family) are mostly retired. Hopefully some of our friends can attend though!
Post # 16
@wanderingwild: Cool! Thanks! Hopefully, many of our guests will have President’s Day off.