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I watched the season finale, but I don't really remember. How did the get married via post it note?
I don't care about the ring or the dress but I do think the certificate is necessary!
It was sweet that they did that but I was expecting some sort of vow exchange or something later!
McDreamy just wrote something on a post-it note about being married and they both signed it with no witnesses.
It's really the no witnesses things that makes me consider it not a real wedding. There is something about professing you commitment in front of others that makes it real for me.
@ Texas Meridith: You can watch it on Youtube, but it was basically just them and they wrote vows on Post-Its and "made it official"
@ Daisy Bride.. Yeah, i guess i wouldn't really care for the other stuff. But a certificate to make it "legal" would be a must!
You don't need witnesses in Texas.. I found that strange. We just raised our right hands and said the Oath :]
I'd consider it valid. Marriage, to me, is more about your commitment to one another and your own state of mind rather than what a piece of legal paper declares it to be. If two people are commited enough to call each other their husband/wife without the legal process, then I think in their minds that's more than good enough and as an outsider, you have to respect their desicion.
hmm.. well so far we just went to get our marriage license. all we did was see a county clerk and she took our info. our license had the judge's seal or stamp or whatever..lol.. i pay little attention to such details :p but we didn't have to take our own witnesses like our friends did a few years back.
It was really simple. They just put that they were commited to each other for life on a post it. They both signed it, and felt they were married. I'm not sure I'd be okay with it, but if they are, then they should go with it. It's really what the actual marriage is all about, and as a doctor, it's not likely that Meredith would change her professional name anyway.
In real life, though...I think I'd feel the same for a friend. For me? No.
hmm, tough call. MissGoodie has a point. It just depends how you want to look at it. Legally, no, I wouldn't consider it a marriage, but the commitment IS the important part. As far as witnesses go, I wasn't required to have a wittnes sign anything either. I also thought it kind of odd, but meh, made it easier for us because my MOH was only 16 :p
Oh, I forgot they they signed the post-it. That makes it a bit better but still...
I almost feel like it minimizes the struggle of those in same-sex relationships who aren't allowed to marry. Not that I think it was meant to do that in any way. Maybe it even brings attention to that struggle. I dunno, my brain isn't working today :)
oh, i think you have the witnesses and some sort of officiant sign the license when you offically get married. Are there spaces for them to sign?
@Daisy- I kinda agree. They have basically committed themselves to each other as life partners, which I don't think anyone would argue. But they aren't married.
That was a tough episode to watch..... Beautiful and sad all in one.
IMHO, I feel that if you say you are married then you are married. Just because there is a certificate and a possible name change involved doesn't make you any less "married" in the sense that you are commited to one another.
However, we also know that in our country and in some religions, there are certain measures that need to be taken for it to be recognized legally. Ie... eloping.
If only a post-it note were legally binding... I could have saved a ton of money. LOL
So...is marriage a legal binding agreement, a religious or spiritual joining, or a pledge for lifelong commitment? Since a marriage can be any combo of those things to different people...I think if they think marriage is just a pledge for lifelong commitment then the post it note counts. If its those other things...maybe not. Personally I don't need that piece of paper to commit to my SO forever...I'd say we're doing it for the legal perks and for the fact that "its what you do" for our families.
Plus its tv drama....you know they had to do something cutesy and not so run of the mill.
Eh... I just figure its tv. If someone told me that they'd done that I would probably be like "okayyyyy" and then drop it. I see it more of proclaiming commitment rather than getting married.
Eh, I don't know. I guess it depends on the couple?
When I saw that on Grey's, I thought, "Oh, this will not end well."
So far, so good.
I think the ceremony is a valid form of commitment, if the couple chooses it to be. BUT they are NOT legally married. I guess it's a pet peeve of mine where couples do things and declare they're married when it's not legally possible.
yes i would to consider it valid. No peice of paper can say how you feel or act. I 'am married to my FI the only thing we need to be legally is the paper. We call eachother husband and wife and we make dicisions like married couples do. He is my husband and I can't wait till he graduates college to be with him forever. The big wedding is just something nice we will have for us and our family to celbrate the legall marriage.
As sweet as the idea is behind the post-it wedding (a commitment to each other that doesn't need hoopla and celebration to make it real and important) I think that if you're going to proclaim yourselves husband and wife, you should make it legal if possible--they have no legal rights before the government as husband and wife as they are now. And while that's certainly not the most important thing about being married, when it comes to medical and legal decisions, they don't have a foot to stand on (and yes, they're doctors and at their hospital they would never be denied visiting rights, but if a decision needed to be made and they didn't have a living will, then they would be placed in a very difficult situation.)
I'll have to agree that its show of commitment, but I could not consider it a marriage. I sure as heck wouldn't be happy if the FI would have said something like, "Hey, let's write it down on a Post-It ok?" I also agree that there's all the legal stuff (insurance, medical, taxes, blah blha.. blha) that just make it easier when you're married...
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Yes, I am aware it's been about 5 months since it happened. However, I was hoping for some sort of do-over. Tell me, if you or someone you know had done this and called it a wedding, would you agree? Disagree? Wait for the Post-It Divorce? lol..